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  • The Four Types of Couples on July 4th

    The Four Types of Couples on July 4th

    Bye, Bye Miss American Pie! Summer is finally here and it’s time to put some thought into your 4th of July of plans. Independence day is the perfect opportunity to let loose or lay back. Whether it’s your first or twenty-first 4th of July spent with your significant other, here are foolproof tips to make it one for the books.

    The Party- Going Couple

    Shots, shots, shots, everybody! So, you took the Friday off of work and you plan to waste no time getting your groove on; more power to you! The options for celebrating America are endless. If you really want to get out there, east- coasters take the train to the Hamptons for a lively day at the beach. Looking for something in NYC? Head to one of the many rooftops downtown for a time that won’t disappoint. For those on the West Coast, you can’t go wrong with spending the day at Santa Monica or Manhattan Beach. Come on, you deserve to live it up decked out in red, white, and blue.   

    The Chill Couple

    Maybe you started a new job this Summer,  just moved, or simply aren’t in the mood for all the frills this time around. Use your time away from work to spend quality time with your loved ones by making low-key plans. You never know, it just may end up being even more memorable than something over the top. To do this, make dinner at home together (#DIY style) and check out the best spots in your area to watch the fireworks. If this doesn’t sound like your jam, grab a bottle of wine & some refreshments, and head to the park/beach/rooftop for a chill time. Sending good vibes your way.

    The Adventurous Couple

    This ain’t your first rodeo. In the past you’ve spent this holiday partying from sunset to sundown, relaxing at the pool, and at your family’s for a BBQ. This year your longing to do something off the beaten path. One suggestion is to map out vineyards near you and spend the day hopping around to different wineries. Nothing sounds like summertime more than sipping on some rose and taking some insta worthy pics.

    The Long-Distance couple

    Although nothing beats in-person plans with your loved one, there are ample ways to still seize the day. Luckily for you, the year is 2019 and not 1777 (the first year Independence Day was celebrated). A nice idea is to order some of your favorite take out, crack a cold one and hit call on FaceTime to your special someone. Have him/her virtually show you the firework show they are at! Or…invite you best gal pals to a BBQ and smores by the fire pit. Cheeseburgers and melted marshmallows are sure to cure any melancholy you have from being apart from your bae.

     

  • Top Bachelorette Destinations

    Top Bachelorette Destinations

    (That Aren’t Vegas)

    Do you know what screams out ‘boring’? Having the opportunity to host a bachelorette party and choosing Sin City as your party destination. Why does everyone always head to Vegas, anyway? I know there’s so much more to bachelorette parties than half-naked men and getting so drunk that you forget your own name.

    Someone needs to redefine the whole event and make it more of a getaway than a drunken weekend.

    Well, that was my rant and now moving on to more pressing issues. If you’ve been given the honor to host your best friend’s bachelorette, then get ready. Below, we’ve got the complete list of places that will guarantee Team Bride a grand time.

    Some of these may seem a little far out, but if you’re not making memories and lasting impressions, then really, what are you doing?

    The Hamptons, New York

    If you’re not thinking White Chicks, then I don’t know what to tell you.

    So The Hamptons. Expensive? I’ll tell you now; it ain’t cheap.  

    Time to step up your game and get those shades and bikinis ready, ladies! Other than offering some of the most beautiful beaches in the world, there are several things to do in Southampton. Cooper’s Beach rates #1 on Trip Advisor as one of the most notable attractions in the area.

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    If beaches aren’t your thing and you’d prefer to spend the weekend shopping and hitting the day spa, then East Hampton is for you. Restaurants such as East Hampton Grill and Bostwick’s Chowder House are great for a lunch outing with the girls. When you’re done, take a stroll and merely enjoying the town’s antique shops is a great way to spend the day.

    Los Angeles, California

    There will always be a soft spot in my heart for SoCal, as it is where I grew up. Also, Disneyland and Universal Studios.

    Beautiful beaches, top-rated restaurants, rooftop lounges, nightclubs, five-star hotels, and of course, In-N-Out. No matter what occasion you’re planning, if you’re in California and don’t chow down on some In-N-Out, then you’re missing out.

    Don’t forget to snap a selfie near the Hollywood sign, take a walk down the Hollywood Walk of Fame, go for a swim at Venice Beach, and don’t forget the most important thing…the drinking. Hey, no matter where the city takes you, don’t forget your mission.

