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  • Planning a Winter Wedding? 

    Planning a Winter Wedding? 

    Here’s What You Need to Know

    It is finally wintertime and baby; it’s freakin’ cold outside! ‘Tis the season of spices, pumpkins, lattes, and hectic holiday shopping. Let’s not forget the Christmas decorating and family hosting. It’s no surprise that the last few months of the year are the reason your cortisol levels run off the charts. 

    Now imagine doing all that plus planning a wedding. Yikes. Merely thinking about it makes my insides feel like jelly! But because of their fondness for the beautiful wintertime season, many people plan their wedding around the end of the year or the beginning of the new year. The air is crisp, the world from the moon looks pearl white, the venues are cheaper (most important), and it’s a beautiful way to start the new year with your partner! 

    Here a few secrets and tips to help you ease your stress and the plan for the perfect winter wedding!

    Venues

    You must’ve known how vital booking the right venue is at this time of year! It’s crucial when picking out a site in the winter that you consider the distance, the accommodations, and the weather forecast. The days are shorter in winter, so you need to arrange a time to tour the venue during the daytime to get a good idea of what awaits you. 

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    People, don’t be afraid to go with your gut feeling, it’s there for a reason! Ask yourself, is this venue nearby the guests? Does it appear cordial and welcoming? If it rains, do they have umbrellas for the guests or indoor accommodations?

    Also, try to negotiate a deal with the manager of the venue. This is the off-peak season, so you’re very likely to score a discount on your reservation. After the holidays, even wedding suppliers are more likely to have discounts! If you’re anticipating unfavorable weather, always ask the supplier if they’ll be able to make it despite that. Again, stormy weather guarantees traffic, so consider keeping the same venue for both the ceremony and reception.

    Attire 

    What do you and the bridesmaids have in common today? You both want to stay warm because honey, it is cold! I’ve seen so many new trends this past year that pass off as chic, dreamy, fresh, and “hey, I don’t want to freeze to death” fur coats. 

    Listen to me; this important. Invest in a pair of white thermal leggings for you and your bridesmaids. I grew up in southern California, so you better believe when I got married, it was 65 degrees outside, and I was wearing thermal leggings underneath my long sleeve David’s Bridal wedding dress. 

     

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    I see you judging me, but this is a judge-free zone, people, so let’s keep it civil.

    If you are planning outdoor photography in snowy/rainy weather, protect your shoes by investing in a can of spray shoe protector. If you’re planning something more adventurous like being knee-deep in the mud, then high leather rain boots are your go-to. Best possibility? You have two pairs of shoes.  

    Grooms, you’ve got a hell of a lot more options. According to Hitched, “Thick fabrics like velvet, tweed, and tartan are warm and look incredibly chic on grooms and groomsmen.” You can even wear earmuffs, and it’d still look pretty damn good.

    Theme/Setting 

    I get it; it’s winter, so your wedding has to be a winter wonderland. Good news, it doesn’t. 

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    Color schemes like gold, burgundy, grey, lavender, and dark shades of green are perfect for rainy and (if you’re lucky) snowy days. Even if it’s just one color, you always want that “pop” in the room. Click here for some colorful inspiration! 

    Food

    Cold weather calls for tons of comfort food! Personally, my winter menu always consists of lentil soups and cheese bowls. Don’t even get me started on my sweet tooth around this time of year. 

     

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    Your guests are likely to be the same way. They crave a meal that makes them feel warm in their tummy and desserts sweet enough to take comfort in. The options are endless, and The Knot has some of the perfect ideas to help you get started! Click here to learn more!

    Guests 

    I worked in retail for over ten years. Every year, I witnessed the same thing — crazy spending during the holiday and unbelievably dull movement after New Year’s. People wouldn’t resume their regular shopping till Mid-march, and that’s the earliest. 

    If you didn’t know, people spend heaps of cash during the holidays and retreat when their bank accounts are hungry again. 

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    Consider this: how much will it cost your guest to arrive at your reception? Is it by car, by plane, by train? The weather is unpredictable at times, so if a majority of guests are nearby, try keeping the venue an hour (two hours tops) by driving. Again, lousy weather equals terrible traffic, and if you’re planning this wedding in January, then people are either going home or coming home. Expect a few guests to be delayed or not show up at all. 

    Once they arrive, greet them with their choice of hot drink (tea, coffee, hot chocolate, etc.). It’s something little, but it shows you care, you appreciate them coming, and most importantly, it warms their hands. 

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    If your reception is indoors, think about providing blankets for your guests and renting space heaters if your set up is outside. 

     

     

  • How To: The Perfect Girls’ Night out

    How To: The Perfect Girls’ Night out

    For most working women (stay at home moms counts, too), it continuously feels like there’s never enough hours in the day to relax. It doesn’t matter whether you’re married, you have kids, you’re in school, or you have a 9 to 5 job; attempting to find time to reconcile with your girlfriends is challenging. I kid you not, every single day, the same thought will cross my mind: you haven’t seen your friends in forever, you’re a horrible human being. 

    And it’s true; I am horrible for not managing to get together with some of my closest friends just because my working mom life sucks any energy out of me. 

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    Times like these, I take a deep breathe and remind myself how precious these friendships are to me, and missing out on time together was going to bite me in the ass in the long run. 

