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  • 6 Bridal Shower Mistakes to Avoid

    6 Bridal Shower Mistakes to Avoid


    Congratulations! You have been bestowed with the honor that BFFs everywhere dream of: the maid of honor.  If this is something you’ve been looking forward to and anticipated since the sixth grade, then good for you! If it was unexpected, and you didn’t see it coming… then have fun pulling an all-nighter on how to throw a bridal shower!

    Here’s the reality of it; it is not easy and requires some work. But while we can’t tell you how to throw a bridal shower, we can tell you what to avoid.

    1. Not Creating a List

    If you’ve read any of the previous blogs, you’ll know that we have a slight obsession with list. Like any other event in life, a bridal shower needs to be planned out to the final detail. You’re throwing a party for another person and you’re reaching for perfection, so composing a to-do list is your #1 priority! You need to make a checklist that helps you in preparing for the event. You need to pick a date, a venue, a theme, and make sure you don’t invite anyone the bride wouldn’t want there. Here’s a short  list to help you get started.

    2. It’s YOUR Money, So Set a Budget

    If this is your first time planning a bridal shower, then expenses will be coming out of your pocket. Sit with the bride and get an idea of what she would like. If you feel like it’s out of your budget, you should not feel pressured to continue! You can kindly ask if you can have a co-host! That way, you won’t go home to an empty wallet at the end of the day.

    The key is not to overthink anything. You can still organize a memorable party without exceeding your budget limit. Prioritize what is necessary and ask fellow bridesmaids on where to buy decorations, food, or anything else without breaking the bank.

    The goal is to spend enough money to throw a beautiful party and still have some left over to buy a gift for the bride.

    3. Communication is Essential

    Even though we want to avoid telling the bride anything, it is vital that you keep communications open with her on a few topics! Anything you’re reluctant about needs to be consulted with guest of honor! A few matters include guest lists, food, and theme. Always ask the bride for the list of names for the guests 4-6 weeks before the party! If her relatives are going to be coming and she wants to keep the party modest, then you need to keep that in mind when setting up decorations!

    This is not a bachelorette party; it’s a bridal shower.

    Also, when getting together that guest list and before sending out those invitations, make sure everything is 100% correct. You don’t want a typo,  a wrong date, or anyone not knowing what the theme is.

    4. Going Solo is a No-No

    Hey, we get it, you want everything to be flawless. You want to bask in the glory and take all the praise. Listen, a bridal shower is a ton of work, and if someone offers to help, accept it. If you need help with arrangements, then, by all means, ask a friend for a hand!

    Something is always bound to fall between the cracks, and you can still be the boss but with a few helping hands.

    5. Granny is Going to be There, So Keep the Fun PG

    Again, this is not the bachelorette party, so save the dildos for Vegas.

    Refer back to the guest list: will there be relatives present? Are the activities appropriate? Will they make anyone uncomfortable? Co-workers or friends might show up with their kids, so let’s not plan anything that might raise any questions.

    6. Not Thinking of Your Guests

    You get a gift bag, YOU get a gift bag, EVERYBODY GETS A GIFT BAG!

    Also, a thank you card. Want to be the MOH that ranks above all the other maid of honors? Arrange gift bags for all your guests.

    You can even customize them by placing each individual’s name on the bag, but that’s optional. Our advice to you when putting a gift back together: keep everything mini. Mini chocolates, mini lotion, mini alcohol bottles, and gift cards for the bride’s closest relatives (mom, sister, grandma).  

    Being chosen to prep a party for the bride is a great honor. When the day’s over, grab whatever champagne is left and go home. God knows you deserve a break. Good luck and happy planning!

  • These Three Men Changed Their Name After Getting Married and Here’s Why

    These Three Men Changed Their Name After Getting Married and Here’s Why

    You probably read that title and thought “wait, what?” I get it; it’s a weird and possibly taboo topic.

    Are you saying there are men out there who willingly change their surname to their wife’s?

    And the answer is yes, my friends, there is. It is sporadic to find, and I’m not going to lie, it took me forever to find three men willing to talk about their experiences, but in the end, I came out victorious. More and more women today are choosing to keep their last name or deciding to merge last names after marriage. It’s no wonder considering the role of female workers in society rising, political movements, lack of women’s rights brought to light, and same-sex marriage being legalized in 2015.

    The following interviewees have changed their last names to their wife’s and here’s why they did it.

    Omar Brenly

    What thoughts went through your head when you decided to take your wife’s name?

    Surprisingly, not much *laughs*. We had been together for over five years and engaged for two, so we knew who was changing what after the wedding. My father’s from Afghanistan and my mother is American, and she took my father’s last name. I’ve never really been one for tradition and work-wise, my wife is the breadwinner of the family so when she told me she was keeping her maiden name, I knew I wanted to take her name as well.

    How did your family react to the news of you taking your wife’s name?

    My father is a very old fashioned man, so when I first told him, he thought I was joking. He laughed it off and said to me that real men don’t make decisions like these. In his mind, I was throwing away my family name, but I didn’t see it that way.  My mother, who’s considerably more open-minded since she grew up in the states did her best to convince him that times have changed, but no luck. I’m still on good terms with him, but if someone were to bring up the subject, God help us all.