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    Head over to some of the city’s most famous clubs and still maintain your classy outing. Contrary to belief, we don’t just live off of avocados and kale juice. With the endless choices of top-notch restaurants, why would we? If you’re ready to take in the city lights and party all night, LA is truly the city that never sleeps.

    Vail, Colorado

    I know what you’re thinking. Of all places, why Colorado? Hear me out.

    Colorado is one of the most beautiful states for wildlife. Seriously, check out these images. It’s a great escape for anyone who loves the outdoors! If your friend (or you) are the adventurous types, then Anywhere, Colorado should be on your list! Plus it’s a great place to live if you’re looking for cheap rent, but that’s an entirely different article.

    Vail is home to a massive ski resort with endless activities for you and the whole girl gang. If you’re not a fan of tropical weather, then Vail might be your dream bachelorette destination.

    Manor Vail Lodge

    So what is there to do other than go skiing (obviously)? You can go hiking near the Missouri Lake Trail, enjoy a Wagyu steak dinner, get drunk at high altitude, and take tours that show off the resort’s beautiful sights. At the end of the day, not only will you be wiped out, but every picture will be Instagram worthy.

    #BestBachelorettePartyEVER

    Santorini, Greece

    When you think of Greece, you think of white buildings with dome ceilings perched on a cliff overlooking the Aegean sea. Very romantic.

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    That, my friend, is Santorini. I didn’t even know this place existed until it aired on KUWTK. I follow a ton of traveling Instas, and this place is always flooding my timeline. Santorini is just one of the thousands of islands that make up Greece.

    Even though the black sand beaches are the main attractions here, you can still party at Santorini’s most famous nightclub, Enigma. If you’re looking for the perfect place to have your brunch, then look no further than Armeni Santorini. This island’s breathtaking beaches, delicious food, and humble people will make this the ultimate bachelorette destination.

    Florence, Italy

    Italy will always be that place that crosses my mind and makes me think, “Why am I not there yet?” The culture, the food, the men, the attractions, the people, the music, and the food ( yes, I said food twice, stop judging).

    Road Affair

    So when you’re not all eating your weight in pizza and garlic bread, what else is there to do in Florence? For starters, you head over to Terrazza Lounge Bar and have a couple of drinks because you need time to take in the beauty that it Florence. If you want to learn more about the city’s history of Renaissance Art, you can visit Bargello Museum. Feeling famished? La Buchetta Food and Wine is known for its delicious gnocchi and wine (duh).

    If you want your party to make lasting impressions and leave you ten pounds heavier, then Italy is the place for you.

     

  • Top 15 Items That Need to Make Your Wedding Registry

    Top 15 Items That Need to Make Your Wedding Registry

    Raise your hand if you’re feeling overwhelmed, exhausted, and are about to get hitched.

    Hey there. Yeah, you. As if planning a wedding wasn’t hard enough, now you have to think about what you need for your newlywed home. Organizing a wedding registry could either be the most relaxing task you can do, or the most dreadful. It all depends on you and what’s going through that pretty head of yours.

    When I first got married, I only knew how to do one thing, and that was pouring water into an ice tray and throwing it in the freezer. I am a coffee addict but yet never learned how to use the espresso machine (not that K-Cup crap, an actual espresso machine with a filter). I had no idea what a new home would need!

    I did what any inexperienced bride would do and bought several sets of nonstick pans, chef knives, kitchen gadgets I still don’t know how to use, and as many towels as I could (23 to be exact).

    I was still at that His and Hers phase, so almost everything was monogrammed… and boy, do I regret it.

    Well, I’m here today to help you figure out what is a necessity and what isn’t. Remember, in the end, it all depends on your preference, so don’t go registering things you don’t need or don’t know how to use!

     

    Coffee/Espresso Machine

     

     

     

     

     

    I’m just going to go ahead and say it (again). I’m an addict. A coffee addict. I once drank eight cups in one sitting. So you can understand why this would be number one on my list. If you’re an early bird whose work consists of mostly sitting at a desk in front of a computer screen, then owning a coffee machine wouldn’t be such a bad idea.

    Amazon Choice: Mr. Coffee 12-Cup Coffee Maker, Black

    I mean, honestly, why spend $6 bucks every day at Starbucks for fancy coffee when you can save your money and time at home?