    So if one of your New Year’s goals is to spend more time with your loved ones, then we’re here to help you plan the perfect girl’s night out! 

    Indoors or Outdoors

    Yes, I know it says girls’ night out, but not all of us want to be out there. In public. In the wild. 

    You see, what happens is this: we hype the idea of a night out, we get insane and make all these plans, then when the time comes, we genuinely do not want to leave the house. 

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    Call it what you want, but the house we’re in 90% of the time is where we’re the most content, so why not? It’s best to understand what your girlfriends are most comfortable doing. So many more women are in the work field nowadays, and many prefer to stay indoors, while the stay-at-home mommies want a night out. It’s ok if nothing goes as planned, but deciding where you’re going to have a good time is a priority. 

    Movies Are Always a Good Idea 

    This Thanksgiving, I am thankful for Netflix, Hulu, HBO, LifeTime, Disney+, and every network out there that have succeeded in juicing my credit card every month. 

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    I don’t care if you’re having a night out in your backyard, because no matter where you decide to be, movie marathons are always an excellent idea. You can even have a drinking game for every time the male lead takes his shirt off, because if you’re not watching Channing Tatum get half-naked, then what are you doing?

    Who’s Buying Drinks?

    Alcohol. That’s it. I mean, please let that be it. If you invite me out for a girl’s night out and provide me with the correct amount of alcohol, I will be fine. I will not bother you for anything else, so let it be known. We’re all here to take some edge off, and what better way than to drink away the stress? Moderately, of course. 

    Carbs Don’t Exist Tonight. 

    I’m talking pasta, burgers, fries, pizza, garlic knots (duh), cakes, cookies, and a freakin’ chocolate fountain. I don’t want “snacks,” so it’s time to get your shit together and order a copious amount of chocolate from Amazon, Karen. Or you can hit up a restaurant you’ve had your eye on for a while! 

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    It’s difficult to speak for all women, but I’ll tell you this: if my girlfriends and an open buffet surround me, I will eat. It’s actually ridiculous how much I can eat when a two-year-old isn’t grabbing at my leg, begging for marshmallows dipped in peanut butter. 

    Don’t ask. 

    DIY Facials and Hair Braids

    Pinterest. Love it, can’t get enough of it, even though it’s basically Google but with pictures. It’s visually pleasing. There are thousands of DIY facial recipes online that require three or fewer ingredients. It’s always something you have in your cabinet, so there’s no need to spend money on supplies. 

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    Why hair brides? Because it’s an intimate act; it’s a bonding activity. I’m 25, and every time I visit my mother, I ask her to braid my hair. Does it have to be braids? Absolutely not! If you want to play salon, then go right ahead. 

    Can’t Spell Whine Without Wine

    I’m not an alcoholic, I promise, but wine is essential in this scenario. Ladies gather round, it’s time for a therapy session! Let it all out, because what are girlfriends for if not a shoulder to cry on? I love venting to my girlfriends because it’s cheaper than my last therapist. You gather encouraging words, advice from everyone’s experience, and a relieving feeling. This is a safe place!

    It’s Karaoke Time!

    I would suck at this. I can’t sing even if my life was on the line. It’s that bad. 

     

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    But you know what’s better than sucking at singing alone? Sucking at singing together, because I am Katy Perry compared to my girlfriends singing. Karaoke machines are expensive, and if we’re honest, utterly unnecessary unless you’re a karaoke bar. Smule is a karaoke app you can use that holds millions of songs and lyrics. 

    I know it’s supposed to be for “fun,” but if we’re singing, then we’re competing, so clear your throat and get ready for some major laughs. 

     

  • Why Being Grateful This Thanksgiving Can Make You Happier 

    Why Being Grateful This Thanksgiving Can Make You Happier 

    With November coming to an end, it’s safe to say the overwhelming feeling of high expectations has officially begun. Undoubtedly, the holiday season is the most fabulous time of the year, even though my house becomes Stress Station. If I’m honest, with all the stress blending in with the cinnamon-scented wintry air, it becomes too difficult being appreciative. 

    Now, if you open any book about changing your life or listen to any podcasts, they’re all going to tell you the same thing. Being grateful has been scientifically proven to improve your health, your well-being, and even your success rate. 

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    Two psychologists from the University of Miami conducted a study on gratitude where they asked participants to write down a few sentences each week, not specifying to be positive or negative. Over the span of ten weeks, the participants who penned about gratitude “were more optimistic and felt better about their lives.” Read more about the study here. 

    The simple act of showing gratitude can have a life-changing impact on your daily life. 

    What better time to be grateful than now with Thanksgiving right around the corner? I don’t know how other people celebrate Thanksgiving, but in our household, it is mandatory to stand around the table and declare out loud why you’re grateful. There are always objections from the younger children, but we’re not hesitant to remind them of the benefits of showing gratitude, so everyone takes a turn. 

    In her article, Dr. Amy Morin lists seven scientifically-proven benefits of being grateful. The two that stuck out to me the most were better sleep (cause God knows I need it) and the enhancement of empathy (something we all need more of). But is it just saying you’re grateful, and your life is set for the best? 

     

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    Of course not, but science doesn’t lie. The only problem is we’ve become accustomed not to show gratification enough unless it’s Thanksgiving day. You’re kind of in the spotlight at that moment and feel obligated to say anything. Which- in a way- feels like we’re taking everything for granted. 