    Do you ever have second thoughts about changing your name back?

    I do not. It’s not something i even think about really. It’s a small sacrifice I was willing to make for my wife and what’s done is done.

     

    Philip Gibbons

    Did you face any criticism at the workplace because you took your wife’s name?

    You know, it’s hard not to be criticized no matter where you go. The idea that a man can take his wife’s name isn’t even recognizable by society yet. Many of my co-workers thought I was in a same-sex marriage, but when I cleared things up, some jaws dropped. They were shocked, to say the least. To others, it’s a very political topic, when it’s just an intimate decision you make that should concern you and your partner.

    What prompted you to take your wife’s name?

    My wife is an only child to Irish immigrants. We were discussing merging names or possibly hyphenation when it dawned on her that she didn’t want to lose her family name. At first, we didn’t dig into it because it just seemed like too much work. When we found out we were pregnant; we decided its best to stick to one family name, which was hers.

    Do you ever miss going by your birth given name?

    It took some getting used to in the beginning, especially the paperwork process and practicing a new signature at work. Now and then, I get nostalgic, but I never regret the decision. I have two children now, who definitely look more like their mother than me *laughs*, so I feel like I made the right choice.

    Rogelio Delgado

    How did you come to take your wife’s last name?

    We were on our honeymoon, and we arrived at the hotel ready to check in. The woman behind the desk addressed me as Mr. Perez and Dr. Delgado, who is my wife. Even before marriage, I  knew my wife’s work status would forever outshine me, and it always made me proud to introduce my wife to people as a doctor. You instantly feel the atmosphere shift as soon as a doctor walks in the room, right, and I always told her how envious I was. I knew my wife would not change her name and I had no problem with that considering her name meant a lot in her field. I took her name because I was immensely proud to be married to her.

    What has been the biggest challenge for you down this road?

    Paperwork, paperwork, and more paperwork! I had to visit the DMV, the SS office, the bank, and everywhere that needed a name change. People would not believe that a man was taking his wife’s name. I saw in people’s eyes how belittling I seemed in front of them. No matter where I went, people were struck with confusion. My family, friends, and peers were sure that it was my wife’s choice and not the other way around. I felt explaining myself was absolutely useless.

    How did your wife react when you told her?

    She tried to talk me out of it. She insisted we both keep our surnames and not worry about changing them at all. She was sure I was going to go through hell and round-the-clock interrogation from all our friends and family. She was right! But if I could go back and do it all over again, I would. Some people are just worth it.

  • Game of Thrones Character Development over the past 8 Seasons

    Game of Thrones Character Development over the past 8 Seasons

    Here at HitchSwitch, we know the significant value behind a name. Whether it’s a name given to us at birth, a name we’ve chosen for ourself, or a name we’ve taken from our partner, we know a name is a whole identity. It is how people come to know us, to identify us, and to remember us. The value a name holds goes beyond the characters it consists of. A great example of the importance of name can be found in HBO’s Game of Thrones, where a character’s House name says everything about them.

    According to HBO, the most epic fantasy show ever created has gathered a staggering 17.4 million viewers on the night of its premiere, breaking any previous records it held! If you’ve seen GoT news, memes, or spoilers all over your feed and have yet to watch the Emmy award-winning show, then you seriously need to get on it now.

    The show’s power to trigger all emotions has left its audience invested and engaged. Since the first season aired in 2011, people from all over the world watched as their favorite characters started as weak and powerless,  to overcoming their vulnerability. Some of our favorites made it through and rose back into power, and others got their genitals cut off and almost died.

    Thanks to George R.R Martin’s unwavering will to kill off any character I’ve loved, I have spent the majority of the first seven seasons with a box of tissues glued to my lap. But I will tell you this; it is immensely satisfying watching the characters of the show go from being in a dark and vulnerable place to reclaiming what is rightfully theirs and demanding their right to power.

    Here’s how our favorite characters evolved over the past eight seasons.

    House Stark:

    Names play an essential role in this show. Characters will always present themselves with the title of their House. There’s no doubt that names affect how others will perceive them. The sigil of the Starks is a direwolf on a white field (snow), a fierce creature that emerges from the depths of the cold, and is forever loyal to their owners. The Starks are also obnoxiously loyal, but their loyalty is what got most of them killed. The words of House Stark are some of the most prominent throughout eight seasons: Winter is Coming.

    Jon Snow: So beautiful. So innocent. His whole life, Jon has been playing the bastard and downplayed by everyone. After joining the Night’s Watch, becoming a spy beyond the wall, dying and coming back to life, Jon is ready to head back home to Winterfell in a scrumptious man bun and few battle scars where he’s named King in the North. After befriending Dany, we have yet to see what’s in store for the rightful heir to the Iron Throne.

    Sansa Stark: Sansa starts out a foolish young girl, who was in love with the queen’s son. After witnessing her father’s execution at the hand of her future husband, her character undergoes a drastic change. Sansa goes through hell as she was held prisoner at King’s Landing, but eventually escapes. Her shift in wardrobe hints that she’s not that foolish little girl anymore, but a leader ready to take back her power and kill for revenge.