     

    Stand Up Mixer

     

     

     

     

     

     

    If you have the counter space, then a stand-up mixer is a great investment. Not only will it be a great addition to any kitchen, but it has been a lifesaver for me when baking.

    Here is a list to help you convince you of what a great product it truly is.

    Amazon Choice: Hamilton Beach 64650 6-Speed Classic Stand Mixer, Stainless Steel, 4-Quart Bowl and Accessories

     

    Food Processor

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

    While food processors perform fewer tasks than stand up mixers, don’t underestimate their working power. Most food processors come with separate discs, which help in shredding and slicing food. This is great if you’re short on time or need extra help in the kitchen. Most importantly, they are great for dips and homemade hummus.

    Amazon Choice: Hamilton Beach (70730) Food Processor & Vegetable Chopper with Bowl Scraper, 10 Cup, Electric

    Here are just some ways to use a food processor.

     

    Blender

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

    Yay! Another multipurpose kitchen product. I know I’m going overboard with kitchen products, but it’s the best room in the house, so you know we have to go the extra mile here!

    Amazon Choice: NutriBullet NBR-1201 12-Piece High-Speed Blender/Mixer System, Gray (600 Watts)

    Now, before buying a blender, keep in mind that a blender and food processor can perform several similar tasks, so there’d be no need to take both. But if smoothies are your to-go-to every morning, evening, and night,   then a more unadorned blender would be better than buying a whole set.

     

    Dutch Oven

     

     

     

     

     

     

    A cooking pot made mostly with heavy ceramic or metal and can be used on your stovetop for nearly everything. It can be used for roasting, making stews, and because it can be transferred into an over at any time, it’s excellent for making casseroles.

    Amazon Choice: AmazonBasics Enameled Cast Iron Dutch Oven – 6-Quart, Blue

     

    Cooking and Knife Set

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

    You will need a set of nonstick pans and pots. You will use them for everyday tasks from boiling your eggs to making lasagne. A knife set doesn’t have to be extravagant, just something useful that will cut fruit, vegetables, and meat.

    Amazon Choice: T-fal C530SC Signature Nonstick Dishwasher Safe Cookware Set, Nonstick Pots and Pans Set, Thermo-Spot Heat Indicator, 12 Piece, Black

     

    Vacuum Cleaner

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

    Is your new home mostly carpet? Do you own cats, dogs, or any other animal that sheds fur? Do you have babies, toddlers, or teenagers?

    Amazon Choice: Bissell Cleanview Upright Bagless Vacuum Cleaner, Orange, 1831

    If you’ve answered ‘yes’ to any one of those, then no need to think twice about this one.

     

    Television

     

     

     

     

     

     

    Where else are you going to rewatch every Game of Thrones season and cry yourself to sleep?

    Amazon Choice: TCL 40S325 40 Inch 1080p Smart LED Roku TV (2019)

     

    Bath Robes

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

    Don’t worry; it doesn’t have to His and Hers. When you invest in quality bathrobes, you will not regret it. Sitting in a towel after a shower is one thing, but sitting in a robe is an entirely different experience. You’ve basically dressed already, so you are in no rush to get dressed.

    Amazon Choice: Classic Turkish Towels Luxury Terry Cloth Bathrobe – Premium Hotel Robes – Made with 100% Turkish Cotton

     

    Bath Rug

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

    I know what you’re thinking, but hear me out. A bath rug can really shape the look of your entire bathroom if you know what to look for. Pottery Barn said it best.

    Amazon Choice: Genteele Memory Foam Bath Mat Non Slip Absorbent Super Cozy Velvet Bathroom Rug Carpet

     

    Bed Sheets

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

    Make sure you know the size of your mattress before purchasing! Also, make sure you’re familiar with their return policy in case the bed sheets do not fit your comforter!

    Amazon Choice: Mellanni Bed Sheet Set – Brushed Microfiber 1800 Bedding – Wrinkle, Fade, Stain Resistant – Hypoallergenic – 4 Piece

     

    Plush Robes

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

    For all those early mornings and late nights. Plus the comfort makes it feel like someone is hugging you, and isn’t that what we all need?

    Alexander Del Rossa Women’s Plush Fleece Robe with Hood, Solid Bathrobe

     

    Cotton Towels

     

     

     

     

     

     

    Towels are essential for the bathroom, bedroom, children’s room, and any guest room in the house.