    Now, let me ask you this: when you look forward to Thanksgiving, what exactly are you looking forward to doing? 

    The food, right? We’ve entirely wiped out the backstory to this holiday, and truthfully, it feels like this is the one day where we can declare thanks. 

    I’m here to tell you that’s not the case. We live in an era where everything is available at the tips of our fingers. Technology advancement is continuously on the rise, and if you haven’t heard, technology is slowly, but surely, destroying empathy (Live Science).

    There is hope, and things can change, but it always starts within you. If you’re having a difficult time showing gratitude, always remember it is the smallest action that will make the most significant differences. 

     

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    Have you noticed how every life mentor always recommends you write everything down and be strangely specific? That includes your goals, your feelings, your appreciation. This is because it’s been proven to help you better your life.

    Now that we’ve talked about why being grateful is literally a lifesaver. Here are a couple of things to be thankful for that you probably didn’t think of. 

    Electricity

     Bet you didn’t think of this one, huh? According to Mashable, 1.2 billion people have little or no access to electricity. Unless your electricity bill is past due, then you have access to electricity 24/7. You can charge your phone anytime, take a hot shower whenever you want, turn on the house lights, watch TV, use kitchen appliances. Sixteen percent of the world doesn’t have that! You never think you have to be thankful for electricity, but in reality, we do. 

    Fresh Water

    When I was in college, I volunteered with UNRWA and worked a summer in the Gaza Strip. If you’re unfamiliar with the place, it’s a small occupied territory within Palestine. According to UNICEF, “In Gaza, there is an acute water crisis. Over 90 percent of households have a tap where clean water once flowed, but today the water is no longer safe to drink. In the last 15 years, the situation in Gaza has gone from bad to worse: only one in 10 households now have direct access to safe water.” 

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    It’s sad to think that something as necessary as water is not available to these people. Next time you have a drink of water, be grateful that it’s that easily accessible to you. 

    Travel 

     It took my uncle thirty years to receive his green card. Thirty years. That’s thirty years of not seeing his family, thirty years staying in the same state, thirty years of video calling his mother. He had no control over the places he wished to go. He missed both parents’ deaths, a brother’s illness, weddings, births, and so much more. Coming from a third world country, his passport held no power whatsoever, and for that, he felt like he was utterly trapped. 

    For many passport holders, booking a flight takes minutes. Minutes. Not everyone has that privilege, and it is something I am incredibly thankful for every single day. 

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    Being grateful isn’t a chore, it’s not a job, and it doesn’t require much energy. It’s like William Arthur Ward said, “Feeling gratitude and not expressing it is like wrapping a present and not giving it.” So don’t hold back! Happy Thanksgiving!

     

  • Autumn Desserts Your Loved Ones Will “Fall” in Love with

    Autumn Desserts Your Loved Ones Will “Fall” in Love with

    Ah, Autumn. 

    Undeniably, one of the most aromatic seasons we have. The cafes filled with the scent of cinnamon, cloves, maple syrup, and pumpkin spices. Couples walk hand in hand in their fall sweaters and knitted scarves, inhaling the dewy petrichor in the air. It’s a time for the outdoors but also an excellent time to take comfort inside your home. 

    More specifically, the kitchen. Yes, friends, it’s time for some comfort food, because as the weather gets colder, our bellies get bigger.

    Or is that just me and my impulsive seasonal eating? You know what, it doesn’t matter because we’ve got the most helpful list of desserts that will assuredly get you the thumbs up from your friends and family. 

    Or you can grab a blanket, the sweet, and rewatch The Handmaid’s Tale for the hundredth time. 

    Your call. 

    Pumpkin Cream Cheese Roll

    You’ve heard of the chocolate-filled rolls, and jelly-filled rolls, get ready for…pumpkin cream cheese rolls. That’s right, folks, heaven in a roll. We all know the importance of pumpkin around this time of year, so why not add it to your desserts? Look no further than this five-star recipe by King Arthur Flour. 

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    Blueberry Crisp with Vanilla Ice-Cream

    If you want your house to smell like Christmas in the North Pole, then this blueberry crisp is the perfect formula. Cinnamon, nutmeg, oats, pecans, and blueberries are the main components in this beautifully crumbly recipe! With every bite, bursting blueberries will warm your taste buds and fill the atmosphere with the spices of the season. 

    Top it off with a scoop of vanilla ice cream for the perfect marathon dessert! Click here for the perfect recipe that will surely become a staple in your home. 

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    Caramel Apple Cheesecake

    If you’re looking for a prize-winning cheesecake, then look no further. I’m gonna be honest with you guys; I am not a fan of apples. But if there’s a recipe I will stand by for the rest of my beautiful life, it’s this one. The necessities are the usual seasonal spices plus caramel and cream cheese, so expect a rather creamy filling. It has become a Thanksgiving favorite in my home because someone always requests it! For the award-winning recipe, click here. 

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    Simple Carrot Cake 

    If you want to keep it simple, I get it. If you plan to whip up something quick, then this traditional carrot cake is for you. For this pick, you won’t need any fancy equipment or a protracted amount of time. One bite of this cake is bound to bring back childhood memories! 

