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How to Support Your Partner Through a Stressful Time

Supporting Your Partner Through Stress: A Guide to Stronger Connections

Every relationship encounters moments when one partner is under more pressure than usual. Whether the cause is work, health, family issues, or just the everyday challenges of life, knowing how to be there for your partner during a stressful time is one of the most important parts of a healthy, lasting relationship. When handled with care and empathy, these difficult periods can actually strengthen your connection.

With that in mind, we’ve put together some supportive strategies to help your partner feel heard, valued, and comforted during times of stress, while also keeping your relationship balanced and strong. From recognizing signs of stress to thoughtful communication and more, these tips can help you support your partner through stressful and hard times.

Recognize the Signs of Stress

Stress doesn’t always show up in obvious ways. Some people become quiet or withdrawn, while others may be irritable, distracted, or more emotional than usual. It’s helpful to learn your partner’s stress signals so you can recognize when they’re struggling, even if they’re not saying it out loud. Pay attention to changes in sleep, appetite, energy, or mood. Gently checking in with a simple “You seem a little off—want to talk about it?” can open the door to meaningful conversation

Listen More Than You Talk

When your partner does open up, active listening is one of the best ways to offer support. That means giving them your full attention—putting down the phone, making eye contact, and resisting the urge to offer solutions right away. Sometimes, just having a safe space to vent or process their emotions can be more helpful than any advice. Simple responses like “That sounds really tough,” or “I’m here for you” can go a long way in showing you care.

Ask What They Need

Every person—and every situation—is different. While one partner might want to talk things through in detail, another may prefer quiet company or even a little distraction. It’s okay to ask directly: “How can I support you right now?” This question lets your partner feel in control and reassures them that they’re not alone. Being open and responsive to their needs—whether it’s a hug, space, help around the house, or just a moment of normalcy—shows that you respect their individual coping style.

Be Patient with Shifts in Mood or Energy

Stress can affect a person’s mood, motivation, and availability in the relationship. Your partner might seem distant, tired, or less affectionate than usual. Try not to take it personally. Instead, acknowledge that they’re going through something difficult and give them a little grace. Offering steady, low-pressure support lets your partner feel emotionally safe and makes it easier for them to eventually bounce back.

Offer Practical Help

Sometimes stress comes with a to-do list that feels overwhelming. This could be related to work deadlines, medical appointments, or just household responsibilities that become harder to manage during tough times. Offering specific, tangible help—like running errands, making dinner, handling a chore, or helping organize their calendar—can take a load off your partner’s mind. It also shows that you’re invested in easing their burden in meaningful ways.

Gently Encourage Healthy Habits

Stress can make it harder to prioritize self-care. While you shouldn’t push, you can encourage healthy habits by modeling them or inviting your partner to join in. Suggest going for a walk together, cooking a nourishing meal, or taking a screen break with a shared activity. Small, supportive nudges can help your partner stay grounded without making them feel pressured.

Know When to Step Back or Seek Help

While your support matters deeply, there may be times when your partner needs help beyond what you can give. If they seem overwhelmed, hopeless, or unable to cope for an extended period, it might be time to suggest talking to a mental health professional. Framing it in a caring way, such as “I love you and want to see you feeling better. Maybe a counselor could help,” can reduce stigma and show that you’re looking out for their well-being, not criticizing them.

Take Care of Yourself, Too

Supporting a stressed-out partner can be emotionally taxing. Make sure you’re also tending to your own needs during this time. That might mean leaning on your support system, setting healthy boundaries, or carving out moments to recharge. Maintaining your own mental and emotional health allows you to continue being a strong, stable presence in the relationship, without burning out or growing resentful.

Keep Communicating—Even About the Small Stuff

While the focus may be on helping your partner, it’s also important to maintain open, two-way communication. Don’t feel like you have to hide your own feelings to “stay strong.” Being honest and supportive of each other builds mutual trust. Talk about the stress, but also make room for lighter topics, future plans, or shared moments of joy. Keeping the conversation flowing helps the relationship stay connected during challenging times.

Add in Small Moments of Joy

Even when life feels heavy, brief moments of happiness can offer a powerful reset. Watch a favorite show together, make a spontaneous ice cream run, or revisit an old inside joke. These moments won’t make the stress go away, but they do remind your partner that they’re loved—and that there’s still space for comfort, laughter, and hope.

Ultimately, navigating stress as a couple is about teamwork and empathy. While you focus on the emotional support, remember that managing practical life changes can also reduce significant burdens. For instance, if a life event like a marriage requires a name change, services like HitchSwitch can handle the complex paperwork, freeing up valuable time and energy that can then be dedicated to supporting each other through other challenges. Learn how hitchswitch.com can simplify this transition

2 months ago
How To Change Your Name Social Security Card After Marriage? [Guide 2025]
How to Change Your Name with Social Security After Marriage?