    Amazon Choice: Pinzon by Amazon Collection Pinzon Organic Cotton Bath Towel (4-Pack), Indigo Blue

     

    BBQ Grill

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

    Great to have when summer comes rolling back around!

    Amazon Choice: Barbecue Charcoal Grill Stainless Steel Folding Portable BBQ

     

    Lawn Equipment

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

    If you own a yard, this is something to consider. If you’re a gardener, then you already know the necessities of lawn equipment for your planting.

    Amazon Choice: GreenWorks 20-Inch 12 Amp Corded Lawn Mower 25022, 20 inch

    For my simpler folks, investing in a lawnmower might be something to contemplate.

     

  • 9 Essential Questions to Ask Before Booking a Wedding Venue

    9 Essential Questions to Ask Before Booking a Wedding Venue

    Wedding season is upon us, my good people. Love, joy, and excitement fill our polluted air, and I, for one, am so ready to dance on top of tables and get escorted out by security. It’s only happened once so far, but that doesn’t mean I don’t have a reputation to uphold.

    Finding your dream venue is a chore all on its own. For some, it could be love at first sight and others might need a little more time before saying “I do” to the venue of their dreams. Nonetheless, it’s an exciting endeavor where you and your loved ones will create the memories of a lifetime.

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    To help make this task more comfortable, we’ve come up with nine questions that are a must ask before booking any venue.

    What dates are available?

    No doubt, you have a specific date in mind. Before discussing anything with the vendor, the first thing you need to know is if they are available on your target date. If you are set on a date, and the venue isn’t accessible, then quickly move on. If you’re flexible about the whole thing and are willing to go with the first open day, then finding a venue will be a lot easier.

    How much to rent the space? Plus what’s included in that fee?

    According to Value Penguin, “Couples spend between $12,343 and $14,006 on average for their wedding venue…This cost includes any general location fee as well as food, drinks and incidentals like tables, chairs and linens.”

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    I’m sure this comes as no surprise to many as wedding venues are known to- as my father-in-law says- bite the wallet. If you are trying to stay within a budget, then this is another question you need to get out of the way quickly. Some venues offer food, setup, stereos, lights, and much more with their rental fee, but some offer little to nothing. That means that aside from renting the space, you will need to take into account the tables, caterers, decorations, DJ, and much more.

    If the weather turns, is there an indoor space available?

    “It doesn’t even rain in California.”

    A moment of silence for my dumb friend who decided on a venue in Malibu. Towards the end of February. Did she take Mother Nature seriously? No. Did Mother Nature show her who the freakin’ boss is? Yes. It rained all day and spoiler alert, there was no Plan B: no indoor space, no other venue, nada. Do yourself a huge favor and settle on a site that can accommodate you and your guest in case the weather decides to take a turn.

    Is catering provided, or do I need to bring in my own caterers?

    Critical, critical, and I mean critical that you know the catering situation before you book a venue. If they can provide caterers and food, you need to know what to expect.
    What does the menu look like? How will the food be presented? Will they be able to accommodate their list of foods to those with gluten allergies, lactose intolerance, nut allergies, or vegetarians? How many courses will be provided? Will it be worth the money you put in?

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    Speak to the head chef and get an idea of how things work. If a caterer is not provided, then you will need to discuss bringing in your own caterers and setting up food for your guests.

    What makes this venue a better choice for my guests?

    Look around you. How does the air feel? How is the location? Is there enough parking spots for my guests? Are there enough tables? Chairs? Will there be any handicapped attending and if so, are there ramps or elevators available? Accessibility should be a priority for your guests. There should be at least four bathrooms per 100 people.

    You’ve been a guest at a party before, what would you expect at an event like this? The best gift you can offer your guests is a comfortable environment.

    When can we start setting up the venue?

    If you are responsible for setting up your venue, ask if the location offers any equipment you can rent out. Do the staffing provide any help, or is it an all-me job? Take into account how much time you will need to get everything set up. Some venues come built with beautiful decor, but some can be plain and require extra work, which may cost you a pretty penny.

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    Are there any hotels near, and if so, are you partnered with any of them?

    Several venues have a partnership with nearby hotels so you can score a discount. Think of this one as a plus, not a must. If the location of your venue is far from most of your guest’s hometown, then look into it. After a long night of partying and drinking, most people would prefer to stay close.