    Inspired Taste

    It requires a short list of ingredients, but believe me, every bite will make your taste bud dance. It’s the perfect after-dinner cake and will leave a lasting impression with your guests. See the simplicity of the recipe right here. 

    Chocolate Spice Layer Cake w/ Ginger Buttercream

    Three layers that capture the taste of Autumn? Yes, count me in!

    I’ve been following Laura at Fork Knife Swoon for just a few months now, and I am never disappointed. If a moist double chocolate cake and a gingerbread house had a baby, this would be it. It is definitely a very peculiar taste and not for those too weak to try new things because this chocolate cake is spicy. 

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    Now, it’s not so spicy that you need a cold cup of milk, but enough that you know it’s distinctive. Whenever a friend asks for something new, this is the recipe I recommend. 

    Cranberry Layer Cake

    The best thing about Taste of Home is…everything. Most of their recipes are made for scratch and require very little to create something remarkably delicious. Cranberries are known to be used during Thanksgiving dinners, and not much in desserts. There are hundreds of sweets out there with cranberries being the critical component. Taste of Home always provides tips with every recipe, but the comment section can be handy as well. Click here for the recipe. 

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    Pear Bundt Cake

    Here’s another Taste of Home favorite. You can have this low fat cake ready in three easy steps and five simple ingredients. This particular recipe doesn’t use any oil because the juice from the pear keeps the cake moist. The process is favorably simple and easy to bake, so why not give it a try? Try out the recipe here to get started. 

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    Turtle Cheesecake

    When I first discovered turtle candies, I became obsessed. This cheesecake is full of pecans, caramel, and smooth chocolate finish on top. If you’re sure your family and friends are die-hard chocolate fans, then you know this is the cheesecake to bring to a gathering (or bake at home). 

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

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    Keep in mind making a cheesecake requires patience and of course, a ton of love and nourishing words as you make it. Believe me; it does make a difference. For this mouth-watering treat, check out Life, Love, and Sugar for the recipe. 

     

  • Eight Things to Do Every Day to Keep Your Relationship Strong

    Eight Things to Do Every Day to Keep Your Relationship Strong

    Before I had my first real long term relationship, everyone around me always had a habit of letting me in on know how relationships work. They require hard work, a ton of energy, constant arguments, and more than a few sleepless nights. 

    You can guess what that did to my sense of commitment… 

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    But, you live, and you learn, and you realize that other people’s relationship status does not dictate your own. 

    If you’re ever lucky enough to find that one person to dedicate your life to, you’re going to realize that you will need constant maintenance to keep your connection secure and healthy. From what I’ve learned, maintaining a relationship is very similar to planting a seed. You will need to continually take care of it, provide it with enough nourishment, and love in order for it to grow.

    With that being said, there are numerous ways (countless really) to keep a relationship sturdy and robust. 

    Start Your Day The Right Way

    It sounds simple enough, right? That’s because it truly is. 

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    If you live with your partner, then you know that some nights, we tend to fall asleep furious at each other. It could be the result of any circumstances that might have triggered you both during your day. 

    In an interview with Kyle Benson, psychologist Susan David explains how “When people bottle, they are pushing aside their emotions, and their partner can often feel that they aren’t present—that they aren’t authentic or vulnerable in the relationship.” It’s commonly understood how unhealthy bottling emotions can be, primarily when it’s between two people. By starting your day with intimacy such as sex, cuddling, pillow talk, the bond linking two people strengthens. 

    The Little Things Matter

    It’s incredibly common for lust and passion to wear off as a relationship elongates. It’s the brutal truth. 

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    In the beginning, it was everyday sex, chocolates, flowers, date nights, and so much more. Now, this is not to say it dies off completely, but there’s a noticeable difference. Of course, several factors are involved when it reaches this point. Therapist Daniel Tomasulo explains how “the demise often involves thwarted expectations that, over time, erode the connection. Love that was once flourishing becomes unrequited, resulting in less engagement, simulation, and satisfaction.”

    So how do we avoid this? Well, for once, it’s healthy to keep the element of surprise present in the relationship! For example, flowers on a random day, date night at your favorite restaurant, trying a new sex move, or even bringing home a new Pyrex pan for your partner! 

    Hey, worked on me. 

    Tell Them About Your Day

    That’s it. That’s literally it. 

     

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    You sit with your partner wherever they may be. You’re drinking a hot cup of chocolate, it’s snowing outside, The Office is playing on Netflix, you’re wrapped up in a blanket probably designed by Martha Stewart, and your partner is curled up under your arms. So take this time to ask them how their day was, or tell them about your day. Tell them about a new book you found, a show you’re interested in, or a recipe you’re excited to try out. 

    Show Appreciation 

    Observe. And learn.

    I appreciate your cooking. I appreciate your presence. I appreciate your love, your care, your humbleness, your generosity, your smile, your laughter, your messages, your calls. I appreciate you. 

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    But it’s not just stating your appreciation, it’s showing it. It’s taking care of your partner, showing them how much you love them, and reminding them how much they mean to you. Easy, right?

    Show Affection

    Affection is not only based on your sex life. There are several ways to show love that include physical, verbal, and emotional. The forms of affection include hugs, touches, massages, listening, and so much more. 

     

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    Marriage and Family therapist Gabrielle Applebury says how “Showing affection in your relationship is an important aspect of maintaining intimacy.” It’s always the little things that make the most significant difference.