Congratulations on saying “I do”! As you bask in that newlywed glow, sharing a last name with your partner is likely on your mind. While the idea is wonderfully romantic, tackling the administrative side of a name change can feel a little less dreamy. That’s where HitchSwitch comes in! We’re here to simplify a crucial first step: updating your Social Security card after Marriage.

The good news for 2025 is that the Social Security Administration (SSA) is making it easier than ever to change your name, with an increasing number of individuals eligible to complete the process online. This can save you valuable time and a trip to a local office. Keep in mind that while the SSA encourages attempting the online process first, it might not be an option for everyone. If you’re not eligible online, you’ll need to complete the process in person or by mail. Also, remember the general guideline: wait at least 30 days after your wedding before initiating your name change. For an in-depth outline of the name change process, please click here to check out our guide.

Gather Your Documents For Your Social Card Update
- Before you begin, ensure you have digital copies (scanned or clear photos) of the following:
  - Your identity documents, such as your driver’s license or state-issued ID.
  - Your original or a certified copy of your marriage certificate. This is the official proof of your name change.
Start Your Social Security Name Change Journey Online:
- Click the following link to access the official SSA name change questionnaire: https://www.ssa.gov/personal-record/change-name.
- Based on your answers in the online questionnaire, the SSA will present you with the available methods for completing your name change
  - Complete the process entirely online: If eligible, you can submit your application and input your information electronically.
  - Schedule an in-person appointment: If online submission isn’t an option, you’ll be prompted to schedule a visit to your local SSA office.
  - Complete the process by mail.
- In most states, if you need to change your name in person or by mail, you will generally need to provide the following:
  - Your original or certified Marriage Certificate (not a photocopy).
  - A completed SS-5 form, the Application for a Social Security Card. (HitchSwitch often provides this form as part of your personalized package!)
  - A valid primary form of identification in your current name, such as your driver’s license or U.S. passport.
Simplify Your Name Change with HitchSwitch:
- Navigating the various forms and requirements for a name change can be time-consuming and confusing. That’s where HitchSwitch shines! Our service streamlines the entire process, providing you with:
  - Personalized, pre-filled forms: We take the guesswork out of paperwork, including the SS-5 form if needed for mail or in-person applications.
  - Easy-to-follow, state-specific instructions: We guide you through each step, ensuring you have the correct documents and information.
  - Time-saving convenience: We handle the research and form preparation, freeing you up to enjoy your newlywed life.
  - Don’t let administrative tasks overshadow your marital bliss.
- Let HitchSwitch be your trusted partner in navigating your name change journey, starting with your Social Security card!
4 months ago
Top 15 Items That Need to Make Your Wedding Registry

Raise your hand if you’re feeling overwhelmed, exhausted, and are about to get hitched.

Hey there. Yeah, you. As if planning a wedding wasn’t hard enough, now you have to think about what you need for your newlywed home. Organizing a wedding registry could either be the most relaxing task you can do, or the most dreadful. It all depends on you and what’s going through that pretty head of yours.

When I first got married, I only knew how to do one thing, and that was pouring water into an ice tray and throwing it in the freezer. I am a coffee addict but yet never learned how to use the espresso machine (not that K-Cup crap, an actual espresso machine with a filter). I had no idea what a new home would need!

I did what any inexperienced bride would do and bought several sets of nonstick pans, chef knives, kitchen gadgets I still don’t know how to use, and as many towels as I could (23 to be exact).

I was still at that His and Hers phase, so almost everything was monogrammed… and boy, do I regret it.

Well, I’m here today to help you figure out what is a necessity and what isn’t. Remember, in the end, it all depends on your preference, so don’t go registering things you don’t need or don’t know how to use!

Coffee/Espresso Machine

I’m just going to go ahead and say it (again). I’m an addict. A coffee addict. I once drank eight cups in one sitting. So you can understand why this would be number one on my list. If you’re an early bird whose work consists of mostly sitting at a desk in front of a computer screen, then owning a coffee machine wouldn’t be such a bad idea.

Amazon Choice: Mr. Coffee 12-Cup Coffee Maker, Black

I mean, honestly, why spend $6 bucks every day at Starbucks for fancy coffee when you can save your money and time at home?

Stand Up Mixer

If you have the counter space, then a stand-up mixer is a great investment. Not only will it be a great addition to any kitchen, but it has been a lifesaver for me when baking.

Here is a list to help you convince you of what a great product it truly is.

Amazon Choice: Hamilton Beach 64650 6-Speed Classic Stand Mixer, Stainless Steel, 4-Quart Bowl and Accessories

Food Processor

While food processors perform fewer tasks than stand up mixers, don’t underestimate their working power. Most food processors come with separate discs, which help in shredding and slicing food. This is great if you’re short on time or need extra help in the kitchen. Most importantly, they are great for dips and homemade hummus.

