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  • What You Need to Know Before Taking a Passport Photo

    What You Need to Know Before Taking a Passport Photo

    + the How-to on our NewPassportPhoto App

    Applying or renewing legal documents is an austere process, especially nowadays. Every application comes with its own set of rules, and if you can’t keep up, you’ll end up getting pulled over for an expired license because a trip to the DMV just seemed like a pain in the behind. 

    Passport photos are bound to come up every few years, and honestly, you’d think it would be reasonably manageable. Still, the U.S State Department has other plans for you, and taking a passport photo is not exactly the smoothest process. 

    But worry not, if you follow these rules, then it won’t seem like such a headache. 

     

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    Firstly, to answer everyone’s number one burning question regarding this method… yes, you can take the photos on your own, but read carefully and follow all the guidelines, so you get it right the first time around. 

    Some of the following information has been cited from the U.S. Department of State website.

    No matter what country you hail from, all passport backgrounds will be a solid color. In the U.S, it’s white, but few countries offer other light colors. Sites such as MyPassportPhotos provide you with the rules based on your home country. 

    If you are planning to get your photo taken, large retailers such as CVS, Walgreens, and Costco offer low prices that go as little as $6. All passport photos must be 2X2 inches, and “head must be between 1 -1 3/8 inches (25 – 35 mm) from the bottom of the chin to the top of the head”. 

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

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    When it comes to resolution and quality, it goes without saying that your photo cannot be blurry or grainy. We’re talking 4K resolution pictures, and there are no excuses, considering everyone offers that option, and an iPhone camera is basically a Canon. If you are planning on using an app and printing your photos, then you need to invest in the glossy print paper such as these. You cannot alter your photo (body features) in any way through programs such as Photoshop or PicMonkey.   

    When it comes to poses and expressions, it’s better to show you than tell you. Here’s an example of right and wrong. 

     

     

     

     

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    That is the definition of neutral. Are you happy? Sad? We’ll never know because this is the required expression. Your face should be facing the camera, not sideways, upwards, or any way your face is not in full view. 

    Attire is not too difficult to adhere to, I promise. This is not America’s Next Top Model, so please leave your fashion statements at home. There is no need to overthink what to wear, so stay casual as usual. Dress like you’re running your everyday errands. 

    In 2016, the State Department passed a no glasses rule in passport photos. Unless you have a severe medical reason and a letter from your doctor, then glasses are a no-no. If you wear a head covering for religious reasons, then you need a “signed statement that verifies that the hat or head covering in your photo is part of traditional religious attire worn continuously in public.”  

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    Even if your head cover is acceptable, it cannot be covering your face or “cast shadows on your face”. Same goes with facial piercings; as long as they’re not hiding your face, they can stay on. 

    We created NewPassportPhoto for one reason only, and that’s because we don’t want you to go through the hassle that is getting your photo taken. Doing it from the comfort of your own home is what we’re about, as simplicity is our aim. 

    You download the app, snap a photo, and that’s it, you’ve got the perfect picture. Plus, if you order one of our premium packages, we will gladly enhance, print, and ship your photos to you: no more hassle, no more wasting time, and no more mugshots. 

    Let us help you get one step closer to your ideal photo.

     

  • Affordable Winter Getaways for the Newlyweds 

    Affordable Winter Getaways for the Newlyweds 

    Friends, can you believe we’re already two weeks into the new year? How? The last couple of weeks feel like they never even existed. Half the time, I was in a food coma…or passed out drunk. 

    You probably were, too, so let’s not judge. While that was fun, it’s now time to snap back to reality and resume our rightful duties. 

    Over the break, one of my dearest friends got engaged, yay! If I’m honest, the night is kind of blurry, but I do remember drunkenly opening a very expensive bottle of champagne to celebrate. 

    My partner was not happy. What’s done is done, and now it’s time to (help) plan a wedding! Granted, I do have until the end of the year considering their wedding in November, but that’s what makes this so exciting. Everything is more enjoyable in winter! And a hell of a lot cheaper!

     Related Article: Planning a Winter Wedding?

    But recently, I’ve discovered The Secret. It’s not really about the wedding. It’s about what happens after. It’s about the honeymoon, the getaway, exotic cities, and the newlywed suite with little bottles of alcohol for $9…so I want to help you find the most affordable places to get that. Here are some insanely affordable winter getaways that won’t break the bank. 

    Vienna, Austria 

    I’ve written so much about Vienna in winter because it is an absolute Christman wonderland. That’s why around December, they have a high tourism season, so waiting till after New Year’s may be the more suitable option. Known for its Christmas market, love of music, exceptional coffee cafes, palaces, and giant Ferris wheel, Vienna was voted number one city for its quality of life (Independent). 

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    It’s no wonder millions of tourists flock there around the holiday season. If you choose to get away to Vienna post-holidays, you’ll find incredible sales, better accommodations, lower rates for air travel, and the festive atmosphere still in motion. But make sure to pack extra sweaters, it’s freezing over here! 

    Costa Rica

    Rainforests, tropical beaches, dreamy sunsets, and majestic scenery. The dry season (mid-December to April) is commonly known as the best time to visit this tropical paradise. While temperatures range from region to region, this location is an affordable getaway no matter what time of year. 