    Hit The Gym 

    Couples that workout together stay together. I personally stand by this statement. The benefits of exercise and the science behind how it affects the human mentality are endless. 

     

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    And yes, you guessed it, it’s an excellent habit to create, especially with your partner. You get the chance to plan your workouts together, stay healthy, and meet your fitness goals!

    Set New Goals Every Day

    Speaking of goals…

    Think of how to better not only your relationship but your life together in general. Think about how you are going to propel towards that goal with your significant other. Talk about it, dream about, always discuss it. 

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    Emotional Fitness therapist Barton Goldsmith explains how “This alignment is critical for creating harmony and allowing you both to reach your dreams. Once that alignment is secure, there is no limit to how much you can accomplish together.” Forming a goal is a lifetime commitment. By building it with your partner, it strengthens your attachment with each other. 

    Share Your Thoughts

    I do mean the good, the bad, and the ugly. We are not always going to have healthy thoughts, and that’s ok. The most important thing is to talk about it with your partner. Share everything you think because communication is vital in any relationship. 

     

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    Share what you’re contemplating, have your partner share, discuss, and talk about how you feel towards it all in the end. 

     

  • Fun Fall Activities for Couples 

    Fun Fall Activities for Couples 

    (And Families!)

    It’s incredible how every season comes with its own set of to-do activities. While every season has it’s happy moments; it always feels like fall and winter are the best times to create some fun. Something about the fresh fall air makes you want to either cuddle up at home with a spiced pumpkin latte or head out to the nearest pumpkin patch and enjoy the cinnamon air. While there are hundreds of options to choose from, we’ve picked a few of our favorites that are both family and couple friendly!

    Check them out! 

    Spend an Evening at the Beach 

    End of October, beginning of November is when the weather is just perfect for a day to cozy up at the shore. There’s nothing like spending a single evening at the beach with your significant other. Nothing too spontaneous, I promise. Gather up a few blankets, couple pillows, and a tent if you’re feeling bold! There’s nothing like the sound of the waves and the smell of the salt to give you complete tranquillity and lull you to sleep. 

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    To especially get the most out of your day, don’t forget to pick up some beautiful shells before you head home. Keep them in a jar to remember this special day. 

     Cook a Fall Dinner Together 

    I know what you’re thinking. What the hell is a “fall dinner?” 

    Think hearty, whole, and something to warm the belly. Most meals in autumn fall in the category of slow cookers or a one-pan meal, and this is what makes this plan so simple and great. Pumpkins, acorn squash, spaghetti squash, and the entire squash family are in the spotlight at this time of year, so incorporating them into your recipes or as sides is an excellent way to get into the seasonal spirit. 

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    For simple, quick, and delicious recipe ideas, click here. 

    Pumpkin Spiced Latte Hunt

    The chain of coffee shops in America is endless. Starbucks is the most recognized for its infamous pumpkin spiced latte that makes its appearance around the colder season. But there is still so much to be bought and tasted! 

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    Spend the day with your partner taste testing the pumpkin spiced lattes in your own town coffee shops! Who knows? Maybe you’ll acquire a new, unexpected favorite. 

    Read a Book Together

    Anyone else feels like reading a book when the air is cooler changes you?

    If you will, imagine this: you’re sitting at a family-owned cafe in Paris (or Santa Monica), the streets are quiet, and a drizzle of rain is the only sound surrounding you. You’re sitting with a cup of robust Colombian coffee because you know chai lattes are overrated. 

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    You’re reading a book about a boy who stole a painting of a goldfinch. Your partner is waiting at the counter for the chocolate croissant you’ve been craving and wouldn’t stop talking about. You know it’s going to be a fantastic day because one, you’re there with the most precious person in your life, and two, this book has immersed you in its chapters. 

    You’re wearing the scarf grandma knitted for you two falls ago. It’s a good Autumn day.

    County Fair 

    Undoubtedly, the most common and exciting fall activity for families and couples alike. If your town doesn’t host a county fair, then the next town closest probably will. What better way to spend the day than hayrides and corn mazes? Plus booths upon booths of delicious food and fried desserts? 

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    What more could you want? Fields of apple trees, pumpkin field, face painting, game booths, rides, and so much more! There are so many things to do at the fair that you’ll need to go every day of the week to gain the full experience. 

    Have a Disney Movie Marathon

    Usually, around this time, Disney broadcasts it’s familiar Halloween films on cable. Even Youtube has full Disney episodes on live throughout the month! If those both don’t work out for you, then Netflix is an excellent choice since there are several Disney films to choose from. 

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    Family-friendly films are a great way to spend the night with your loved ones. You can make your snacks at home or keep it simple and pass out buckets of popcorn. You can always bring out sleeping bags (or any blankets) and camp out in the TV room as a bonus! 

    Just don’t forget the smores!

    Bring Out Your Artistic Side

    With the leaves rapidly changing colors and the weather getting crispier, a lot of people like to linger indoors. 

    Getting artsy in Autumn is a productive way to spend a family day. You get to go out and collect leaves, pinecones, rocks, and get truly creative. Artsy Crafty Mom has an incredible list of ideas that are bound to keep the family busy and content. Several of these ideas don’t require much and can be framed and hung after you’re finished. 