    Arya Stark: By far, Arya Stark has undergone the most changes. She was one of the youngest characters to debut on GoT, and she has survived on her own after her father’s execution. She disguises herself as a boy and befriends The Faceless Man. She is taught sword fighting, and how to be a trained assassin. In fact, she avenges her family by killing Walder Frey for what happened at The Red Wedding. We see her in season 8 all grown up, her weapons on her side, and ready to kick some ass.

    House Targaryen:

    When someone says Targaryen, you automatically think white hair and the Mother of Dragons. The sigil of this House is a three-headed dragon on a black field. There’s a long history behind the Targaryen rule, which yes, ended mostly in fire. After their nation of Valyria was destroyed, Aegon Targaryen and his sisters flew to Westeros on three dragons and destroyed anyone and anything that stood in their way. Their House words are “Fire and Blood,” so maybe it’s best to give them what they want…

    Daenerys Targaryen: The definition of “started from the bottom; now we’re here.” Dany started out meek and submissive, and unable to get her way. After marrying a Dothraki, she found her inner power and took control after her Khal Drogo died. With three baby dragons behind her, Dany begins preparation to take back the Iron Throne. Little by little, she builds an army and makes a name for herself. We see her in the eight seasons with Jon Snow, planning to fight the Night King.

    House Lannister:

    Throughout the seasons, you hear the common phrase “A Lannister always pays their debts,” but did you know their House words are “Hear me Roar”? Talk about obnoxious. We learn that a Lannister always does pay their debts, and not always in money. Their sigil is a golden rampant lion on a red field, to show off their royalty, wealth, and strength. Don’t forget that the lion is the king of the jungle. If you’re going to pick an animal to represent your strength and power, it might as well be that.

    Tyrion Lannister: Tyrion’s character was immediately lovable from the very beginning. He was the ugly duckling of the family, but his sharp wits knew no bounds. He stood for what was right, and his kind nature made him tolerable to others. After being falsely accused of Joffrey’s murder, he fled to Essos where he’d later become Hand of the Queen to Daenerys Targaryen. At the beginning of the show, we see that he was desperately trying to uphold the Lannister name, but feeling unwanted, he paved his own path to power.

    Jaime Lannister: If you were to tell me that this guy was going to be my absolute favorite character by the end of the show, I would not have believed you. Jaime was extremely loyal to Cersei, and his love for her is what made him a prisoner of Robb Stark. After getting his right hand cut off, Jaime barely escaped with his life and traveled back to King’s Landing. With some help, he was taught to sword fight with one hand. Due to the journey he experienced on the road back home, Jaime’s perspective has changed, and he’s not the same person we loathed in season one.

    As the characters developed, they’ve grown to realize the meaning of honor, integrity, and the power a name can hold. With the last season in play, it’s challenging to foreshadow what will happen. After all, this is a show that killed off its main character in season one (Ned Stark). Regardless, it’s best to wait and see, and pray your favorites don’t get killed off.

  • 5 Options To Consider When Changing Your Name

    5 Options To Consider When Changing Your Name

    Of all the things to think about when planning a wedding, a name change might be at the top of your list. In today’s modern world, it is more socially acceptable to change your name to whatever you want. When it comes to the final decision regarding changing your name, here are a few options to consider.

    Stick With The Name Your Mama Gave Ya

    You decide to stick with the name given to you at birth because of obvious reasons. Every person has an idea as to why they keep their name as is and there’s nothing wrong with that. By keeping your maiden name, you’ll save yourself the trouble of filling out countless applications and visits to the happiest place on earth: the DMV. It’s widely known that in many parts of the world, a woman taking her husband’s last name is not only mandatory but what makes a marriage last. With the numbers of women seeking a part in the work field quickly on the rise, the percentage of women keeping their maiden name for professional reasons is a prominent one.

    Pragya Agarwal, a researcher the University of Liverpool and business owner of Hedge and Hog Prints states that her name is a “huge part” of her identity and being responsible for several academic publications, “it did not make sense to change it.” It also makes that women will keep their maiden name to be credited for the professional work they present in their field.

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    Take Your Spouse’s Name

    The most common-traditional route. Several women in today’s world choose to take their spouse’s last name after marriage. The procedure is a long one but can be fairly explained here.

    First, the couple needs to obtain an official copy of their marriage certificate. Depending on which state you reside in, you’ll end up paying a different fee for a copy (you will probably need more than one). You will then need to apply for a new SSN (completely free) along with your ID and marriage certificate. You can either choose to mail in your form or head over to the nearest Social Security office.

    Next up is your driver license and passport. Again, depending on where you live, fees will vary. Be sure to fill out the appropriate forms for a new passport after the name change. If you are a frequent traveler, you don’t want your ID stating a different name than your passport. That won’t look too good when you’re trying to board that plane to Bora Bora for your honeymoon.

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    Click here if you need to update your passport photo from the comfort of your home.

    Hyphenate Your Names

    If you want to hyphenate your name-taking both maiden names and combining them to make two family names- you will still have to go through the same name change process and fill out the same applications. Read more about the process here.