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    According to Kayak, the cheapest ticket found from the U.S to Costa Rica can be as low as $200. It’s always recommended to book in advance, no matter the destination, but if you’re looking for an adventurous and incredibly affordable honeymoon, then Costa Rica maybe your dream escape. Make sure to bring along small bills because you do not want to leave without souvenirs for family and friends! 

    Tampa, Florida 

    If you’re looking for a warm, modest, reasonable, and amiable location, then look no further than Tampa. Florida gets a bad rep as a vacation choice, but if you dig deeper, you’ll find it’s a relaxing getaway nonetheless. If you’re in the U.S, then driving to Florida is an option, but even if you choose flying, prices can go as low as $200 (Kayak). 

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    Here is a list of budget-friendly hotels that go as low as $200 and are near some of Tampa’s best tourist attractions. 

    Banff, Canada

    According to U.S News Travel, Banff was voted #2 in the best places to visit in Canada. And for all the right reasons, of course. If you’re looking for a romantic, icy getaway, but can’t afford to fly to the wintery slopes of Switzerland, then Banff is an ideal alternative. 

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    Filled with wildlife, fairytale landscape, hikes, tours, and gondola rides, Banff is an experience you will never forget. The best time to visit this secluded gem in the Canadian Rockies is December to March when the weather is slightly warmer, and hotel rates are at a more reasonable cost.  

    New Orleans, Louisiana 

    Ok, why New Orleans? If you’re a foodie like me, you know. But if you’re a foodie and a blues & jazz lover, then you know. I’m talking Cafe Beignet, Mr. B’s Bistro, GW Fins, BB King’s Blue Clubs, and so much more! The bucket list for foods to devour is endless. 

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    But enough about the food (as if anything else matters), let’s get into why Crescent City was ranked number one place to visit in February (U.S News Travel). You always want to make weather one of your priorities when traveling, and New Orleans in the winter is the best time. You can explore nearly everything on foot here, and as long as you’re not planning on staying in the French Quarters, the accommodations rate is reasonably priced. Tickets go as low as $60 (CheapOair)! That leaves your pocket full for all that excellent Creole cuisine you’re going to eat! 

    Bring your partying pants with you, because New Orleans is truly the city that never sleeps. 

     

  • New Year, New You! What to Consider When Changing Your Name 

    New Year, New You! What to Consider When Changing Your Name 

    Of all the things to think about when planning a wedding, a name change might be at the top of your list. In today’s modern world, it is more socially acceptable to change your name to whatever you want. When it comes to the final decision regarding changing your name, here are a few options to consider. 

    Stick With The Name Your Mama Gave Ya

    You decide to stick with the name given to you at birth because of obvious reasons. Every person has an idea as to why they keep their name as is and there’s nothing wrong with that. By keeping your maiden name, you’ll save yourself the trouble of filling out countless applications and visits to the happiest place on earth: the DMV. It’s widely known that in many parts of the world, a woman taking her husband’s last name is not only mandatory but what makes a marriage last. With the numbers of women seeking a part in the work field quickly on the rise, the percentage of women keeping their maiden name for professional reasons is a prominent one. 

    Pragya Agarwal, a researcher the University of Liverpool and business owner of Hedge and Hog Prints states that her name is a “huge part” of her identity and being responsible for several academic publications, “it did not make sense to change it.” It also makes that women will keep their maiden name to be credited for the professional work they present in their field. 

     

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    Take Your Spouse’s Name

    The most common-traditional route. Several women in today’s world choose to take their spouse’s last name after marriage. The procedure is a long one but can be fairly explained here. 

    First, the couple needs to obtain an official copy of their marriage certificate. Depending on which state you reside in, you’ll end up paying a different fee for a copy (you will probably need more than one). You will then need to apply for a new SSN (completely free) along with your ID and marriage certificate. You can either choose to mail in your form or head over to the nearest Social Security office. 

    Next up is your driver license and passport. Again, depending on where you live, fees will vary. Be sure to fill out the appropriate forms for a new passport after the name change. If you are a frequent traveler, you don’t want your ID stating a different name than your passport. That won’t look too good when you’re trying to board that plane to Bora Bora for your honeymoon. 

     

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    Click here if you need to update your passport photo from the comfort of your home. 

    Hyphenate Your Names

    If you want to hyphenate your name-taking both maiden names and combining them to make two family names- you will still have to go through the same name change process and fill out the same applications. Read more about the process here. 

    Some people choose to hyphenate their names as soon as they get married, and some like Nicole Bradley-Bernard decided to change it after six years of marriage. In her article, she states that her long-awaited decision came after the realization of self-importance. She goes on to say how one’s name shouldn’t be tossed out just because of outdated traditions. 

     

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    By choosing to have your husband’s name does not mean you need to give up yours. It’s always been expected of women to give up their identity after marriage, and alas, women are stepping up and holding on to their original status. Hyphenating your last names is a great way to keep your name and take your husband’s name. It’s also a great example of unity within a family once couples decide to bring children in the picture. 

    Change Name Legally, But Keep It Professional

    Hannah Montana said it best: you get the best of both worlds. 

    This is the route I took because my career depends on my name. I’ll admit, it has not been easy because it causes some confusion among my peers and friends. It’s like having two identities and of course, people constantly asking why I don’t just use my husband’s last name. 