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    This is the perfect activity for those rainy days where the kids are unbelievably bored, and there’s nothing to do! 

     

  • Best Horror Films to Binge Watch This Halloween

    Best Horror Films to Binge Watch This Halloween

    For the first time ever in my life, Halloween is right around the corner, and I will not be able to host a party, dress up, or go trick or treating. Mother Nature showed my family no mercy this year, and when it seemed like one person was getting better, the next got sick. So yes, I will be sending my Halloween indoors this year, tending to my ill infant and emptying my husband’s throw-up bucket. 

    Boo-hoo, I know, it sucks. 

    Since I am not one to dwell, and getting into the spirit of this holiday is a necessity for me, I have conjured up other plans. It includes chamomile lozenges because it’s the closest I can have to candy and a mug of lemon water. 

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    To make sure I don’t feel left out, I’ve decided to spend All Hallow’s Eve rewatching some of the best horror films ever produced. Some are classics, some are new, but one thing they have in common is they’re sure to leave you scared shitless. 

    The Texas Chainsaw Massacre

    If you have yet to watch The Texas Chainsaw Massacre, my advice to you is not to watch it alone. I don’t care how tough you are, how emotionally capable you are; it’s not meant to be watched alone. 

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    While the movie is based on a true story, it’s really more based on the crimes of the murderer the movie is portraying, Ed Gain. You may recognize him as the cannibal wearing a leather face in the film (great stuff, right?). Gain, who eventually went to the crazy house for being completely insane, would excavate bodies from their graves and make keepsakes out of their skin and bones (furniture, masks). The chainsaw was an added effect by Tope Hooper (the director) and was not used by the actual family. 

     The Witch

    This story follows a New England family in the mid 17th century after they are banished from their pilgrim community because of their different views on religion. They’re left to fend for themselves in the wilderness where superstitious elements begin to befall upon them. William and Katherine (the parents) build a home and plant crops to survive with their five children. It’s not long before disaster strikes, and their newborn, Sam, vanishes into thin air. 

     

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    As they unsuccessfully look for Sam, Katherine blames her firstborn daughter on all the evil and wrong in their life and slowly descends into insanity. Will the family survive or fall victim to black magic that is unraveled by their sins?

    Don’t Breathe 

    You’d think robbing a blind guy would be a piece of cake, right? 

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    In this edge of your seat thriller, a trio of friends (Rocky, Alex, and Money) make a living by robbing valuables from secured homes and selling them. When Rocky decides to take her sister away from her abusive mother, she and her friends hatch a plan to kidnap an ex-veteran for 300 grand and run away to sunny California. At first, it doesn’t seem like anything could go wrong, but what if there’s more than meets the eye with this Gulf War veteran? Will Rocky get away with the money to fund her dreams? Or did she embark on a nightmare she won’t be able to wake up from? 

    It Follows

    The plot of this film is relatively simple. If I’m honest, it’s more creepy than scary, but a great addition, nonetheless. 

    After a brief sexual encounter, Jay Height is suddenly haunted by a walking figure that follows her everywhere she goes. The figure appears as a different person every time, and the only way she can get rid of it is to have sex with someone else. With no one else to see these phantoms but her, Jay sets out to escape from its deadly grasp. Her friends tag along, hoping to help Jay, who they believe is losing her mind. Is there a way out of this curse, or will Jay have to pass it onto the next person in order to survive? 

    The Conjuring

    After moving into a secluded farmhouse in Rhode Island, the Perron family’s lives become anything but ordinary. They are haunted by nightmares, noises, spirits, and paranormal events. Desperate for help, the Perrons contact Lorraine and Ed Warren to investigate the house. They later discover that a witch who once lived in the house had sacrificed her baby to Satan and had possessed any other mother residing on that land to do the same. 

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    As they continue to gather evidence and plan their exorcism, will the Warrens be able to detach the darkness from the Perron family? Or will the whole family be doomed to a life of evil?

    The Sixth Sense 

    After failing to heal one of his patients, child psychologist Malcolm Crowe decides to take on the case of a troubled eight-year-old boy who is cursed with the visions of the deceased who still walk this earth. 

     

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    Desperately wanting to redeem himself after his ex-patient committed suicide, Crowe is convinced that the little boy is “seeing things”. After spending some time with the boy, Crowe starts to perceive things differently and starts to believe that his patient is seeing dead people who don’t know they’re dead. 

    Not only was this classic horror/thriller nominated for six Academy Awards, but it was also the highest-grossing movie of 1999! So grab your candy, popcorn, and a buddy! Don’t miss out on these awesome films this spooky season. 

  • How to Throw an Adult Halloween Party

    How to Throw an Adult Halloween Party

    The month of October has finally bestowed itself upon us mere mortals. The month of candy corns, jack-o-lanterns, pumpkin carving, haunted houses, and 20+ visits to the Party City around the corner. 

    Yup, it’s all coming together. 

    The last three months of the year are always the busiest and most stress-inducing months of the year. The holidays all roll up right after one another, and if you’re playing host for any event, then you’ve got your hands full. But before we drown ourselves into endless tasks and sleepless nights, the best night of the year has arrived. 

