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The Importance of Sharing a Surname with Your Kids: What to Consider
The Importance of Sharing a Surname with Your Kids: What to Consider

In today’s evolving landscape, many people are thoughtfully deciding to keep their maiden name after marriage. The reasons are diverse and deeply personal, often stemming from a desire to maintain independence, preserve a professional identity, or simply avoid the societal pressure to change. Some feel a strong connection to their birth name, seeing it as a vital part of their identity that they wish to preserve.

But as families grow and children enter the picture, a new question often arises: Will your children carry your last name, your partner’s, or a combination of both? While the decision about surnames is entirely personal, it’s widely recognized that having a different last name from your children can present unique considerations and, at times, unexpected challenges.

It’s widely known that having a different surname from your children will produce a few problems. The most prominent one (which is actually not that big of a problem) would always be correcting people’s assumptions about you. Most people will assume you’re divorced, considering that your child has a different name than yours.

Everyday Perceptions and Identity

Perhaps the most common experience is the frequent need to clarify assumptions. When your child has a different surname, people may often presume you are divorced or not the biological parent. While this isn’t a “major problem” in the grand scheme, consistently correcting these assumptions can become tiring over time. As children grow older, they become more observant. They might notice that their surname doesn’t match yours, leading to questions about family identity. While many parents are comfortable addressing these inquiries, it’s a conversation worth being prepared for.

Considerations for Travel and Official Situations

Beyond daily interactions, more significant issues can arise, particularly when traveling internationally or dealing with official documentation. Consider the experience of Hannah Marshall, who was stopped by border control because her daughter did not share her last name. She was suspected of attempting to abduct the child. This highlights a serious concern: authorities are highly vigilant about child trafficking and abduction.

Due to these safeguards, if you’re traveling with children who have a different surname from yours, you may be asked to provide additional legal documents. This could include:
- The child’s birth certificate (listing both parents).
- A consent letter from the other parent (if they are not traveling with you).
- Your marriage certificate or divorce decree, depending on the situation.
UK Home Office clarified this procedure is in place to safeguard children, but it can lead to significant delays and stress if you’re unprepared.

Administrative Hurdles: School, Medical, and Legal Forms

The surname difference can also introduce minor administrative complexities in various aspects of your daily life:
- School Applications and Emergency Contacts: When enrolling children in school or filling out emergency contact forms, a name discrepancy might prompt extra questions or require additional proof of your parental relationship. In an emergency, schools are more likely to verify identity with a matching surname, potentially causing slight delays.
- Doctor’s Visits and Medical Consent: At a doctor’s office, you might face additional scrutiny when providing medical consent or accessing records if your last name doesn’t match your child’s. Having readily available identification that links you to your child (like a birth certificate) is crucial.
- Parental Consent for Minors: For situations requiring parental permission, such as a teenager applying for a learner’s permit at the DMV or seeking job employment, you may need to provide robust documentation to prove your legal relationship. While these issues are generally resolvable, they can become roadblocks without proper preparation.
These scenarios, while often manageable, underscore the importance of understanding potential complications and ensuring you have all necessary supporting documentation readily available.

Making Your Informed Decision

Ultimately, the choice of surname for both parents and children is a deeply personal one. There’s no universal “right” answer, and families are increasingly embracing diverse naming conventions. However, being aware of the potential practical implications—from clarifying assumptions to navigating border control—can help you make an informed decision that works best for your family.

Whatever path you choose, remember that HitchSwitch is here to simplify your name change needs. Whether you’re considering adopting your partner’s surname, creating a new hyphenated name, or ensuring consistency with your children’s last name, our service provides the customized forms and step-by-step instructions to make the process as seamless as possible.

Ready to simplify your name change journey? Let HitchSwitch take the stress out of updating your identity, ensuring all your documents reflect your chosen surname with ease.
April 3, 2019
Healthy Habits for You and Your Partner

Do you know when you’re sitting on the toilet and scrolling through your Instagram and see a video with an elderly couple talking about how they’ve been married for 50+ years? How somehow they’ve cracked “the code” to a long, healthy, and fulfilling marriage?

And you’re sitting there thinking, “how the f— did they do that?”

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Those people are my heroes because while marriage is a beautiful experience, it is undoubtedly difficult to keep afloat sometimes. Some days, you have calm waters and a relaxing sea breeze, and others are filled with storms and waves ready to drown you.

There are simple strategies you can engage in helping maintain a healthy relationship. Here are some of our favorite small habits that will make a huge difference.

1. Set in Motion Your Emotion

I’m going to let you in on a little secret. Being emotionally connected to your partner is far more important than being physically connected to them (AKA sex). If you’re in it for the long-run, then establishing an emotionally connect is very, very important. According to Marriage, creating this bond will not only strengthen your communication skills, but will also help build respect, better sex, and a sense of security.

How to build that connection?

Just don’t keep any feelings from your partner. If there are any problems, never shoo them to the side. Always talk about how you feel and get it out in the open. Don’t let the work-life dominate your relationship; always have one day of the week dedicated to your partner. Just because you’re married doesn’t mean you can’t get out there and have fun.

2. A T-Rex was Once an Egg

This was my grandpapa’s way of saying, “the little things matter, you dipshit.”