     

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    Imagine working your butt off for the work you do, just to put it under a different name that isn’t even you! I mean, that’s how I saw it, at least. Like I said above, more women are becoming part of the work field, and most nowadays are keeping their maiden name because it is their professional name. If this the route you want to pursue, be sure to consider all the pros and cons of the decision.

    Create A Hybrid Last Name

    Yes, this is an actual thing. If all the above options aren’t to your liking, you can make up your last name. I mean, seriously, how fun would that be? If I knew about this option, I would’ve changed my last name to Stark nine years ago. With the eighth season of Game of Thrones coming out, it becomes more tempting as the days go by…

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    Winter is officially here, you guys. If Jon Snow doesn’t end up on the throne, my life will officially have no meaning. 

    For a list of people who completely changed their last name and didn’t have a single regret, click

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    Make sure to let your work of employment, government agencies, your bank, and social media know of your name change after changing it. 

  • How to Start the New Year Full of Positivism 

    How to Start the New Year Full of Positivism 

    Can you believe that the end of the decade is coming to an end in just a week? It’s surreal how quick this year passed by, and if you’re like me, you’re ecstatic to start a new year, a fresh slate, and new plans to change for the better. Forget resolutions! People create them out of sheer pressure, which results in never sticking to their goal. 

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    If the year has been a doozy for you, you’re not alone. Think of the year 2020 as a clean slate for you, another chance to start that business you’ve had in mind, participate in more activities, make a commitment to your health, and mentor yourself mentally to be the bigger and better person.  

    Thoughts Have Power

    When I decided to change my life for the better, the last thing I considered was the incredible power my thoughts had over my being. When someone tells you that by altering your thoughts, you can change your life, you would think they’re insane. 

    All that talk about frequency and vibrations and water crystals reacting to positive and negative phrases sound like absolute crazy talk. But it works, it’s true, it’s life-changing. 

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    Several studies have been conducted and have proven that thoughts ultimately make you who you are and are the road you pave to your future. In a YourStory article, journalist Rakhi Chakraborty states how based on new research, “the more self-critical and judgmental you are, the more your subconscious will work to convince you of your worthlessness. But if you make a habit of surrounding yourself with positive reminders and vibes, then the same thoughts will direct your actions towards goal-oriented behavior.”

    Listen to Podcasts

    If you have a phone or a radio, then you have access to thousands of podcasts. Thousands. According to the Pew Research Center, “As of 2019, 51% of Americans ages 12 or older have ever listened to a podcast”. Without a doubt, I owe such a significant credit to the podcasts I listen to because they have changed my life. 

    I have worked harder, studied longer, and changed every aspect of my health just listening to podcasts. That’s how powerful they are. Most of these guys are doctors, psychologists, coaches, mindset mentors, and their words, and advice is holy and valuable. 

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    Invest in a journal and take notes on every podcast you listen to. Most range from five to 15 minutes so you can listen to them while doing the dishes, driving to work, warming up at the gym, or taking a bike ride around the block. Here is a list of mindset shifting podcasts, but one that is not on the list (my personal favorite), is right here. 

    Take Control of Your Health

    Do you ever wonder why everybody’s New Year’s goal is to get fit and follow a healthier diet? What goes into your body and how you spend your free time is reflected in the life you live. Does that make sense? 

    According to Entrepreneur, “Exercise is one thing most successful people do everyday.” The reasons are endless and every person has their answer to why they work out and stay healthy. It doesn’t settle at exercise! Health is primarily mental, but it’s also what goes on your plate, plus the words that come out of your mouth. Accepting yourself is the first and most significant step to taking care of your health.

    Productivity Is Never An Accident

    Productivity is never an accident. It is always the result of a commitment to excellence, intelligent planning, and focused effort.” ~ Paul J. Meyer

    Paul J. Meyer is my go-to for motivation. No matter how distressed I get, how unmotivated I am, I always come back to this quote. Go ahead, reread it, I’ll wait. 

     

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    When you have an important presentation at work-despite how tired you may be-you force yourself to put in your absolute most hard work in and get it done. The same thing goes for finals and starting your own business. Life-changing events require work, effort, determination, stubbornness, and high productivity. 

    Write Down Your Goals

    A study conducted by Dr. Gail Matthews on goal-setting found “that you become 42% more likely to achieve your goals and dreams, simply by writing them down on a regular basis.” Mary Morrissey explains it more in detail here. 

    By writing down your goals, you are training discipline. You recognize that you have goals- specific goals. It’s vital that you know what your goal is and be very distinct about it. That is what will drive you to achieve those goals. 

     

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    There is an order to writing down your goals, and Elite Daily does a perfect job explaining how and why it’s so critical. Click here to read more. 

     

  • Last Minute Present Ideas for the Holidays 

    Last Minute Present Ideas for the Holidays 

    Ever been scrolling through Instagram or Facebook, and you see a friend’s post with the geotag, “IT’S MY BIRTHDAY.” 

    Yikes. It doesn’t necessarily have to be a birthday. We get wrapped up in our busy lives, so we tend to forget birthdays, holidays, anniversaries, or any other promising event. We’ve all been there. Hell, maybe some of us are there right now. With Christmas right around the corner, it’s challenging to find some time to scour for presents. 