Amazon Choice: Hamilton Beach (70730) Food Processor & Vegetable Chopper with Bowl Scraper, 10 Cup, Electric

Here are just some ways to use a food processor.

Blender

Yay! Another multipurpose kitchen product. I know I’m going overboard with kitchen products, but it’s the best room in the house, so you know we have to go the extra mile here!

Amazon Choice: NutriBullet NBR-1201 12-Piece High-Speed Blender/Mixer System, Gray (600 Watts)

Now, before buying a blender, keep in mind that a blender and food processor can perform several similar tasks, so there’d be no need to take both. But if smoothies are your to-go-to every morning, evening, and night, then a more unadorned blender would be better than buying a whole set.

Dutch Oven

A cooking pot made mostly with heavy ceramic or metal and can be used on your stovetop for nearly everything. It can be used for roasting, making stews, and because it can be transferred into an over at any time, it’s excellent for making casseroles.

Amazon Choice: AmazonBasics Enameled Cast Iron Dutch Oven – 6-Quart, Blue

Cooking and Knife Set

You will need a set of nonstick pans and pots. You will use them for everyday tasks from boiling your eggs to making lasagne. A knife set doesn’t have to be extravagant, just something useful that will cut fruit, vegetables, and meat.

Amazon Choice: T-fal C530SC Signature Nonstick Dishwasher Safe Cookware Set, Nonstick Pots and Pans Set, Thermo-Spot Heat Indicator, 12 Piece, Black

Vacuum Cleaner

Is your new home mostly carpet? Do you own cats, dogs, or any other animal that sheds fur? Do you have babies, toddlers, or teenagers?

Amazon Choice: Bissell Cleanview Upright Bagless Vacuum Cleaner, Orange, 1831

If you’ve answered ‘yes’ to any one of those, then no need to think twice about this one.

Television

Where else are you going to rewatch every Game of Thrones season and cry yourself to sleep?

Amazon Choice: TCL 40S325 40 Inch 1080p Smart LED Roku TV (2019)

Bath Robes

Don’t worry; it doesn’t have to His and Hers. When you invest in quality bathrobes, you will not regret it. Sitting in a towel after a shower is one thing, but sitting in a robe is an entirely different experience. You’ve basically dressed already, so you are in no rush to get dressed.

Amazon Choice: Classic Turkish Towels Luxury Terry Cloth Bathrobe – Premium Hotel Robes – Made with 100% Turkish Cotton

Bath Rug

I know what you’re thinking, but hear me out. A bath rug can really shape the look of your entire bathroom if you know what to look for. Pottery Barn said it best.

Amazon Choice: Genteele Memory Foam Bath Mat Non Slip Absorbent Super Cozy Velvet Bathroom Rug Carpet

Bed Sheets

Make sure you know the size of your mattress before purchasing! Also, make sure you’re familiar with their return policy in case the bed sheets do not fit your comforter!

Amazon Choice: Mellanni Bed Sheet Set – Brushed Microfiber 1800 Bedding – Wrinkle, Fade, Stain Resistant – Hypoallergenic – 4 Piece

Plush Robes

For all those early mornings and late nights. Plus the comfort makes it feel like someone is hugging you, and isn’t that what we all need?

Alexander Del Rossa Women’s Plush Fleece Robe with Hood, Solid Bathrobe

Cotton Towels

Towels are essential for the bathroom, bedroom, children’s room, and any guest room in the house.

Amazon Choice: Pinzon by Amazon Collection Pinzon Organic Cotton Bath Towel (4-Pack), Indigo Blue

BBQ Grill

Great to have when summer comes rolling back around!

Amazon Choice: Barbecue Charcoal Grill Stainless Steel Folding Portable BBQ

Lawn Equipment

If you own a yard, this is something to consider. If you’re a gardener, then you already know the necessities of lawn equipment for your planting.

Amazon Choice: GreenWorks 20-Inch 12 Amp Corded Lawn Mower 25022, 20 inch

For my simpler folks, investing in a lawnmower might be something to contemplate.

June 5, 2019
9 Essential Questions to Ask Before Booking a Wedding Venue

Wedding season is upon us, my good people. Love, joy, and excitement fill our polluted air, and I, for one, am so ready to dance on top of tables and get escorted out by security. It’s only happened once so far, but that doesn’t mean I don’t have a reputation to uphold.

Finding your dream venue is a chore all on its own. For some, it could be love at first sight and others might need a little more time before saying “I do” to the venue of their dreams. Nonetheless, it’s an exciting endeavor where you and your loved ones will create the memories of a lifetime.

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To help make this task more comfortable, we’ve come up with nine questions that are a must ask before booking any venue.