    Can we bring in our own alcohol for the bar? If not, how is your bar priced?

    Tough one. Unfortunately, the majority of venues do not allow you to bring in liquor from the outside world. Considering it’s something they can massively profit from, I don’t blame them. Nonetheless, you should be familiar with the range of prices.

    What is the cancellation policy?

    Just like not knowing if the weather’s going to turn on you, you also never know when something else might pop up. You might need to reschedule for several reasons you weren’t expecting. Hell, you may have even found another venue that has won you over. Either way, it’s best to know how much you will be refunded if you decide to cancel. Some places offer a full refund if you cancel far enough in advance, but if you cancel close to the target date, you will have a hard time receiving a full refund.

  • The First Step to Changing Your Name Back After Divorce

    The First Step to Changing Your Name Back After Divorce

    The beginning of the new year, the fifth of January to be exact, one of my closest and beloved friends called me sobbing at four in the morning. I immediately jolted out of bed, panicked because 1) I couldn’t understand a single word she was saying and 2) I thought something terrible had happened to her. As I did my absolute best to calm her down, she went on to say the words I dreaded hearing from any of my loved ones: I’m getting a divorce.

    I’ve known Casey since we were in elementary and anyone who knew her adored her. She was one of those people who radiated positivity and always knew what to say to a friend in need. The first thought that crossed my mind was, “what did that asshole do to you?” because I knew for a fact Casey wasn’t the one with the problem.

    In the two years she was married, she couldn’t get pregnant, and he was getting impatient. I know it’s a sad and pathetic reason, but these things happen, and it’s something she had no control over. Like many divorcees out there, one of the first things she wanted to do is change her last name back to her maiden name. We knew it was going to be a tedious process, but very necessary, nonetheless.

    How do I do it?

    While the process of name change after divorce vary from state to state, many states allow you to change your name before your divorce is finalized. All you need to do is include a name change request form with your divorce petition. You can ask the county clerk for help if you have any questions and bring the form to your divorce hearing. In states like these, you can put in a request with the judge to enter a formal order so you can return to your maiden name. When your divorce is finalized, and the judge puts in your request, then that will serve as an official copy of your name change.

    Make sure to get a copy from the court for proof of name restoration. You will need it for evidence when you go on to change your name on SSN, ID, driver license, bank account, work, medical, and anything else.

    If a name change through a court order is not possible, there’s no need to worry. You will still be able to change your name, but it will require a bit more work. Any official documentation with your original signature on it  (passport, birth certificate) will be needed for this step.

    you will need to fill out a petition at the courthouse that will ask you for some general info (first name, last name, DOB) and you will need to state why you’re changing your name (in this case, divorce).

    Once you file the petition with the courthouse and have it notarized, the clerk will most likely appoint you with a hearing. Not all states require this, but make sure you have copies of official documents with your name. If your trial goes through, the judge will approve your request, and you will receive your name change order.

    As ridiculous as it sounds, some states will require you to announce your name in the city newspaper before you can get an official copy of your name change.

    Changing your SSN and driver license is a priority before moving forward.

    Don’t feel restrained to use your ex’s name just because the divorce is not finalized. You can go back to using your maiden name freely until you’ve filled out all the legal paperwork.

    Choosing to change your last name after a divorce is ultimately a personal preference. Some people want to keep it because they have kids or they wait until they remarry. No matter the reason, it’s entirely up to you.

    Can I change my name online?

    If you’re confused about the process of the name change and don’t where to start, then you’re in the right place. At HitchSwitch, we work with you every step of the way to help you recover your name without the hassle. Chat with one of our members today to help you get started and receive all the help you need.  

  • Why Royal Baby Archie Harrison Doesn’t Have a Title

    Why Royal Baby Archie Harrison Doesn’t Have a Title

    Meghan Markle has joined the list of celebrities who want their child to lead a normal life. The Duchess of Sussex and Suits star gave birth to a healthy baby boy on Monday, the sixth of May at 5:26 AM. According to their official Instagram account, the royal couple has named the boy Archie Harrison Mountbatten-Windsor.

    Yes, it all sounded very American up until that last bit right there. Before we dig deeper into why the name doesn’t have a title, let’s talk more about the reason behind the current name.