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    Worry not, for even last-minute presents can hold sentimental meaning. Here’s a list of gifts that you can always grab last minute that is a surefire way to delight your family and friends.

    Fleece Blankets 

    Extremely Soft. Cuddly. Fluffy. Plus, it’s the winter season, so why wouldn’t this be the perfect gift? Here’s why this particular gift is number one on the list: it keeps you warm, it feels like an angel is embracing you, you can take it anywhere, people LOVE blankets, and most importantly, it can be found anywhere and won’t break the bank! 

     Homemade Cookies

    What says, “I’m always thinking of you” more than homemade sweets? Many people might have mixed emotions about someone offering anything handmade, but if someone went out of their way to bake you something, be appreciative. It’s attentive and shows that you’re willing to give something rather than show up empty-handed. 

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    This option is also great for people who can’t afford to provide presents this year. Here’s a list of easy homemade cookies that’ll win their hearts. 

    Pajama Set

    Add this to your fleece blanket, and you’ve got the best gift any human adult could ask for, trust me. Well, and socks. Sad, I know, but if you were ever a broke college student, then you get it. 

    Pajama sets don’t have to be extravagant. Really, the simpler, the better. But also, silkier, the better. The best thing about pajamas is that it isn’t a one-time thing. It stays with that person for years, and they’ll think of you every time they wear it!

    Candles

    Raise your hands if September starts and your candle obsessions awaken along with the crisp, bitter air. Let me tell you the story of my crazy candle craze. Once upon a time, Yankee Candle had a massive sale on their candles. I’m obsessed with their Christmas Cookie scent. 

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    I bought 12. I’m not proud, but I surprisingly have no regrets. Candles are the most underrated gifts ever. Even in the movies, they show them to be worthless gifts, but they’re not. They make your home smell like vanilla and cedar and eucalyptus and freakin’ Christmas Cookie!

    Gift Cards

    Lots of mixed emotions about this, as well. But why? 

    Even if you feel like that person didn’t put enough thought into bringing you something, you can now buy something you want on your own. It’s a hell of a lot better than them bringing you something you didn’t want in the first place. Plus, they have Visa gift cards, so if you’re not sure what their favorite retailer is, then give them the gift of everything. 

    Godiva Hot Chocolate and Coffee Set 

    Coffee lovers, unite! 

    I guess chocolate lovers can come, too. I would love it if someone recognized my coffee addiction and turned it into a present. This godsent set includes “a white and gold ceramic mug, a 2-ounce package of truffle coffee, a 1.4-ounce package of dark chocolate cocoa and a 1.1-ounce package of milk chocolate cocoa.” 

     

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    People, c’mon, hot beverages, and Belgium chocolate on a wintry day. It’s an ideal and genuinely kind gift. 

    Board Games/Puzzles

    Holiday time is about family time, right? I see a few of you cringing, I see you. 

    Even if we can’t be around the family during the holidays, there’s always a chance at family fun night, where we play Monopoly until someone flips over the board game out of pure frustration. 

    It’s good stuff. Board games (NOT Monopoly) are great activities to get the family together and bring out your competitive side. Unless that’s your only side, then you can’t sit with us. Puzzles are a one group thing, and since everyone will be eager to finish, it’s an excellent idea for any night of the week. 

    Thrift Shopping

    You heard me. You can bring an empty cardboard box with you to a thrift shop, fill it up with clothes, records, books, accessories, and will only leave with $10 out of your wallet. 

     

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    It does not mean you opted for the cheapest option but instead decided that why get one thing per person, when you can get them a year’s supply of novels and if you’re lucky like me, a Duke Ellington record. 

    Champagne / Mulled Wine

    Mulled wine, or spiced wine, is a necessity for our home during the holidays. I’m the only one who drinks it, but it keeps my hands warm, and isn’t that what the holidays are all about?? Staying warm and getting drunk on hot booze? 

     

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    If mulled wine is not your thing, no worries, the options are endless. 

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    Now we’re talking last minute-last minute here. If all else fails, just hand them a crisp 50 or 100 dollar bill. It’s possible the best thing you can do, especially if you have picky loved ones. It doesn’t require much thought, and they can buy something they’ve had their eye on with it. 

     

  • How to Afford Holiday Presents Without Breaking the Bank 

    How to Afford Holiday Presents Without Breaking the Bank 

    Ah, the holidays. Oh, the holidays.

    Well, which one are you? If you say both, I get it. You believe that this time of year is all about spending time with family, reuniting with friends, eating long buffets of food, enjoying your vacation, and hoping your bank balance won’t show negative by the end of all the holiday shopping. Everyone has different views on how these last couple of months should be celebrated, but we all can agree on one thing: if there’s any way we can spend less money, we want to know about it. I mean, you spend the whole year saving up and earning this hard-earned money, so why not spend it gradually? 

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    Here a few consumer-friendly tricks to help you pick out the best presents without hopefully drying out your wallet. 

    Review Your Budget

    Before you start adding up your spending list, take a look at your bank balance. Why not sit down and ask yourself: how much can I really afford to spend this year? It’s not a shameless question, and you shouldn’t feel obliged to use any money if you are incapable. 