What dates are available?

No doubt, you have a specific date in mind. Before discussing anything with the vendor, the first thing you need to know is if they are available on your target date. If you are set on a date, and the venue isn’t accessible, then quickly move on. If you’re flexible about the whole thing and are willing to go with the first open day, then finding a venue will be a lot easier.

How much to rent the space? Plus what’s included in that fee?

According to Value Penguin, “Couples spend between $12,343 and $14,006 on average for their wedding venue…This cost includes any general location fee as well as food, drinks and incidentals like tables, chairs and linens.”

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I’m sure this comes as no surprise to many as wedding venues are known to- as my father-in-law says- bite the wallet. If you are trying to stay within a budget, then this is another question you need to get out of the way quickly. Some venues offer food, setup, stereos, lights, and much more with their rental fee, but some offer little to nothing. That means that aside from renting the space, you will need to take into account the tables, caterers, decorations, DJ, and much more.

If the weather turns, is there an indoor space available?

“It doesn’t even rain in California.”

A moment of silence for my dumb friend who decided on a venue in Malibu. Towards the end of February. Did she take Mother Nature seriously? No. Did Mother Nature show her who the freakin’ boss is? Yes. It rained all day and spoiler alert, there was no Plan B: no indoor space, no other venue, nada. Do yourself a huge favor and settle on a site that can accommodate you and your guest in case the weather decides to take a turn.

Is catering provided, or do I need to bring in my own caterers?

Critical, critical, and I mean critical that you know the catering situation before you book a venue. If they can provide caterers and food, you need to know what to expect.
What does the menu look like? How will the food be presented? Will they be able to accommodate their list of foods to those with gluten allergies, lactose intolerance, nut allergies, or vegetarians? How many courses will be provided? Will it be worth the money you put in?

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Speak to the head chef and get an idea of how things work. If a caterer is not provided, then you will need to discuss bringing in your own caterers and setting up food for your guests.

What makes this venue a better choice for my guests?

Look around you. How does the air feel? How is the location? Is there enough parking spots for my guests? Are there enough tables? Chairs? Will there be any handicapped attending and if so, are there ramps or elevators available? Accessibility should be a priority for your guests. There should be at least four bathrooms per 100 people.

You’ve been a guest at a party before, what would you expect at an event like this? The best gift you can offer your guests is a comfortable environment.

When can we start setting up the venue?

If you are responsible for setting up your venue, ask if the location offers any equipment you can rent out. Do the staffing provide any help, or is it an all-me job? Take into account how much time you will need to get everything set up. Some venues come built with beautiful decor, but some can be plain and require extra work, which may cost you a pretty penny.

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Are there any hotels near, and if so, are you partnered with any of them?

Several venues have a partnership with nearby hotels so you can score a discount. Think of this one as a plus, not a must. If the location of your venue is far from most of your guest’s hometown, then look into it. After a long night of partying and drinking, most people would prefer to stay close.

Can we bring in our own alcohol for the bar? If not, how is your bar priced?

Tough one. Unfortunately, the majority of venues do not allow you to bring in liquor from the outside world. Considering it’s something they can massively profit from, I don’t blame them. Nonetheless, you should be familiar with the range of prices.

What is the cancellation policy?

Just like not knowing if the weather’s going to turn on you, you also never know when something else might pop up. You might need to reschedule for several reasons you weren’t expecting. Hell, you may have even found another venue that has won you over. Either way, it’s best to know how much you will be refunded if you decide to cancel. Some places offer a full refund if you cancel far enough in advance, but if you cancel close to the target date, you will have a hard time receiving a full refund.

May 29, 2019
The First Step to Changing Your Name Back After Divorce

The beginning of the new year, the fifth of January to be exact, one of my closest and beloved friends called me sobbing at four in the morning. I immediately jolted out of bed, panicked because 1) I couldn’t understand a single word she was saying and 2) I thought something terrible had happened to her. As I did my absolute best to calm her down, she went on to say the words I dreaded hearing from any of my loved ones: I’m getting a divorce.

I’ve known Casey since we were in elementary and anyone who knew her adored her. She was one of those people who radiated positivity and always knew what to say to a friend in need. The first thought that crossed my mind was, “what did that asshole do to you?” because I knew for a fact Casey wasn’t the one with the problem.

In the two years she was married, she couldn’t get pregnant, and he was getting impatient. I know it’s a sad and pathetic reason, but these things happen, and it’s something she had no control over. Like many divorcees out there, one of the first things she wanted to do is change her last name back to her maiden name. We knew it was going to be a tedious process, but very necessary, nonetheless.

How do I do it?