    Some people choose to hyphenate their names as soon as they get married, and some like Nicole Bradley-Bernard decided to change it after six years of marriage. In her article, she states that her long-awaited decision came after the realization of self-importance. She goes on to say how one’s name shouldn’t be tossed out just because of outdated traditions.

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    By choosing to have your husband’s name does not mean you need to give up yours. It’s always been expected of women to give up their identity after marriage, and alas, women are stepping up and holding on to their original status. Hyphenating your last names is a great way to keep your name and take your husband’s name. It’s also a great example of unity within a family once couples decide to bring children in the picture.

    Change Name Legally, But Keep It Professional

    Hannah Montana said it best: you get the best of both worlds.

    This is the route I took because my career depends on my name. I’ll admit, it has not been easy because it causes some confusion among my peers and friends. It’s like having two identities and of course, people constantly asking why I don’t just use my husband’s last name.

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    Imagine working your butt off for the work you do, just to put it under a different name that isn’t even you! I mean, that’s how I saw it, at least. Like I said above, more women are becoming part of the work field, and most nowadays are keeping their maiden name because it is their professional name. If this the route you want to pursue, be sure to consider all the pros and cons of the decision.

    Create A Hybrid Last Name

    Yes, this is an actual thing. If all the above options aren’t to your liking, you can make up your last name. I mean, seriously, how fun would that be? If I knew about this option, I would’ve changed my last name to Stark nine years ago. With the eighth season of Game of Thrones coming out, it becomes more tempting as the days go by…

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    Winter is officially here, you guys. If Jon Snow doesn’t end up on the throne, my life will officially have no meaning.

    For a list of people who completely changed their last name and didn’t have a single regret, click here.

    Make sure to let your work of employment, government agencies, your bank, and social media know of your name change after changing it.

  • The Ultimate List of of the Most Expensive Wedding Dresses

    The Ultimate List of of the Most Expensive Wedding Dresses

    Ladies, let’s admit it, the best thing about being a bride is heading to every David’s Bridal in your town and trying on dresses waaaaay out of your budget. I mean, it’s all fun in the end, and it’s an experience some of us only experience once in a lifetime.

    So how much did you end up paying for that white gown of glory? A grand? Two? Hell, maybe it exceeded the threshold of ten grand?

    Maybe you did what I did and googled “David Bridal Discount Dresses” and bought a Vera Wang wedding dress that cost $300 instead of three thousand. Hey, I was looking to save as much as I could and had to be clever about my spending.

    Side note: I looked auh-mazing.

    The list of expensive wedding dresses is a tough one, but I eventually found a few jaw-dropping ones that will have you craving another wedding!

    Just kidding, at this point, I just crave some sleep.  

    1. Angela Yueng

    The first time I’ve heard of this Chinese actress/singer/model (sheesh), it was about how she’s tied the knot with her boyfriend and her $31 million wedding. She wore a custom made Dior gown that took nearly five months to create! According to Forbes, the dress was  “Crafted out of 115 feet of ivory satin organza and 165 feet of tulle, the intricate piece features a 10-foot-long train, and nearly a hundred hand-cut rose bouquets made of Chantilly Lace”.

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    Now, the price of the dress was actually never disclosed, which leaves one to wonder: Out of that $31 million, how much did that dress really cost?

    These are the things that keep me up at night.

    2. Kate Middleton

    You better believe a royal wedding is going to make this list. I am utterly in love with Kate Middleton. Her incredible sense of style, her modest looks, her role in several charities, and obviously, that smile. When she wore an Alexander Mcqueen on her wedding, I was in tears. The lace of the dress was crafted at the Royal School of Needlework. I know that sounds fake, but it’s the UK,  so I promise it’s a real thing.

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    The dress was long sleeve, hand embroidered with flowers on both the bodice and hips and Kate’s train was over eight feet long. The dress reportedly hit a six-figure price and cost $434,000.

    3. Mariah Carey

    ‘Cause when you love someone, you just don’t treat them bad, you messed up all we had, probably thinking I’m coming back.

    See more: Mariah Carey Burns Wedding Dress

    Those are the lyrics of Mariah Carey’s “I Don’t,” where in her music video, she burned her $335,000 Valentino wedding dress to ashes. The singer was engaged to billionaire James Packer at the time, but the two broke off their engagement before we got to see Mimi flaunt her stuff in Bora Bora (planned wedding destination).  You see, ladies, we can all learn a little something here. Next time your man pisses you off…you know what to do.

    4. Diana Spencer

    Really? Another royal?

    Yes, you guys, these guys are flushed with cash, so they’re at the top of most lists.

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    Lady Diana Spencer wed Prince Charles in 1981 and wore a dress so beautiful that it is still talked about till this day. The dress was embroidered with ivory silk taffeta and antique lace, with a 25-foot train and valued at $115,000. Elizabeth Manuel and her husband created it at the time. Lady Diana herself worked with the designers to ensure that the dress was kept modest and up to expectations.