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    Certain groups of people such as college students, unemployed relatives, and even the ones with underpaid jobs with long hours have a long list of things to think about, and they’re all more likely to be 100% more important than buying you a gift!

    Who Made the List?

    It’s incredible how many people you can eliminate from your list once you’ve set a budget. Some people are meant to be prioritized, and that’s the cold hard truth. Usually, the top three people to make it are your partner, your mom, and your dad. 

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    Usually. Many of us can’t be home for the holidays, which results in online shopping (and shipping), which in most cases, is expensive. We’ll get into that later. 

    What I’m saying is your friend Dave from work does not need a present, nor does anyone else you “sometimes” hang around. Again, it’s crucial to prioritize the most relevant people in your life, so you don’t overspend. 

     Comparison and Affordability

    We live in a futuristic system, which means there is a replica for everything ever created. Take Airpods, for example. They go as high as $300… That’s crazy for a pair of Bluetooth earphones considering there are hundreds more that provide the same function. 

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    Brand names are just that…brands. Don’t lose yourself in today’s marketing, where their ultimate goal is to sell you their low-cost products for an outlandish price. People, we live in the internet era. If you can find the product you need for a more moderate amount and it’s highly suggested by other users, buy it. Take advantage of the ratings!

    Coupons Are Life Savers (Literally)

    I could say that and be done with it. Seriously. When I think of coupons, I automatically think of Bath and Body Works because they’re out here giving out coupons like it’s nothing. Obviously, I’m more than ok with that. But I’m honestly wondering at this point, how many candles are considered too many? 

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    Anyways, coupons and promo codes are especially helpful when it comes to purchasing products. You can indeed find anything online, but to be safe, check out these money-saving apps that will change the way you view spending. 

    Holiday Shopping Isn’t Just for the Holidays

    Companies tend to have annual or weekly sales throughout the year. Of course, we cannot forget the most critical day of the year (for me, at least), Black Friday. 

    Yes, a day so legendary that it has spread to over 15 countries. Also, you can find wild deals on Amazon year-round, so keep your eyes peeled! There’s nothing wrong with purchasing gifts at a lower price and saving them for this particular time of year. Be the savvy smart shopper your mother always wanted you to be.

    Online Instead of In Line

    Remember when we used to go into retail stores, wander around, ask for help, and pay with cash? It’s a nostalgic time, that’s for sure. According to CNBC, “Online sales are now the fourth largest sector overall, bringing in about $59.8 billion in adjusted sales for February (2019)”. 

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    You may have noticed it in…yourself. You prefer to buy things from the comfort of your own home, and that’s perfectly fine. The speed at which people are switching to online shopping is genuinely terrifying. When Amazon becomes the only retailer left out there, just know we- as a negligent generation- made it happen.

    If You Can’t Afford It, Ignore It

    Simple as that. Remember that priority list we talked about? Keep going back to it because it is imperative. It may sound harsh, especially for this time of year, but you don’t “owe” anyone anything, I promise. If people understand your situation, then they will have no problem with you not being able to buy them a six hundred espresso coffee machine.

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    It’s the holidays. If you didn’t know, it was never about materialism. It’s about family, closest friends, and realizing how blessed you are to have a plate of food on your table. Soak in all the love, enjoy the laughs, and cherish these memories! 

     

    Happy Holidays! 

     

  • Planning a Winter Wedding? 

    Planning a Winter Wedding? 

    Here’s What You Need to Know

    It is finally wintertime and baby; it’s freakin’ cold outside! ‘Tis the season of spices, pumpkins, lattes, and hectic holiday shopping. Let’s not forget the Christmas decorating and family hosting. It’s no surprise that the last few months of the year are the reason your cortisol levels run off the charts. 

    Now imagine doing all that plus planning a wedding. Yikes. Merely thinking about it makes my insides feel like jelly! But because of their fondness for the beautiful wintertime season, many people plan their wedding around the end of the year or the beginning of the new year. The air is crisp, the world from the moon looks pearl white, the venues are cheaper (most important), and it’s a beautiful way to start the new year with your partner! 

    Here a few secrets and tips to help you ease your stress and the plan for the perfect winter wedding!

    Venues

    You must’ve known how vital booking the right venue is at this time of year! It’s crucial when picking out a site in the winter that you consider the distance, the accommodations, and the weather forecast. The days are shorter in winter, so you need to arrange a time to tour the venue during the daytime to get a good idea of what awaits you. 

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    People, don’t be afraid to go with your gut feeling, it’s there for a reason! Ask yourself, is this venue nearby the guests? Does it appear cordial and welcoming? If it rains, do they have umbrellas for the guests or indoor accommodations?

    Also, try to negotiate a deal with the manager of the venue. This is the off-peak season, so you’re very likely to score a discount on your reservation. After the holidays, even wedding suppliers are more likely to have discounts! If you’re anticipating unfavorable weather, always ask the supplier if they’ll be able to make it despite that. Again, stormy weather guarantees traffic, so consider keeping the same venue for both the ceremony and reception.

    Attire 

    What do you and the bridesmaids have in common today? You both want to stay warm because honey, it is cold! I’ve seen so many new trends this past year that pass off as chic, dreamy, fresh, and “hey, I don’t want to freeze to death” fur coats. 