While the process of name change after divorce vary from state to state, many states allow you to change your name before your divorce is finalized. All you need to do is include a name change request form with your divorce petition. You can ask the county clerk for help if you have any questions and bring the form to your divorce hearing. In states like these, you can put in a request with the judge to enter a formal order so you can return to your maiden name. When your divorce is finalized, and the judge puts in your request, then that will serve as an official copy of your name change.

Make sure to get a copy from the court for proof of name restoration. You will need it for evidence when you go on to change your name on SSN, ID, driver license, bank account, work, medical, and anything else.

If a name change through a court order is not possible, there’s no need to worry. You will still be able to change your name, but it will require a bit more work. Any official documentation with your original signature on it (passport, birth certificate) will be needed for this step.

you will need to fill out a petition at the courthouse that will ask you for some general info (first name, last name, DOB) and you will need to state why you’re changing your name (in this case, divorce).

Once you file the petition with the courthouse and have it notarized, the clerk will most likely appoint you with a hearing. Not all states require this, but make sure you have copies of official documents with your name. If your trial goes through, the judge will approve your request, and you will receive your name change order.

As ridiculous as it sounds, some states will require you to announce your name in the city newspaper before you can get an official copy of your name change.

Changing your SSN and driver license is a priority before moving forward.

Don’t feel restrained to use your ex’s name just because the divorce is not finalized. You can go back to using your maiden name freely until you’ve filled out all the legal paperwork.

Choosing to change your last name after a divorce is ultimately a personal preference. Some people want to keep it because they have kids or they wait until they remarry. No matter the reason, it’s entirely up to you.

Can I change my name online?

If you’re confused about the process of the name change and don’t where to start, then you’re in the right place. At HitchSwitch, we work with you every step of the way to help you recover your name without the hassle. Chat with one of our members today to help you get started and receive all the help you need.

May 22, 2019
Why Royal Baby Archie Harrison Doesn’t Have a Title

Meghan Markle has joined the list of celebrities who want their child to lead a normal life. The Duchess of Sussex and Suits star gave birth to a healthy baby boy on Monday, the sixth of May at 5:26 AM. According to their official Instagram account, the royal couple has named the boy Archie Harrison Mountbatten-Windsor.

Yes, it all sounded very American up until that last bit right there. Before we dig deeper into why the name doesn’t have a title, let’s talk more about the reason behind the current name.

The history behind Mountbatten-Windsor goes back to Archie’s great-grandparents, Queen Elizabeth II and Prince Philip. When Prince Philip could not pass his surname onto his children, he hoped that when his wife took the throne, they would hyphenate their name. The Prime Minister at the time (Churchill) did not agree until a declaration by the Queen in Privy Council in 1960. It would become the official last name of the royal family and all male descendants without a title (enter Archie) would bear the name Mountbatten-Windsor.

So why have the happy couple decided not to use an honorary title for their first born?

Simply, they didn’t want to. Archie, who is entitled to be the Earl of Dumbarton and seventh in line for the throne, will not be referred to as Lord, Master, Earl, Duke, or Prince. No need to go to royal weddings, or engage in royal events, photo shoots, duties, private schools, or anything that is required for a Royal.

Just Archie.

This came as no surprise to many as the Duchess isn’t too big on revealing the private portions of her life. In an interview with Newsweek in 2017, Prince Harry says that “maintaining an ordinary life is a high priority.” Even the plans of their birth and where the Duchess would be delivering were kept in the dark. Some things are just not meant to be shared with the public.

So what can we expect from the new royal family of three?

You can still expect to see them on the cover of magazines and attending royal events. But the royal couple is dead set on their child leading a relatively normal life. Even though he has no title in his name (yet?), Archie will forever be entitled to his father’s earldom.

There’s no knowing what will happen after Prince Charles takes the crown. We’ll just have to wait and see.

May 15, 2019
6 Bridal Shower Mistakes to Avoid

Congratulations! You have been bestowed with the honor that BFFs everywhere dream of: the maid of honor. If this is something you’ve been looking forward to and anticipated since the sixth grade, then good for you! If it was unexpected, and you didn’t see it coming… then have fun pulling an all-nighter on how to throw a bridal shower!

Here’s the reality of it; it is not easy and requires some work. But while we can’t tell you how to throw a bridal shower, we can tell you what to avoid.

1. Not Creating a List

If you’ve read any of the previous blogs, you’ll know that we have a slight obsession with list. Like any other event in life, a bridal shower needs to be planned out to the final detail. You’re throwing a party for another person and you’re reaching for perfection, so composing a to-do list is your #1 priority! You need to make a checklist that helps you in preparing for the event. You need to pick a date, a venue, a theme, and make sure you don’t invite anyone the bride wouldn’t want there. Here’s a short list to help you get started.

2. It’s YOUR Money, So Set a Budget

If this is your first time planning a bridal shower, then expenses will be coming out of your pocket. Sit with the bride and get an idea of what she would like. If you feel like it’s out of your budget, you should not feel pressured to continue! You can kindly ask if you can have a co-host! That way, you won’t go home to an empty wallet at the end of the day.