    5. Victoria Adams

    Formerly known as Victoria Beckham, a world renowned style icon. Now, if you want a reminder of what the nineties were like, then Victoria and David Beckham’s wedding is the perfect visual. The Spice Girl and former England football captain wed in 1999 in a castle in Clonsilla. That’s what happens when you have friends in high places, people.

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    And you’re a famous football player with a successful artist for a partner.

    Regarding Victoria’s dress, she wore a Vera Wang with a 20-foot train that was estimated to have cost $100,000.

    6. Kleinfeld

    You might have heard or seen the name Kleinfeld in movies, magazines, and tv shows including the popular TLC show “Say Yes to the Dress.”

    Fun fact: Kleinfeld wasn’t always a bridal retailer. It started as a fur salon in 1941, until the Kleinfeld realized there was a demand for wedding dresses in NYC. Kleinfeld is known for accommodating to every bride’s request and spending several hours putting in work (and love) into every dress.

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    Although their prices vary, the most expensive dress that left Kleinfeld’s doors was custom made Pnina Tornai and cost the bride $80,000.

  • Must-Have Furniture for Newlyweds That Most Couples Miss

    Must-Have Furniture for Newlyweds That Most Couples Miss

    Every week, my husband and I reserve two days for movie night, but since he was out of town, I spent my movie night at a girlfriend’s house. Whoever hasn’t watched The Revenant needs to get on that right now. I’m dead serious, you guys, I’m basically a survival expert now..

    Anywho, as I was watching Leo eat raw buffalo meat (spoiler alert), I noticed something I usually wouldn’t have noticed before. My friend- a newlywed by the way- did not own a coffee table. You see, if it were any other day, I wouldn’t have cared because I’m too busy other days to care. At that moment, I didn’t know where to place my beer or my pint of Ben and Jerry’s (we go hard). When I asked her about it, she claimed she was “getting to it” but Kayla, I’ve known you all my life.

    You’re not getting to it.

    For all my newly married couples out there, don’t be a Kayla and don’t slack on necessary furniture. Here are a few furniture pieces every couple should have in their home.

    1. Coffee Table

    Yes, we need to talk about it some more because a coffee table is the center of your living room. Without it, it’s just a giant space that will haunt you in your sleep. Imagine Superman without the giant S on his chest…that’s how your sofa feels without a table. It’s where guests will place their cups (and beers!), where you’ll dump your stack of magazines, the place where your partner will put up their feet at the end of a long day, and so much more!

    It’s a great addition to any home and thanks to our friend the internet; you can choose amongst thousands of different styles. You can want something as extravagant as this

    Brianna Coffee Table- $189.99

    or something simple like this

    Spurgeon Modern Simplistic Criss-Crossed Coffee Table- $44.99

    2. Extra Chairs or Beanbags

    It’s bound to happen. It will be your turn to host Thanksgiving and someone will almost always bring along a friend, a co-worker, or their mom. You never really think about it, but sometimes things don’t go as planned.

    If your living space is too tight, you always want to have a few fold-up chairs stored somewhere. You can’t have half your guests on a couch, and the rest sitting on the floor. If you pull out a few chairs (beanbags for bonus points), it will only show how considerate and caring you are towards the people that enter your home.

    3. Bookshelves (or any  shelves in general)

    What can I say about shelves that haven’t already been said? I always felt like they were doing the work for me. Shelves are incredibly versatile furniture, are easy to work with, and can be set up anywhere in the house. You could install them in the hallway, the living room, the kitchen, the bedroom, and the bathroom. Just name any room in the house, and it’ll probably be better off with shelves.

    Why? Because shelves give the room an orderly feel. You can place books, cases, frames, and even treasured antiques for a complete look. They’re inexpensive and you can find thousands of DIY ideas on Pinterest. If you’re lazy like me and somehow always hurt yourself while screwing a nail into a wooden board, then you’re probably better off heading to your nearest IKEA.

    4. Artwork

    The great thing about art is that everyone perceives it differently. Thirty people could be looking at the same painting and each one would have a different story to tell. So why do we need art in our homes?

    For one, art is a form of expression. People can walk in and see a painting of a field of sunflowers and consider you to be a light and joyous person. It gives your guest a bit of intel about the kind of person you are. Any art can breathe life into a room and spark conversation amongst you and your guests. If you’re a painter yourself, hang a piece of your work at the entrance or living room.

    If you’re a lover of art, but are on a budget, Minted is a great website that offers incredible paintings and supports independent artists.

    5. A New Mattress

    Let’s be honest here.

    A new mattress should have been on top of the list. Your old mattress has seen better days, and your partner’s probably isn’t better off. Purchasing a new bed is not only the adult thing to do, but it’s also undoubtedly the best thing to do. When you’re a newly married couple, you want to bring comfort into your new home, and mattresses are the epitome of comfort!

    Mattresses can be expensive, but with the power of the internet, I found the perfect store. It caters to all your mattress needs at an affordable price.

    6. Plants

    Not sure if this one counts as furniture, but I’m going to add it to the list, anyway. Everyone on the planet should have planets in their home! They are literal symbols of life and wellness! They purify the air, they’re refreshing, and they make your house feel like a home.