    Listen to me; this important. Invest in a pair of white thermal leggings for you and your bridesmaids. I grew up in southern California, so you better believe when I got married, it was 65 degrees outside, and I was wearing thermal leggings underneath my long sleeve David’s Bridal wedding dress. 

     

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    I see you judging me, but this is a judge-free zone, people, so let’s keep it civil.

    If you are planning outdoor photography in snowy/rainy weather, protect your shoes by investing in a can of spray shoe protector. If you’re planning something more adventurous like being knee-deep in the mud, then high leather rain boots are your go-to. Best possibility? You have two pairs of shoes.  

    Grooms, you’ve got a hell of a lot more options. According to Hitched, “Thick fabrics like velvet, tweed, and tartan are warm and look incredibly chic on grooms and groomsmen.” You can even wear earmuffs, and it’d still look pretty damn good.

    Theme/Setting 

    I get it; it’s winter, so your wedding has to be a winter wonderland. Good news, it doesn’t. 

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    Color schemes like gold, burgundy, grey, lavender, and dark shades of green are perfect for rainy and (if you’re lucky) snowy days. Even if it’s just one color, you always want that “pop” in the room. Click here for some colorful inspiration! 

    Food

    Cold weather calls for tons of comfort food! Personally, my winter menu always consists of lentil soups and cheese bowls. Don’t even get me started on my sweet tooth around this time of year. 

     

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    Your guests are likely to be the same way. They crave a meal that makes them feel warm in their tummy and desserts sweet enough to take comfort in. The options are endless, and The Knot has some of the perfect ideas to help you get started! Click here to learn more!

    Guests 

    I worked in retail for over ten years. Every year, I witnessed the same thing — crazy spending during the holiday and unbelievably dull movement after New Year’s. People wouldn’t resume their regular shopping till Mid-march, and that’s the earliest. 

    If you didn’t know, people spend heaps of cash during the holidays and retreat when their bank accounts are hungry again. 

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    Consider this: how much will it cost your guest to arrive at your reception? Is it by car, by plane, by train? The weather is unpredictable at times, so if a majority of guests are nearby, try keeping the venue an hour (two hours tops) by driving. Again, lousy weather equals terrible traffic, and if you’re planning this wedding in January, then people are either going home or coming home. Expect a few guests to be delayed or not show up at all. 

    Once they arrive, greet them with their choice of hot drink (tea, coffee, hot chocolate, etc.). It’s something little, but it shows you care, you appreciate them coming, and most importantly, it warms their hands. 

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    If your reception is indoors, think about providing blankets for your guests and renting space heaters if your set up is outside. 

     

     

  • How To: The Perfect Girls’ Night out

    How To: The Perfect Girls’ Night out

    For most working women (stay at home moms counts, too), it continuously feels like there’s never enough hours in the day to relax. It doesn’t matter whether you’re married, you have kids, you’re in school, or you have a 9 to 5 job; attempting to find time to reconcile with your girlfriends is challenging. I kid you not, every single day, the same thought will cross my mind: you haven’t seen your friends in forever, you’re a horrible human being. 

    And it’s true; I am horrible for not managing to get together with some of my closest friends just because my working mom life sucks any energy out of me. 

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    Times like these, I take a deep breathe and remind myself how precious these friendships are to me, and missing out on time together was going to bite me in the ass in the long run. 

    So if one of your New Year’s goals is to spend more time with your loved ones, then we’re here to help you plan the perfect girl’s night out! 

    Indoors or Outdoors

    Yes, I know it says girls’ night out, but not all of us want to be out there. In public. In the wild. 

    You see, what happens is this: we hype the idea of a night out, we get insane and make all these plans, then when the time comes, we genuinely do not want to leave the house. 

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    Call it what you want, but the house we’re in 90% of the time is where we’re the most content, so why not? It’s best to understand what your girlfriends are most comfortable doing. So many more women are in the work field nowadays, and many prefer to stay indoors, while the stay-at-home mommies want a night out. It’s ok if nothing goes as planned, but deciding where you’re going to have a good time is a priority. 

    Movies Are Always a Good Idea 

    This Thanksgiving, I am thankful for Netflix, Hulu, HBO, LifeTime, Disney+, and every network out there that have succeeded in juicing my credit card every month. 

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    I don’t care if you’re having a night out in your backyard, because no matter where you decide to be, movie marathons are always an excellent idea. You can even have a drinking game for every time the male lead takes his shirt off, because if you’re not watching Channing Tatum get half-naked, then what are you doing?

    Who’s Buying Drinks?

    Alcohol. That’s it. I mean, please let that be it. If you invite me out for a girl’s night out and provide me with the correct amount of alcohol, I will be fine. I will not bother you for anything else, so let it be known. We’re all here to take some edge off, and what better way than to drink away the stress? Moderately, of course. 

    Carbs Don’t Exist Tonight. 

    I’m talking pasta, burgers, fries, pizza, garlic knots (duh), cakes, cookies, and a freakin’ chocolate fountain. I don’t want “snacks,” so it’s time to get your shit together and order a copious amount of chocolate from Amazon, Karen. Or you can hit up a restaurant you’ve had your eye on for a while! 

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    It’s difficult to speak for all women, but I’ll tell you this: if my girlfriends and an open buffet surround me, I will eat. It’s actually ridiculous how much I can eat when a two-year-old isn’t grabbing at my leg, begging for marshmallows dipped in peanut butter. 