The key is not to overthink anything. You can still organize a memorable party without exceeding your budget limit. Prioritize what is necessary and ask fellow bridesmaids on where to buy decorations, food, or anything else without breaking the bank.

The goal is to spend enough money to throw a beautiful party and still have some left over to buy a gift for the bride.

3. Communication is Essential

Even though we want to avoid telling the bride anything, it is vital that you keep communications open with her on a few topics! Anything you’re reluctant about needs to be consulted with guest of honor! A few matters include guest lists, food, and theme. Always ask the bride for the list of names for the guests 4-6 weeks before the party! If her relatives are going to be coming and she wants to keep the party modest, then you need to keep that in mind when setting up decorations!

This is not a bachelorette party; it’s a bridal shower.

Also, when getting together that guest list and before sending out those invitations, make sure everything is 100% correct. You don’t want a typo, a wrong date, or anyone not knowing what the theme is.

4. Going Solo is a No-No

Hey, we get it, you want everything to be flawless. You want to bask in the glory and take all the praise. Listen, a bridal shower is a ton of work, and if someone offers to help, accept it. If you need help with arrangements, then, by all means, ask a friend for a hand!

Something is always bound to fall between the cracks, and you can still be the boss but with a few helping hands.

5. Granny is Going to be There, So Keep the Fun PG

Again, this is not the bachelorette party, so save the dildos for Vegas.

Refer back to the guest list: will there be relatives present? Are the activities appropriate? Will they make anyone uncomfortable? Co-workers or friends might show up with their kids, so let’s not plan anything that might raise any questions.

6. Not Thinking of Your Guests

You get a gift bag, YOU get a gift bag, EVERYBODY GETS A GIFT BAG!

Also, a thank you card. Want to be the MOH that ranks above all the other maid of honors? Arrange gift bags for all your guests.

You can even customize them by placing each individual’s name on the bag, but that’s optional. Our advice to you when putting a gift back together: keep everything mini. Mini chocolates, mini lotion, mini alcohol bottles, and gift cards for the bride’s closest relatives (mom, sister, grandma).

Being chosen to prep a party for the bride is a great honor. When the day’s over, grab whatever champagne is left and go home. God knows you deserve a break. Good luck and happy planning!

May 8, 2019
These Three Men Changed Their Name After Getting Married and Here’s Why

You probably read that title and thought “wait, what?” I get it; it’s a weird and possibly taboo topic.

Are you saying there are men out there who willingly change their surname to their wife’s?

And the answer is yes, my friends, there is. It is sporadic to find, and I’m not going to lie, it took me forever to find three men willing to talk about their experiences, but in the end, I came out victorious. More and more women today are choosing to keep their last name or deciding to merge last names after marriage. It’s no wonder considering the role of female workers in society rising, political movements, lack of women’s rights brought to light, and same-sex marriage being legalized in 2015.

The following interviewees have changed their last names to their wife’s and here’s why they did it.

Omar Brenly

What thoughts went through your head when you decided to take your wife’s name?

Surprisingly, not much *laughs*. We had been together for over five years and engaged for two, so we knew who was changing what after the wedding. My father’s from Afghanistan and my mother is American, and she took my father’s last name. I’ve never really been one for tradition and work-wise, my wife is the breadwinner of the family so when she told me she was keeping her maiden name, I knew I wanted to take her name as well.

How did your family react to the news of you taking your wife’s name?

My father is a very old fashioned man, so when I first told him, he thought I was joking. He laughed it off and said to me that real men don’t make decisions like these. In his mind, I was throwing away my family name, but I didn’t see it that way. My mother, who’s considerably more open-minded since she grew up in the states did her best to convince him that times have changed, but no luck. I’m still on good terms with him, but if someone were to bring up the subject, God help us all.

Do you ever have second thoughts about changing your name back?

I do not. It’s not something i even think about really. It’s a small sacrifice I was willing to make for my wife and what’s done is done.

Philip Gibbons

Did you face any criticism at the workplace because you took your wife’s name?

You know, it’s hard not to be criticized no matter where you go. The idea that a man can take his wife’s name isn’t even recognizable by society yet. Many of my co-workers thought I was in a same-sex marriage, but when I cleared things up, some jaws dropped. They were shocked, to say the least. To others, it’s a very political topic, when it’s just an intimate decision you make that should concern you and your partner.

What prompted you to take your wife’s name?

My wife is an only child to Irish immigrants. We were discussing merging names or possibly hyphenation when it dawned on her that she didn’t want to lose her family name. At first, we didn’t dig into it because it just seemed like too much work. When we found out we were pregnant; we decided its best to stick to one family name, which was hers.