    That last one is a big one, but I personally believe that by bringing life into a house, it will feel more like a home. You can find potted plants at your local grocery store and even your 99 cent store. Your choices are endless!

    Happy shopping!

  • The Importance of Sharing a Surname with Your Kids: What to Consider

    The Importance of Sharing a Surname with Your Kids: What to Consider

    The Importance of Sharing a Surname with Your Kids: What to Consider

    In today’s evolving landscape, many people are thoughtfully deciding to keep their maiden name after marriage. The reasons are diverse and deeply personal, often stemming from a desire to maintain independence, preserve a professional identity, or simply avoid the societal pressure to change. Some feel a strong connection to their birth name, seeing it as a vital part of their identity that they wish to preserve.

    But as families grow and children enter the picture, a new question often arises: Will your children carry your last name, your partner’s, or a combination of both? While the decision about surnames is entirely personal, it’s widely recognized that having a different last name from your children can present unique considerations and, at times, unexpected challenges.

    It’s widely known that having a different surname from your children will produce a few problems. The most prominent one (which is actually not that big of a problem) would always be correcting people’s assumptions about you. Most people will assume you’re divorced, considering that your child has a different name than yours.

    Everyday Perceptions and Identity

    Perhaps the most common experience is the frequent need to clarify assumptions. When your child has a different surname, people may often presume you are divorced or not the biological parent. While this isn’t a “major problem” in the grand scheme, consistently correcting these assumptions can become tiring over time. As children grow older, they become more observant. They might notice that their surname doesn’t match yours, leading to questions about family identity. While many parents are comfortable addressing these inquiries, it’s a conversation worth being prepared for.

    Considerations for Travel and Official Situations

    Beyond daily interactions, more significant issues can arise, particularly when traveling internationally or dealing with official documentation. Consider the experience of Hannah Marshall, who was stopped by border control because her daughter did not share her last name. She was suspected of attempting to abduct the child. This highlights a serious concern: authorities are highly vigilant about child trafficking and abduction.

    Due to these safeguards, if you’re traveling with children who have a different surname from yours, you may be asked to provide additional legal documents. This could include:

    • The child’s birth certificate (listing both parents).
    • A consent letter from the other parent (if they are not traveling with you).
    • Your marriage certificate or divorce decree, depending on the situation.

    UK Home Office clarified this procedure is in place to safeguard children, but it can lead to significant delays and stress if you’re unprepared.

    Administrative Hurdles: School, Medical, and Legal Forms

    The surname difference can also introduce minor administrative complexities in various aspects of your daily life:

    • School Applications and Emergency Contacts: When enrolling children in school or filling out emergency contact forms, a name discrepancy might prompt extra questions or require additional proof of your parental relationship. In an emergency, schools are more likely to verify identity with a matching surname, potentially causing slight delays.
    • Doctor’s Visits and Medical Consent: At a doctor’s office, you might face additional scrutiny when providing medical consent or accessing records if your last name doesn’t match your child’s. Having readily available identification that links you to your child (like a birth certificate) is crucial.
    • Parental Consent for Minors: For situations requiring parental permission, such as a teenager applying for a learner’s permit at the DMV or seeking job employment, you may need to provide robust documentation to prove your legal relationship. While these issues are generally resolvable, they can become roadblocks without proper preparation.

    These scenarios, while often manageable, underscore the importance of understanding potential complications and ensuring you have all necessary supporting documentation readily available.

    Making Your Informed Decision

    Ultimately, the choice of surname for both parents and children is a deeply personal one. There’s no universal “right” answer, and families are increasingly embracing diverse naming conventions. However, being aware of the potential practical implications—from clarifying assumptions to navigating border control—can help you make an informed decision that works best for your family.

    Whatever path you choose, remember that HitchSwitch is here to simplify your name change needs. Whether you’re considering adopting your partner’s surname, creating a new hyphenated name, or ensuring consistency with your children’s last name, our service provides the customized forms and step-by-step instructions to make the process as seamless as possible.

    Ready to simplify your name change journey? Let HitchSwitch take the stress out of updating your identity, ensuring all your documents reflect your chosen surname with ease.

  • WOMEN OF THE WEDDING INDUSTRY, ON CHANGING THEIR NAME & STARTING A PODCAST!

    WOMEN OF THE WEDDING INDUSTRY, ON CHANGING THEIR NAME & STARTING A PODCAST!

    In 2016, Lisa & Rebecca started a podcast called The Secret Life of Weddings.

    On a mission to tell the world’s craziest wedding stories, the podcast is, in their own words, “full of alcohol and bad ideas.” The two real-life wedding photographers have spent 20+ years working in the industry and love dishing out on some unbelievable yet hysterical wedding drama. If you’re engaged, Lisa & Rebecca promise to take you from hot mess wedding planning mode to pee your pants laughing!

    Here at HitchSwitch, we’re not just their #1 fans but are proud to be the official sponsor of The Secret Life of Weddings.

    Read below to get in on our conversation with co-hosts, Lisa & Rebecca!

    Q&A

    What inspired you to start SLOW?