    Don’t ask. 

    DIY Facials and Hair Braids

    Pinterest. Love it, can’t get enough of it, even though it’s basically Google but with pictures. It’s visually pleasing. There are thousands of DIY facial recipes online that require three or fewer ingredients. It’s always something you have in your cabinet, so there’s no need to spend money on supplies. 

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    Why hair brides? Because it’s an intimate act; it’s a bonding activity. I’m 25, and every time I visit my mother, I ask her to braid my hair. Does it have to be braids? Absolutely not! If you want to play salon, then go right ahead. 

    Can’t Spell Whine Without Wine

    I’m not an alcoholic, I promise, but wine is essential in this scenario. Ladies gather round, it’s time for a therapy session! Let it all out, because what are girlfriends for if not a shoulder to cry on? I love venting to my girlfriends because it’s cheaper than my last therapist. You gather encouraging words, advice from everyone’s experience, and a relieving feeling. This is a safe place!

    It’s Karaoke Time!

    I would suck at this. I can’t sing even if my life was on the line. It’s that bad. 

     

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    But you know what’s better than sucking at singing alone? Sucking at singing together, because I am Katy Perry compared to my girlfriends singing. Karaoke machines are expensive, and if we’re honest, utterly unnecessary unless you’re a karaoke bar. Smule is a karaoke app you can use that holds millions of songs and lyrics. 

    I know it’s supposed to be for “fun,” but if we’re singing, then we’re competing, so clear your throat and get ready for some major laughs. 

     

  • Why Being Grateful This Thanksgiving Can Make You Happier 

    Why Being Grateful This Thanksgiving Can Make You Happier 

    With November coming to an end, it’s safe to say the overwhelming feeling of high expectations has officially begun. Undoubtedly, the holiday season is the most fabulous time of the year, even though my house becomes Stress Station. If I’m honest, with all the stress blending in with the cinnamon-scented wintry air, it becomes too difficult being appreciative. 

    Now, if you open any book about changing your life or listen to any podcasts, they’re all going to tell you the same thing. Being grateful has been scientifically proven to improve your health, your well-being, and even your success rate. 

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    Two psychologists from the University of Miami conducted a study on gratitude where they asked participants to write down a few sentences each week, not specifying to be positive or negative. Over the span of ten weeks, the participants who penned about gratitude “were more optimistic and felt better about their lives.” Read more about the study here. 

    The simple act of showing gratitude can have a life-changing impact on your daily life. 

    What better time to be grateful than now with Thanksgiving right around the corner? I don’t know how other people celebrate Thanksgiving, but in our household, it is mandatory to stand around the table and declare out loud why you’re grateful. There are always objections from the younger children, but we’re not hesitant to remind them of the benefits of showing gratitude, so everyone takes a turn. 

    In her article, Dr. Amy Morin lists seven scientifically-proven benefits of being grateful. The two that stuck out to me the most were better sleep (cause God knows I need it) and the enhancement of empathy (something we all need more of). But is it just saying you’re grateful, and your life is set for the best? 

     

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    Of course not, but science doesn’t lie. The only problem is we’ve become accustomed not to show gratification enough unless it’s Thanksgiving day. You’re kind of in the spotlight at that moment and feel obligated to say anything. Which- in a way- feels like we’re taking everything for granted. 

    Now, let me ask you this: when you look forward to Thanksgiving, what exactly are you looking forward to doing? 

    The food, right? We’ve entirely wiped out the backstory to this holiday, and truthfully, it feels like this is the one day where we can declare thanks. 

    I’m here to tell you that’s not the case. We live in an era where everything is available at the tips of our fingers. Technology advancement is continuously on the rise, and if you haven’t heard, technology is slowly, but surely, destroying empathy (Live Science).

    There is hope, and things can change, but it always starts within you. If you’re having a difficult time showing gratitude, always remember it is the smallest action that will make the most significant differences. 

     

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    Have you noticed how every life mentor always recommends you write everything down and be strangely specific? That includes your goals, your feelings, your appreciation. This is because it’s been proven to help you better your life.

    Now that we’ve talked about why being grateful is literally a lifesaver. Here are a couple of things to be thankful for that you probably didn’t think of. 

    Electricity

     Bet you didn’t think of this one, huh? According to Mashable, 1.2 billion people have little or no access to electricity. Unless your electricity bill is past due, then you have access to electricity 24/7. You can charge your phone anytime, take a hot shower whenever you want, turn on the house lights, watch TV, use kitchen appliances. Sixteen percent of the world doesn’t have that! You never think you have to be thankful for electricity, but in reality, we do. 

    Fresh Water

    When I was in college, I volunteered with UNRWA and worked a summer in the Gaza Strip. If you’re unfamiliar with the place, it’s a small occupied territory within Palestine. According to UNICEF, “In Gaza, there is an acute water crisis. Over 90 percent of households have a tap where clean water once flowed, but today the water is no longer safe to drink. In the last 15 years, the situation in Gaza has gone from bad to worse: only one in 10 households now have direct access to safe water.” 

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    It’s sad to think that something as necessary as water is not available to these people. Next time you have a drink of water, be grateful that it’s that easily accessible to you. 