Do you ever miss going by your birth given name?

It took some getting used to in the beginning, especially the paperwork process and practicing a new signature at work. Now and then, I get nostalgic, but I never regret the decision. I have two children now, who definitely look more like their mother than me *laughs*, so I feel like I made the right choice.

Rogelio Delgado

How did you come to take your wife’s last name?

We were on our honeymoon, and we arrived at the hotel ready to check in. The woman behind the desk addressed me as Mr. Perez and Dr. Delgado, who is my wife. Even before marriage, I knew my wife’s work status would forever outshine me, and it always made me proud to introduce my wife to people as a doctor. You instantly feel the atmosphere shift as soon as a doctor walks in the room, right, and I always told her how envious I was. I knew my wife would not change her name and I had no problem with that considering her name meant a lot in her field. I took her name because I was immensely proud to be married to her.

What has been the biggest challenge for you down this road?

Paperwork, paperwork, and more paperwork! I had to visit the DMV, the SS office, the bank, and everywhere that needed a name change. People would not believe that a man was taking his wife’s name. I saw in people’s eyes how belittling I seemed in front of them. No matter where I went, people were struck with confusion. My family, friends, and peers were sure that it was my wife’s choice and not the other way around. I felt explaining myself was absolutely useless.

How did your wife react when you told her?

She tried to talk me out of it. She insisted we both keep our surnames and not worry about changing them at all. She was sure I was going to go through hell and round-the-clock interrogation from all our friends and family. She was right! But if I could go back and do it all over again, I would. Some people are just worth it.

May 3, 2019
Must-Have Furniture for Newlyweds That Most Couples Miss

Every week, my husband and I reserve two days for movie night, but since he was out of town, I spent my movie night at a girlfriend’s house. Whoever hasn’t watched The Revenant needs to get on that right now. I’m dead serious, you guys, I’m basically a survival expert now..

Anywho, as I was watching Leo eat raw buffalo meat (spoiler alert), I noticed something I usually wouldn’t have noticed before. My friend- a newlywed by the way- did not own a coffee table. You see, if it were any other day, I wouldn’t have cared because I’m too busy other days to care. At that moment, I didn’t know where to place my beer or my pint of Ben and Jerry’s (we go hard). When I asked her about it, she claimed she was “getting to it” but Kayla, I’ve known you all my life.

You’re not getting to it.

For all my newly married couples out there, don’t be a Kayla and don’t slack on necessary furniture. Here are a few furniture pieces every couple should have in their home.

1. Coffee Table

Yes, we need to talk about it some more because a coffee table is the center of your living room. Without it, it’s just a giant space that will haunt you in your sleep. Imagine Superman without the giant S on his chest…that’s how your sofa feels without a table. It’s where guests will place their cups (and beers!), where you’ll dump your stack of magazines, the place where your partner will put up their feet at the end of a long day, and so much more!

It’s a great addition to any home and thanks to our friend the internet; you can choose amongst thousands of different styles. You can want something as extravagant as this

Brianna Coffee Table- $189.99

or something simple like this

Spurgeon Modern Simplistic Criss-Crossed Coffee Table- $44.99

2. Extra Chairs or Beanbags

It’s bound to happen. It will be your turn to host Thanksgiving and someone will almost always bring along a friend, a co-worker, or their mom. You never really think about it, but sometimes things don’t go as planned.

If your living space is too tight, you always want to have a few fold-up chairs stored somewhere. You can’t have half your guests on a couch, and the rest sitting on the floor. If you pull out a few chairs (beanbags for bonus points), it will only show how considerate and caring you are towards the people that enter your home.

3. Bookshelves (or any shelves in general)

What can I say about shelves that haven’t already been said? I always felt like they were doing the work for me. Shelves are incredibly versatile furniture, are easy to work with, and can be set up anywhere in the house. You could install them in the hallway, the living room, the kitchen, the bedroom, and the bathroom. Just name any room in the house, and it’ll probably be better off with shelves.

Why? Because shelves give the room an orderly feel. You can place books, cases, frames, and even treasured antiques for a complete look. They’re inexpensive and you can find thousands of DIY ideas on Pinterest. If you’re lazy like me and somehow always hurt yourself while screwing a nail into a wooden board, then you’re probably better off heading to your nearest IKEA.

4. Artwork

The great thing about art is that everyone perceives it differently. Thirty people could be looking at the same painting and each one would have a different story to tell. So why do we need art in our homes?

For one, art is a form of expression. People can walk in and see a painting of a field of sunflowers and consider you to be a light and joyous person. It gives your guest a bit of intel about the kind of person you are. Any art can breathe life into a room and spark conversation amongst you and your guests. If you’re a painter yourself, hang a piece of your work at the entrance or living room.