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    Here’s the thing, there was a point in life when we were adults (college parties, sexy Catwoman costumes, blackout drunk), and another point where we became adults adults (marriage, work, children). Responsibilities seem to tally up as we get older. But that doesn’t mean we can’t unleash our inner kid, wear a costume, and eat copious amounts of candy on Halloween. 

    Hey, if anyone deserves it, it’s you. So whether you’re hosting a Halloween party or attending one, here’s how to keep it memorable and fun. 

    Invite All Your Witches (And Warlocks)

    Being an adult in the modern world is challenging. Now try being a working/parenting/never sleeping adult. It’s laborious keeping a schedule considering there’s so much to get done. Calling or texting all your friends and family is a great way to get your invite across, but why not keep it exciting and send out Halloween invitations instead?

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    It’s a surefire way to get people to come since fewer people are likely to flake with an invitation. If you have any specific requests, rules, or theme for your party, make sure to state them in your message to let people know. 

    Let’s All Have Some Skele-fun

    What’s the difference between Halloween games when you were a kid and Halloween games now? 

    Alcohol. At this point, it’s the only thing that makes life fun. But it’s not the only thing. 

     

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    Bobbing for alcohol is a fun twist on bobbing for apples, but instead of water, it’s sangria, and for apples, it’s mini bottles of liquor. If you’ve got a big day planned the next day and you and other adults have kids that are waiting at home, then simpler things such as a costume contest, pumpkin carving contest, and donuts on a string will do the trick. 

    The goal is to have fun, enjoy yourself, and keep it classy for your friends and family. For more fun Halloween games, click here. 

    Give Them Pumpkin to Talk About

    How vital are decorations when it comes to adult parties? 

    Extremely. If you think I’m coming for your food and skillfully decorated cupcakes, you’re absolutely right, but more importantly, how superior are your home decorating skills? I spend an hour a day on Pinterest (no judging) praising moms for their DIY and decor skills, and now I’m here for yours. 

     

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    It’s not always easy, so if it helps, try setting a theme. We’re all adults here, so you don’t have to go all out for this party. Keep it spooky with a splash of chic. Click here to check out some beautiful Halloween decor ideas! 

    Boooo-vie Night 

    There’s bound to be some people at your party that simply do not want to…party. 

    Hey, it happens, so let’s not overlook it. If you have a spare room, try setting up a TV or projector with movie options that capture the spirit of Halloween. Depending on how many people are attending your party, seating will differentiate. You can choose from couches to lawn chairs and even bean bags. Have a separate table set with spooky snacks for your guests, plus don’t forget to set the mood for the movies (ex. Low lighting, cobwebs, mini pumpkins)!

    Creep it Real

    By that, I mean, make sure your guests are comfortable. For most adults, it’s challenging to get away and enjoy a night like this. 

     

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    Personally, I’d go to any adult party just to have some fun regardless of which holiday it is. Make sure you have enough snacks or food for your guests, and music playing in the background is a must (please don’t blast it). Here are a few party ideas to help get you started. 

    Have a few contests, down a few drinks, laugh till you pee your pants, and enjoy the spookiest night of the year. 

    Extra note: Halloween is great, but keep in mind the dangers that loom on this spooky night. To make the best of your night, please read these safety guidelines and pass them along to friends and family! Happy Halloween!

     

  • What to Wear as a Wedding Guest 

    What to Wear as a Wedding Guest 

    A wise man once said, “sweatpants, hair ties, chillin’ with no makeup on, that’s when you’re the prettiest, I hope that you don’t take it wrong.” And I didn’t, because that’s my daily look. It could be because I’m a mom, or simply because I’m too lazy and don’t bother to admit it. Hey, we’ll never know. Although Drake’s words of wisdom are tattooed in my head for all the right reasons, I cannot implement them to every event that transpires in my life. 

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    Unfortunately. 

    For example, weddings are celebrations that require you to dress in proper attire according to the theme, setting, or dress code if the couple chooses. For those of us with an acute fashion sense might have it easy, but there are people out there who struggle more than the bride and groom to prep for this day. Those people hold a special place in my heart because they are me. Well, fret no more, for I am here to educate you on what makes the perfect wedding guest attire. 

    Before we go any further, let’s review what’s a definite no-no on this special day:

    1. Anything you’d wear to the gym (or grocery store) is a no. This includes leggings, sweatpants, crop tops, and believe it or not, leather shorts. I know that’s very specific, but I’ve seen it in action. Please don’t. 
    2. Nothing too short (mini-dresses), schoolgirl skirts (you know the ones), extremely exposed clothing, plunging necklines, or neon colors (why would you even…?)
    3. Nothing shiny, sparkly, or bedazzled that might possibly blind the other guests. 
    4. No open-toed footwear (sandals, flip-flops). None. It’s not fashion; it’s a catastrophe. 
    5. Last but not least, ladies and gentlemen…you cannot wear white. Unless the bride is having a themed wedding and is wearing a red, blue, or yellow dress, then go ahead. If not, then you have no reason to wear white and upstage the couple on their wedding day. 

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    Alright, let’s get down to it. 

    First off, both men and women should be aware if there is a specific theme and location for the wedding they’re attending. Is it a casual beach wedding? Will it be ordained at a church and require formal wear? Or maybe it’s in the backyard of your childhood best friend? Are you aware of the weather on that day, and if so, are you prepared? 