    The history behind Mountbatten-Windsor goes back to Archie’s great-grandparents, Queen Elizabeth II and Prince Philip. When Prince Philip could not pass his surname onto his children, he hoped that when his wife took the throne, they would hyphenate their name. The Prime Minister at the time (Churchill) did not agree until a declaration by the Queen in Privy Council in 1960. It would become the official last name of the royal family and all male descendants without a title (enter Archie) would bear the name Mountbatten-Windsor.

    So why have the happy couple decided not to use an honorary title for their first born?

    Simply, they didn’t want to. Archie, who is entitled to be the Earl of Dumbarton and seventh in line for the throne, will not be referred to as Lord, Master, Earl, Duke, or Prince. No need to go to royal weddings, or engage in royal events, photo shoots, duties, private schools, or anything that is required for a Royal.

    Just Archie.

    This came as no surprise to many as the Duchess isn’t too big on revealing the private portions of her life. In an interview with Newsweek in 2017, Prince Harry says that “maintaining an ordinary life is a high priority.” Even the plans of their birth and where the Duchess would be delivering were kept in the dark. Some things are just not meant to be shared with the public.

    So what can we expect from the new royal family of three?

    You can still expect to see them on the cover of magazines and attending royal events. But the royal couple is dead set on their child leading a relatively normal life. Even though he has no title in his name (yet?), Archie will forever be entitled to his father’s earldom.

    There’s no knowing what will happen after Prince Charles takes the crown. We’ll just have to wait and see.

  • 6 Bridal Shower Mistakes to Avoid

    6 Bridal Shower Mistakes to Avoid


    Congratulations! You have been bestowed with the honor that BFFs everywhere dream of: the maid of honor.  If this is something you’ve been looking forward to and anticipated since the sixth grade, then good for you! If it was unexpected, and you didn’t see it coming… then have fun pulling an all-nighter on how to throw a bridal shower!

    Here’s the reality of it; it is not easy and requires some work. But while we can’t tell you how to throw a bridal shower, we can tell you what to avoid.

    1. Not Creating a List

    If you’ve read any of the previous blogs, you’ll know that we have a slight obsession with list. Like any other event in life, a bridal shower needs to be planned out to the final detail. You’re throwing a party for another person and you’re reaching for perfection, so composing a to-do list is your #1 priority! You need to make a checklist that helps you in preparing for the event. You need to pick a date, a venue, a theme, and make sure you don’t invite anyone the bride wouldn’t want there. Here’s a short  list to help you get started.

    2. It’s YOUR Money, So Set a Budget

    If this is your first time planning a bridal shower, then expenses will be coming out of your pocket. Sit with the bride and get an idea of what she would like. If you feel like it’s out of your budget, you should not feel pressured to continue! You can kindly ask if you can have a co-host! That way, you won’t go home to an empty wallet at the end of the day.

    The key is not to overthink anything. You can still organize a memorable party without exceeding your budget limit. Prioritize what is necessary and ask fellow bridesmaids on where to buy decorations, food, or anything else without breaking the bank.

    The goal is to spend enough money to throw a beautiful party and still have some left over to buy a gift for the bride.

    3. Communication is Essential

    Even though we want to avoid telling the bride anything, it is vital that you keep communications open with her on a few topics! Anything you’re reluctant about needs to be consulted with guest of honor! A few matters include guest lists, food, and theme. Always ask the bride for the list of names for the guests 4-6 weeks before the party! If her relatives are going to be coming and she wants to keep the party modest, then you need to keep that in mind when setting up decorations!

    This is not a bachelorette party; it’s a bridal shower.

    Also, when getting together that guest list and before sending out those invitations, make sure everything is 100% correct. You don’t want a typo,  a wrong date, or anyone not knowing what the theme is.

    4. Going Solo is a No-No

    Hey, we get it, you want everything to be flawless. You want to bask in the glory and take all the praise. Listen, a bridal shower is a ton of work, and if someone offers to help, accept it. If you need help with arrangements, then, by all means, ask a friend for a hand!

    Something is always bound to fall between the cracks, and you can still be the boss but with a few helping hands.

    5. Granny is Going to be There, So Keep the Fun PG

    Again, this is not the bachelorette party, so save the dildos for Vegas.

    Refer back to the guest list: will there be relatives present? Are the activities appropriate? Will they make anyone uncomfortable? Co-workers or friends might show up with their kids, so let’s not plan anything that might raise any questions.