    We have been wedding photographers for so many years and have seen everything that can go right and hilariously wrong! One time we worked together on a particular wedding where someone was acting quite challenging, and over drinks, we thought up the idea of starting a podcast! We figured that this podcast would be a great place for fellow wedding vendors, brides, guests, etc. could anonymously email us their craziest true wedding stories, and we would share with the world! That’s when The Secret Life of Weddings was born.

    What has been the most challenging aspect of starting a podcast?

    Probably always recording and releasing the episodes on-time no matter what.  We understood that in order to be successful, we had to treat running a podcast like a business because essentially, that’s what it is. I don’t think we’ve ever missed a drop date, even if we were sick or on holiday. You learn to handle it! And to do it for over a year and a half is a challenge, but our amazing loyal listeners & sponsors make it worthwhile for us.

    What do you love about working in the Wedding Industry?

    That people genuinely care about the couple getting married and the wedding planning process. It’s really cool to see families come together and become one!

    What is The funniest listener submission.. if you can pick one?

    Oh, that’s like asking to pick a favorite kid, but if we had to pick one, it would probably be the one where a bride fell off a golf cart and got run over. It sounds horrible, I know, but I promise it was hilarious! The fact that you really shouldn’t be laughing …  just makes you laugh even harder! She was 100% okay so we hope the universe will forgive us for laughing.

    Did either of you change your name and what did that mean for you?

    Yes, we both did! I (Lisa) actually added my husband’s last name onto my existing maiden name. It’s important to note I chose not to hyphenate because I didn’t want to create a new name, but only take on his name and maintain my existing last name too. I kept my maiden name for professional reasons and use my full married name for family purposes, as my kids have my married name. It meant a lot to me to take my husband’s name (I like the tradition of it), but my maiden name also still meant a lot to me. This was the perfect compromise and just felt right.

    What is your favorite current wedding trend?

    Late night food, definitely! Weddings are definitely the best excuse to let loose and eat every amazing food in sight! You can dance it off later 😉

    What advice do you have for a brides-to-be in dealing with the stress of wedding planning/ frustrating guests & family?

    Try to keep perspective and accept the fact that something, no matter how small, will go wrong on your wedding day. It’s best to accept this fact and decide it won’t ruin your wedding day. As for unwanted advice from well-meaning friends & family, merely thank them for their thoughts and change the subject. Wedding planning is prime time for people coming out of the woodwork with unwanted suggestions. Let them feel like they helped, and then do what you want anyway. It’s your wedding, not theirs.

    You’re both married. Can you share any advice for newly married HitchSwitch clients?

    Don’t expect marriage to be easy. You will have disagreements, and it’s all about how you handle them. Pick your battles … not everything is worth fighting over. If you fight or argue – don’t worry about it. It means you care about your relationship. Remember always to be each other’s best friend!

  • Healthy Habits for You and Your Partner

    Healthy Habits for You and Your Partner

    Do you know when you’re sitting on the toilet and scrolling through your Instagram and see a video with an elderly couple talking about how they’ve been married for 50+ years? How somehow they’ve cracked “the code” to a long, healthy, and fulfilling marriage?

    And you’re sitting there thinking, “how the f— did they do that?”

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    Those people are my heroes because while marriage is a beautiful experience, it is undoubtedly difficult to keep afloat sometimes. Some days, you have calm waters and a relaxing sea breeze, and others are filled with storms and waves ready to drown you.

    There are simple strategies you can engage in helping maintain a healthy relationship. Here are some of our favorite small habits that will make a huge difference. 

     1. Set in Motion Your Emotion

    I’m going to let you in on a little secret. Being emotionally connected to your partner is far more important than being physically connected to them (AKA sex). If you’re in it for the long-run, then establishing an emotionally connect is very, very important. According to Marriage, creating this bond will not only strengthen your communication skills, but will also help build respect, better sex, and a sense of security.

    How to build that connection?

    Just don’t keep any feelings from your partner. If there are any problems, never shoo them to the side. Always talk about how you feel and get it out in the open. Don’t let the work-life dominate your relationship; always have one day of the week dedicated to your partner. Just because you’re married doesn’t mean you can’t get out there and have fun.

    2. A T-Rex was Once an Egg

    This was my grandpapa’s way of saying, “the little things matter, you dipshit.”

    I can’t speak for all women, but when my husband sends me a hearty text with a bunch of kissing emojis, I smile like a bumbling buffoon. We’ve only been married for three years, but it still gets to me. His job requires a ton of physical labor so the fact that he found the time to shoot me a message just reminds me of why I married this guy in the first place.

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    It doesn’t have to be a text. It could be buying them lunch, surprising them at work, sending them flowers, cooking them dinner, and leaving post-it notes with flirty messages all over the house.

    The little things keep the sparks flying, trust me.

    3. Communicate EVERYTHING

    By everything, I do mean the good, the bad, and the ugly. As a married couple, we always want the best for each other, and whenever something grand happens, we tell each other right away.

    But what about those difficult conversations that we would rather not talk about? It could be stress, body weight, anxiety, car troubles, and even a pile of unpaid bills. The conversations that are a must have are usually the ones we don’t want to discuss at all.