    When you grasp where the wedding will take place, if it requires a theme, and what season it falls in, you’re three steps closer to attaining the perfect outfit.

    Gentleman, I have grown to understand that picking out wedding attire as a guest is exceptionally painful for you. While many people believe that men have it more comfortable, it’s actually the opposite. Women have endless options when it comes to picking something out. The only reason most people believe that men have it easier is because they just need to find a suit. 

     

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    Thanks to the evolution of suits in our modern world, picking out the right outfit is not a simple choice. My Dream Wedding has one of the most practical guides for men in helping them pick their Cinderella suit. Their options vary depending on the wedding instructions. They can choose from a wide assortment that incorporates white/black tie, casual/formal wear, cufflinks, pocket squares, and ties. 

    Other than the suit itself, men need to find the right footwear. The idea is not to under-dress nor overdress. At least, not to the point where the attention is on you and not the groom. Dark colors for men are usually the go-to for weddings, but specific themes may require you to go for lighter shades. 

    Oh, and one last thing for men. Casual doesn’t mean wearing jeans with a navy blazer. Clearly, it’s rude, and it shows no effort on your part. The effort you put into your ensemble shows the wedding couple how meaningful this day is to you as well. 

     

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    Ladies. Where do I start? 

    First, keep in mind this isn’t your wedding. You’re a guest, so act like one. 

    People seem to have a misconception when it comes to what a woman can wear to a wedding. A woman’s decisions are not limited to dresses and gowns. Pants are options, so are jumpsuits, and black suits. When attending a wedding, I always ask myself this question when trying anything on: will it attract too much attention? Because if I’m honest, I love being the center of attention, but just not on this day. A line needs to be drawn.  

    Try going for neutral colors, and if you’re planning on donning a dark color, see if black is acceptable. I’ve received a wedding invitation once that specified no black attire, including the males. Some couples are quite picky when it comes to attire, and not following the dress code can be highly offensive. 

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    Obsessing over what to wear as a guest can be mind-numbing, but by sticking to the dress code provided, your options will undoubtedly shorten. Refinery29 has the perfect slideshow to help you determine what to wear. 

    Remember, this is a personal and memorable day for other people, and they’ve invited you to be a part of it all, so play it safe and create some memories!

     

  • Top Color Combos for Upcoming Fall Weddings

    Top Color Combos for Upcoming Fall Weddings

    The Autumn weather is upon us, as well as bridal season. The weather’s cooler, the trees are changing colors, and around sunset, the sky bleeds several distinct colors. It’s romantic, it’s perfect, and the ideal time to host your dream Fall wedding! These weddings consist of vibrant, rustic, and earthy pallets that make for an irresistible setting. 

    While there are hundreds of colors to choose as your theme, we wanted to save you some time. We scoured the internet for some of the most sought out and most beautifully combined hues for the perfect fall wedding! Check out our top favorites. 

    Pumpkin, Sage, and Blush (cr: Cosmopolitan) 

    I know, I know, it’s bad enough it’s made its way into our coffee, and now our weddings? 

    I have one thing to say to people who are not a fan of pumpkins, and that’s what the heck is wrong with you? 

    This color plan screams AUTUMN IS OFFICIALLY HERE. But more than that, it’s perfect for an outdoor wedding and blends in with the changing scenario around you. You can add mini pumpkins, hang sage around the tables, use leaves for decorations on cakes and other desserts, and your bridesmaids will have multiple options and still look amazing standing next to each other.

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    Cardinal Red and Pineapple (cr: The Knot)

    Have you noticed that all significant restaurant chains (Mcdonalds, Subway, In-N-Out) maintain yellow in their logos? It’s because yellow captures the eye, and what better bolder color to pair it off with more than red? They’re both vivid, beautiful, eye-catching colors, and they know how to make the room pop. There are hundreds of options to choose from! Whether you decide tropical, floral, or even rustic, it’s a perfect way to bid summer farewell. 

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    Shades of Purple

    It’s always been said that purple is the color of royalty. In fact, Queen Elizabeth I forbade anyone except the royal family to wear it. That’s because the purple fabric was so expensive back in the day, that only royals could afford to buy it. 

    But now, you don’t have to be royal but you sure as hell should feel like one on this special day. Think shades of cranberries, raspberries, blueberries, blackberries, plums, and even eggplants. Go all out with purple drinks, purple desserts; the choices are endless!

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    The three shades of purple are red-purple, purple, and blue purple and are complemented well with splashes of navy here and there. 

    Peach and Charcoal (cr: Martha Stewart Weddings)

    When I first saw this color combo, I was definitely hesitant, but it only took me a minute to fall in love with the concept. It’s classy, dark and moody, and the peach stands out and somehow brightens the whole room while adding a humble feel to the atmosphere. 

    At least, that’s what I got out of it, but then again, I’m not Martha Stewart. 

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    Just look how beautiful that is? It’s begging for some props and group photos!

    Muted Rainbow (cr: Wedding Wire)

    One of my absolute favorites! I was skeptical when I first read the word ‘rainbow’ because it would seem like no one wants all those colors all over the room, especially at a wedding. But by changing these bright colors into darker versions, you get a beautiful array of colorful options for you and your bridesmaids. 

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    It’s the ultimate color scheme for a fall wedding, it’s hip, it’s cheerful, and there are no limits to what you can do.