    6. Not Thinking of Your Guests

    You get a gift bag, YOU get a gift bag, EVERYBODY GETS A GIFT BAG!

    Also, a thank you card. Want to be the MOH that ranks above all the other maid of honors? Arrange gift bags for all your guests.

    You can even customize them by placing each individual’s name on the bag, but that’s optional. Our advice to you when putting a gift back together: keep everything mini. Mini chocolates, mini lotion, mini alcohol bottles, and gift cards for the bride’s closest relatives (mom, sister, grandma).  

    Being chosen to prep a party for the bride is a great honor. When the day’s over, grab whatever champagne is left and go home. God knows you deserve a break. Good luck and happy planning!

  • These Three Men Changed Their Name After Getting Married and Here’s Why

    These Three Men Changed Their Name After Getting Married and Here’s Why

    You probably read that title and thought “wait, what?” I get it; it’s a weird and possibly taboo topic.

    Are you saying there are men out there who willingly change their surname to their wife’s?

    And the answer is yes, my friends, there is. It is sporadic to find, and I’m not going to lie, it took me forever to find three men willing to talk about their experiences, but in the end, I came out victorious. More and more women today are choosing to keep their last name or deciding to merge last names after marriage. It’s no wonder considering the role of female workers in society rising, political movements, lack of women’s rights brought to light, and same-sex marriage being legalized in 2015.

    The following interviewees have changed their last names to their wife’s and here’s why they did it.

    Omar Brenly

    What thoughts went through your head when you decided to take your wife’s name?

    Surprisingly, not much *laughs*. We had been together for over five years and engaged for two, so we knew who was changing what after the wedding. My father’s from Afghanistan and my mother is American, and she took my father’s last name. I’ve never really been one for tradition and work-wise, my wife is the breadwinner of the family so when she told me she was keeping her maiden name, I knew I wanted to take her name as well.

    How did your family react to the news of you taking your wife’s name?

    My father is a very old fashioned man, so when I first told him, he thought I was joking. He laughed it off and said to me that real men don’t make decisions like these. In his mind, I was throwing away my family name, but I didn’t see it that way.  My mother, who’s considerably more open-minded since she grew up in the states did her best to convince him that times have changed, but no luck. I’m still on good terms with him, but if someone were to bring up the subject, God help us all.

    Do you ever have second thoughts about changing your name back?

    I do not. It’s not something i even think about really. It’s a small sacrifice I was willing to make for my wife and what’s done is done.

     

    Philip Gibbons

    Did you face any criticism at the workplace because you took your wife’s name?

    You know, it’s hard not to be criticized no matter where you go. The idea that a man can take his wife’s name isn’t even recognizable by society yet. Many of my co-workers thought I was in a same-sex marriage, but when I cleared things up, some jaws dropped. They were shocked, to say the least. To others, it’s a very political topic, when it’s just an intimate decision you make that should concern you and your partner.

    What prompted you to take your wife’s name?

    My wife is an only child to Irish immigrants. We were discussing merging names or possibly hyphenation when it dawned on her that she didn’t want to lose her family name. At first, we didn’t dig into it because it just seemed like too much work. When we found out we were pregnant; we decided its best to stick to one family name, which was hers.

    Do you ever miss going by your birth given name?

    It took some getting used to in the beginning, especially the paperwork process and practicing a new signature at work. Now and then, I get nostalgic, but I never regret the decision. I have two children now, who definitely look more like their mother than me *laughs*, so I feel like I made the right choice.

    Rogelio Delgado

    How did you come to take your wife’s last name?

    We were on our honeymoon, and we arrived at the hotel ready to check in. The woman behind the desk addressed me as Mr. Perez and Dr. Delgado, who is my wife. Even before marriage, I  knew my wife’s work status would forever outshine me, and it always made me proud to introduce my wife to people as a doctor. You instantly feel the atmosphere shift as soon as a doctor walks in the room, right, and I always told her how envious I was. I knew my wife would not change her name and I had no problem with that considering her name meant a lot in her field. I took her name because I was immensely proud to be married to her.

    What has been the biggest challenge for you down this road?

    Paperwork, paperwork, and more paperwork! I had to visit the DMV, the SS office, the bank, and everywhere that needed a name change. People would not believe that a man was taking his wife’s name. I saw in people’s eyes how belittling I seemed in front of them. No matter where I went, people were struck with confusion. My family, friends, and peers were sure that it was my wife’s choice and not the other way around. I felt explaining myself was absolutely useless.