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    If you’re having trouble starting a difficult conversation with your partner, Very Well Mind has a wonderful article full of incredible advice and helpful tips.

    4. Knowing When You’re in the Wrong

    Me: “I would like to buy a Y.”

    Pat: “There are three Y’s.”

    Me: Is it “I’m Sorry You Feel That Way”?

    Your relationship is not perfect.

    Fights will happen where you will argue and cry and yell. When you are the one at fault in an argument, don’t apologize in a way that makes your partner feel that their emotions are irrelevant (refer to quote above). Please don’t be that dumb.

    You always want to be empathic when apologizing. You need to recognize that you’re in the wrong and let your partner know that you will change your behavior and fix your mistakes. Unsolved arguments lead to more complications and buried emotions. That’s uncharted territory, and we do not want to go there.

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    Dedicating Time for Each Other

    I know it doesn’t need to be said and you should be dedicating time for your partner every day. Unfortunately, life gets in the way, and sometimes, we’re too busy even to call to say ‘hello.’

    Planning to see a movie, going for a stroll in the park, visiting some close friends, and even cuddling are great ways to show your partner you’re there and you care.

  • Financial Tips as a New Married Couple

    Financial Tips as a New Married Couple

    You know that part in every wedding ceremony where the priest or rabbi or best friend goes, “…to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health…” and you’re standing there thinking “please God, the richer and health part sounds amazing, let’s go with that”.

    I’ve been there, you’ve been there. Let’s be honest, here.

    It boggles me when people compare marriage to a trap because it only feels that way if you let it. Yes, marriage is a compromise, and you need to give it your all, blah blah blah. I’m not here to play the marriage counselor.

    Marriage is an incredible experience that requires you and your partner to share everything you have, physically, mentally, emotionally, and financially.

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    So let’s take a look at that last part there.

    Money management between spouses is a heated topic and will 99.9% of the time in an argument and someone sleeping on the couch. Incorporating your partner’s finances into your own is a difficult step that will take time, effort and a lot of understanding. Before marriage, you were both individuals spending money; however, you wanted.

    But now, you need to figure out how to balance that checkbook and develop new money-saving habits. Here are some tips to help you get started.

    1. Talk About It

    Having the “money talk” with your partner is like having the sex talk with your teenager. You don’t want to discuss it, but eventually, it needs to be out in the open. In every relationship, there’s always someone who is the CEO of money management. They deal with the store receipts, the bills, the spending, the taxes, and so on. Even if financing isn’t your strength, one of you needs to take on the role to keep track of what’s going on in your household money-wise.

    Or should I say, Pennywise, haha.

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    Once you figure out who’s in charge, it’s easier to talk about setting goals, how much money can be spent, and where that money should be spent.

    2. Hold Yourself Account-able

    So how are we doing this? Are we each going to have separate bank accounts? Joint account? An emergency fund?

    When we first got married, my husband made the horrible choice to trust me enough to join our accounts. Boy, did that come back to bite him in the ass. Everyone has a way to deal with their emotions, and mine happens to be retail therapy, so don’t judge me.

    Long story short, to teach me a lesson, he eventually created two separate accounts. Thanks to my excessive (but necessary) spending at Williams-Sonoma, I led my marriage into a financial crisis in just the first year. I was still spending the way I was when I was single.

    You need to figure out what will work best for your particular situation. If you feel like the right thing to do is open a joint account, and both contribute to saving money, then go ahead and do that. If you feel like your partner is an impulsive buyer, and separate accounts will benefit you, then go ahead and do that.

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    No matter what you choose to do, you need to agree on the monthly expenses: groceries, produce, electricity, gas, etc. These things are non-negotiable.

    3. You Can’t Own a Jet if You’re in Debt

    Even though I was the big spender in the relationship, my husband was the one who had more debt coming into the marriage. Having a massive debt will affect your chances of obtaining credit in your future. This will impact you when it comes to applying for a mortgage, buying a car/house, getting a job, and even buying a phone!

    This is why you should consider paying off the debt together.

    Do you need to pay for everything all at once? Of course not. Set up a plan that will prioritize what debt needs to be paid first. I know paying off someone’s debt, even your partner’s, doesn’t sound so hot, but there’s no way to tackle this alone.

    The National Debt Relief has some greater starter tips to help you take your first steps.

    4. Insurance Coverage

    Like a good neighbor, State Farm is there.

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    That was relevant, don’t fight me. We’ve got life, car, home, health, renter’s, and travelers insurance. It’s always best to know what type of insurance you and your partner have. After marriage, you might want to figure out what insurance to purchase together and which ones to keep separate. Some employers have insurance coverage in their plan so make sure to check yours out. For more information on how to find affordable health care insurance, check out Haven Life for further information.

    5. Goals

    What’s the point in saving money if you can’t spend it? Always set a goal to help motivate you to spend your money wisely. Is there a particular restaurant you’ve had your eye on that’s a bit pricey? An island you want to visit? A house on the market? When you have a motivation, you’re more likely to be wise with your savings. Stay on track and figure out how much you need to save every week (or month) for achieving your goal.

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    Remember, it’s not going to be easy in the beginning, but practice makes progress, and progress makes perfect!