If you’re a lover of art, but are on a budget, Minted is a great website that offers incredible paintings and supports independent artists.

5. A New Mattress

Let’s be honest here.

A new mattress should have been on top of the list. Your old mattress has seen better days, and your partner’s probably isn’t better off. Purchasing a new bed is not only the adult thing to do, but it’s also undoubtedly the best thing to do. When you’re a newly married couple, you want to bring comfort into your new home, and mattresses are the epitome of comfort!

Mattresses can be expensive, but with the power of the internet, I found the perfect store. It caters to all your mattress needs at an affordable price.

6. Plants

Not sure if this one counts as furniture, but I’m going to add it to the list, anyway. Everyone on the planet should have planets in their home! They are literal symbols of life and wellness! They purify the air, they’re refreshing, and they make your house feel like a home.

That last one is a big one, but I personally believe that by bringing life into a house, it will feel more like a home. You can find potted plants at your local grocery store and even your 99 cent store. Your choices are endless!

Happy shopping!

April 8, 2019
The Importance of Sharing a Surname with Your Kids: What to Consider
The Importance of Sharing a Surname with Your Kids: What to Consider

In today’s evolving landscape, many people are thoughtfully deciding to keep their maiden name after marriage. The reasons are diverse and deeply personal, often stemming from a desire to maintain independence, preserve a professional identity, or simply avoid the societal pressure to change. Some feel a strong connection to their birth name, seeing it as a vital part of their identity that they wish to preserve.

But as families grow and children enter the picture, a new question often arises: Will your children carry your last name, your partner’s, or a combination of both? While the decision about surnames is entirely personal, it’s widely recognized that having a different last name from your children can present unique considerations and, at times, unexpected challenges.

It’s widely known that having a different surname from your children will produce a few problems. The most prominent one (which is actually not that big of a problem) would always be correcting people’s assumptions about you. Most people will assume you’re divorced, considering that your child has a different name than yours.

Everyday Perceptions and Identity

Perhaps the most common experience is the frequent need to clarify assumptions. When your child has a different surname, people may often presume you are divorced or not the biological parent. While this isn’t a “major problem” in the grand scheme, consistently correcting these assumptions can become tiring over time. As children grow older, they become more observant. They might notice that their surname doesn’t match yours, leading to questions about family identity. While many parents are comfortable addressing these inquiries, it’s a conversation worth being prepared for.

Considerations for Travel and Official Situations

Beyond daily interactions, more significant issues can arise, particularly when traveling internationally or dealing with official documentation. Consider the experience of Hannah Marshall, who was stopped by border control because her daughter did not share her last name. She was suspected of attempting to abduct the child. This highlights a serious concern: authorities are highly vigilant about child trafficking and abduction.

Due to these safeguards, if you’re traveling with children who have a different surname from yours, you may be asked to provide additional legal documents. This could include:
- The child’s birth certificate (listing both parents).
- A consent letter from the other parent (if they are not traveling with you).
- Your marriage certificate or divorce decree, depending on the situation.
UK Home Office clarified this procedure is in place to safeguard children, but it can lead to significant delays and stress if you’re unprepared.

Administrative Hurdles: School, Medical, and Legal Forms

The surname difference can also introduce minor administrative complexities in various aspects of your daily life:
- School Applications and Emergency Contacts: When enrolling children in school or filling out emergency contact forms, a name discrepancy might prompt extra questions or require additional proof of your parental relationship. In an emergency, schools are more likely to verify identity with a matching surname, potentially causing slight delays.
- Doctor’s Visits and Medical Consent: At a doctor’s office, you might face additional scrutiny when providing medical consent or accessing records if your last name doesn’t match your child’s. Having readily available identification that links you to your child (like a birth certificate) is crucial.
- Parental Consent for Minors: For situations requiring parental permission, such as a teenager applying for a learner’s permit at the DMV or seeking job employment, you may need to provide robust documentation to prove your legal relationship. While these issues are generally resolvable, they can become roadblocks without proper preparation.
These scenarios, while often manageable, underscore the importance of understanding potential complications and ensuring you have all necessary supporting documentation readily available.

Making Your Informed Decision

Ultimately, the choice of surname for both parents and children is a deeply personal one. There’s no universal “right” answer, and families are increasingly embracing diverse naming conventions. However, being aware of the potential practical implications—from clarifying assumptions to navigating border control—can help you make an informed decision that works best for your family.

Whatever path you choose, remember that HitchSwitch is here to simplify your name change needs. Whether you’re considering adopting your partner’s surname, creating a new hyphenated name, or ensuring consistency with your children’s last name, our service provides the customized forms and step-by-step instructions to make the process as seamless as possible.

Ready to simplify your name change journey? Let HitchSwitch take the stress out of updating your identity, ensuring all your documents reflect your chosen surname with ease.
April 3, 2019