    How did your wife react when you told her?

    She tried to talk me out of it. She insisted we both keep our surnames and not worry about changing them at all. She was sure I was going to go through hell and round-the-clock interrogation from all our friends and family. She was right! But if I could go back and do it all over again, I would. Some people are just worth it.

  • 5 Options To Consider When Changing Your Name

    5 Options To Consider When Changing Your Name

    Of all the things to think about when planning a wedding, a name change might be at the top of your list. In today’s modern world, it is more socially acceptable to change your name to whatever you want. When it comes to the final decision regarding changing your name, here are a few options to consider.

    Stick With The Name Your Mama Gave Ya

    You decide to stick with the name given to you at birth because of obvious reasons. Every person has an idea as to why they keep their name as is and there’s nothing wrong with that. By keeping your maiden name, you’ll save yourself the trouble of filling out countless applications and visits to the happiest place on earth: the DMV. It’s widely known that in many parts of the world, a woman taking her husband’s last name is not only mandatory but what makes a marriage last. With the numbers of women seeking a part in the work field quickly on the rise, the percentage of women keeping their maiden name for professional reasons is a prominent one.

    Pragya Agarwal, a researcher the University of Liverpool and business owner of Hedge and Hog Prints states that her name is a “huge part” of her identity and being responsible for several academic publications, “it did not make sense to change it.” It also makes that women will keep their maiden name to be credited for the professional work they present in their field.

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    Take Your Spouse’s Name

    The most common-traditional route. Several women in today’s world choose to take their spouse’s last name after marriage. The procedure is a long one but can be fairly explained here.

    First, the couple needs to obtain an official copy of their marriage certificate. Depending on which state you reside in, you’ll end up paying a different fee for a copy (you will probably need more than one). You will then need to apply for a new SSN (completely free) along with your ID and marriage certificate. You can either choose to mail in your form or head over to the nearest Social Security office.

    Next up is your driver license and passport. Again, depending on where you live, fees will vary. Be sure to fill out the appropriate forms for a new passport after the name change. If you are a frequent traveler, you don’t want your ID stating a different name than your passport. That won’t look too good when you’re trying to board that plane to Bora Bora for your honeymoon.

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    Click here if you need to update your passport photo from the comfort of your home.

    Hyphenate Your Names

    If you want to hyphenate your name-taking both maiden names and combining them to make two family names- you will still have to go through the same name change process and fill out the same applications. Read more about the process here.

    Some people choose to hyphenate their names as soon as they get married, and some like Nicole Bradley-Bernard decided to change it after six years of marriage. In her article, she states that her long-awaited decision came after the realization of self-importance. She goes on to say how one’s name shouldn’t be tossed out just because of outdated traditions.

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    By choosing to have your husband’s name does not mean you need to give up yours. It’s always been expected of women to give up their identity after marriage, and alas, women are stepping up and holding on to their original status. Hyphenating your last names is a great way to keep your name and take your husband’s name. It’s also a great example of unity within a family once couples decide to bring children in the picture.

    Change Name Legally, But Keep It Professional

    Hannah Montana said it best: you get the best of both worlds.

    This is the route I took because my career depends on my name. I’ll admit, it has not been easy because it causes some confusion among my peers and friends. It’s like having two identities and of course, people constantly asking why I don’t just use my husband’s last name.

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    Imagine working your butt off for the work you do, just to put it under a different name that isn’t even you! I mean, that’s how I saw it, at least. Like I said above, more women are becoming part of the work field, and most nowadays are keeping their maiden name because it is their professional name. If this the route you want to pursue, be sure to consider all the pros and cons of the decision.

    Create A Hybrid Last Name

    Yes, this is an actual thing. If all the above options aren’t to your liking, you can make up your last name. I mean, seriously, how fun would that be? If I knew about this option, I would’ve changed my last name to Stark nine years ago. With the eighth season of Game of Thrones coming out, it becomes more tempting as the days go by…

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    Winter is officially here, you guys. If Jon Snow doesn’t end up on the throne, my life will officially have no meaning.

    For a list of people who completely changed their last name and didn’t have a single regret, click here.

    Make sure to let your work of employment, government agencies, your bank, and social media know of your name change after changing it.