    Travel 

     It took my uncle thirty years to receive his green card. Thirty years. That’s thirty years of not seeing his family, thirty years staying in the same state, thirty years of video calling his mother. He had no control over the places he wished to go. He missed both parents’ deaths, a brother’s illness, weddings, births, and so much more. Coming from a third world country, his passport held no power whatsoever, and for that, he felt like he was utterly trapped. 

    For many passport holders, booking a flight takes minutes. Minutes. Not everyone has that privilege, and it is something I am incredibly thankful for every single day. 

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    Being grateful isn’t a chore, it’s not a job, and it doesn’t require much energy. It’s like William Arthur Ward said, “Feeling gratitude and not expressing it is like wrapping a present and not giving it.” So don’t hold back! Happy Thanksgiving!

     

  • Autumn Desserts Your Loved Ones Will “Fall” in Love with

    Autumn Desserts Your Loved Ones Will “Fall” in Love with

    Ah, Autumn. 

    Undeniably, one of the most aromatic seasons we have. The cafes filled with the scent of cinnamon, cloves, maple syrup, and pumpkin spices. Couples walk hand in hand in their fall sweaters and knitted scarves, inhaling the dewy petrichor in the air. It’s a time for the outdoors but also an excellent time to take comfort inside your home. 

    More specifically, the kitchen. Yes, friends, it’s time for some comfort food, because as the weather gets colder, our bellies get bigger.

    Or is that just me and my impulsive seasonal eating? You know what, it doesn’t matter because we’ve got the most helpful list of desserts that will assuredly get you the thumbs up from your friends and family. 

    Or you can grab a blanket, the sweet, and rewatch The Handmaid’s Tale for the hundredth time. 

    Your call. 

    Pumpkin Cream Cheese Roll

    You’ve heard of the chocolate-filled rolls, and jelly-filled rolls, get ready for…pumpkin cream cheese rolls. That’s right, folks, heaven in a roll. We all know the importance of pumpkin around this time of year, so why not add it to your desserts? Look no further than this five-star recipe by King Arthur Flour. 

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    Blueberry Crisp with Vanilla Ice-Cream

    If you want your house to smell like Christmas in the North Pole, then this blueberry crisp is the perfect formula. Cinnamon, nutmeg, oats, pecans, and blueberries are the main components in this beautifully crumbly recipe! With every bite, bursting blueberries will warm your taste buds and fill the atmosphere with the spices of the season. 

    Top it off with a scoop of vanilla ice cream for the perfect marathon dessert! Click here for the perfect recipe that will surely become a staple in your home. 

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    Caramel Apple Cheesecake

    If you’re looking for a prize-winning cheesecake, then look no further. I’m gonna be honest with you guys; I am not a fan of apples. But if there’s a recipe I will stand by for the rest of my beautiful life, it’s this one. The necessities are the usual seasonal spices plus caramel and cream cheese, so expect a rather creamy filling. It has become a Thanksgiving favorite in my home because someone always requests it! For the award-winning recipe, click here. 

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    Simple Carrot Cake 

    If you want to keep it simple, I get it. If you plan to whip up something quick, then this traditional carrot cake is for you. For this pick, you won’t need any fancy equipment or a protracted amount of time. One bite of this cake is bound to bring back childhood memories! 

    Inspired Taste

    It requires a short list of ingredients, but believe me, every bite will make your taste bud dance. It’s the perfect after-dinner cake and will leave a lasting impression with your guests. See the simplicity of the recipe right here. 

    Chocolate Spice Layer Cake w/ Ginger Buttercream

    Three layers that capture the taste of Autumn? Yes, count me in!

    I’ve been following Laura at Fork Knife Swoon for just a few months now, and I am never disappointed. If a moist double chocolate cake and a gingerbread house had a baby, this would be it. It is definitely a very peculiar taste and not for those too weak to try new things because this chocolate cake is spicy. 

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    Now, it’s not so spicy that you need a cold cup of milk, but enough that you know it’s distinctive. Whenever a friend asks for something new, this is the recipe I recommend. 

    Cranberry Layer Cake

    The best thing about Taste of Home is…everything. Most of their recipes are made for scratch and require very little to create something remarkably delicious. Cranberries are known to be used during Thanksgiving dinners, and not much in desserts. There are hundreds of sweets out there with cranberries being the critical component. Taste of Home always provides tips with every recipe, but the comment section can be handy as well. Click here for the recipe. 

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    Pear Bundt Cake

    Here’s another Taste of Home favorite. You can have this low fat cake ready in three easy steps and five simple ingredients. This particular recipe doesn’t use any oil because the juice from the pear keeps the cake moist. The process is favorably simple and easy to bake, so why not give it a try? Try out the recipe here to get started. 

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    Turtle Cheesecake

    When I first discovered turtle candies, I became obsessed. This cheesecake is full of pecans, caramel, and smooth chocolate finish on top. If you’re sure your family and friends are die-hard chocolate fans, then you know this is the cheesecake to bring to a gathering (or bake at home). 

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

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    Keep in mind making a cheesecake requires patience and of course, a ton of love and nourishing words as you make it. Believe me; it does make a difference. For this mouth-watering treat, check out Life, Love, and Sugar for the recipe.