I can’t speak for all women, but when my husband sends me a hearty text with a bunch of kissing emojis, I smile like a bumbling buffoon. We’ve only been married for three years, but it still gets to me. His job requires a ton of physical labor so the fact that he found the time to shoot me a message just reminds me of why I married this guy in the first place.

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It doesn’t have to be a text. It could be buying them lunch, surprising them at work, sending them flowers, cooking them dinner, and leaving post-it notes with flirty messages all over the house.

The little things keep the sparks flying, trust me.

3. Communicate EVERYTHING

By everything, I do mean the good, the bad, and the ugly. As a married couple, we always want the best for each other, and whenever something grand happens, we tell each other right away.

But what about those difficult conversations that we would rather not talk about? It could be stress, body weight, anxiety, car troubles, and even a pile of unpaid bills. The conversations that are a must have are usually the ones we don’t want to discuss at all.

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If you’re having trouble starting a difficult conversation with your partner, Very Well Mind has a wonderful article full of incredible advice and helpful tips.

4. Knowing When You’re in the Wrong

Me: “I would like to buy a Y.”

Pat: “There are three Y’s.”

Me: Is it “I’m Sorry You Feel That Way”?

Your relationship is not perfect.

Fights will happen where you will argue and cry and yell. When you are the one at fault in an argument, don’t apologize in a way that makes your partner feel that their emotions are irrelevant (refer to quote above). Please don’t be that dumb.

You always want to be empathic when apologizing. You need to recognize that you’re in the wrong and let your partner know that you will change your behavior and fix your mistakes. Unsolved arguments lead to more complications and buried emotions. That’s uncharted territory, and we do not want to go there.

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Dedicating Time for Each Other

I know it doesn’t need to be said and you should be dedicating time for your partner every day. Unfortunately, life gets in the way, and sometimes, we’re too busy even to call to say ‘hello.’

Planning to see a movie, going for a stroll in the park, visiting some close friends, and even cuddling are great ways to show your partner you’re there and you care.

March 27, 2019
Financial Tips as a New Married Couple

You know that part in every wedding ceremony where the priest or rabbi or best friend goes, “…to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health…” and you’re standing there thinking “please God, the richer and health part sounds amazing, let’s go with that”.

I’ve been there, you’ve been there. Let’s be honest, here.

It boggles me when people compare marriage to a trap because it only feels that way if you let it. Yes, marriage is a compromise, and you need to give it your all, blah blah blah. I’m not here to play the marriage counselor.

Marriage is an incredible experience that requires you and your partner to share everything you have, physically, mentally, emotionally, and financially.

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So let’s take a look at that last part there.

Money management between spouses is a heated topic and will 99.9% of the time in an argument and someone sleeping on the couch. Incorporating your partner’s finances into your own is a difficult step that will take time, effort and a lot of understanding. Before marriage, you were both individuals spending money; however, you wanted.

But now, you need to figure out how to balance that checkbook and develop new money-saving habits. Here are some tips to help you get started.

1. Talk About It

Having the “money talk” with your partner is like having the sex talk with your teenager. You don’t want to discuss it, but eventually, it needs to be out in the open. In every relationship, there’s always someone who is the CEO of money management. They deal with the store receipts, the bills, the spending, the taxes, and so on. Even if financing isn’t your strength, one of you needs to take on the role to keep track of what’s going on in your household money-wise.

Or should I say, Pennywise, haha.

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Once you figure out who’s in charge, it’s easier to talk about setting goals, how much money can be spent, and where that money should be spent.

2. Hold Yourself Account-able

So how are we doing this? Are we each going to have separate bank accounts? Joint account? An emergency fund?

When we first got married, my husband made the horrible choice to trust me enough to join our accounts. Boy, did that come back to bite him in the ass. Everyone has a way to deal with their emotions, and mine happens to be retail therapy, so don’t judge me.

Long story short, to teach me a lesson, he eventually created two separate accounts. Thanks to my excessive (but necessary) spending at Williams-Sonoma, I led my marriage into a financial crisis in just the first year. I was still spending the way I was when I was single.

You need to figure out what will work best for your particular situation. If you feel like the right thing to do is open a joint account, and both contribute to saving money, then go ahead and do that. If you feel like your partner is an impulsive buyer, and separate accounts will benefit you, then go ahead and do that.

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No matter what you choose to do, you need to agree on the monthly expenses: groceries, produce, electricity, gas, etc. These things are non-negotiable.

3. You Can’t Own a Jet if You’re in Debt

Even though I was the big spender in the relationship, my husband was the one who had more debt coming into the marriage. Having a massive debt will affect your chances of obtaining credit in your future. This will impact you when it comes to applying for a mortgage, buying a car/house, getting a job, and even buying a phone!

This is why you should consider paying off the debt together.

Do you need to pay for everything all at once? Of course not. Set up a plan that will prioritize what debt needs to be paid first. I know paying off someone’s debt, even your partner’s, doesn’t sound so hot, but there’s no way to tackle this alone.

The National Debt Relief has some greater starter tips to help you take your first steps.

4. Insurance Coverage

Like a good neighbor, State Farm is there.

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That was relevant, don’t fight me. We’ve got life, car, home, health, renter’s, and travelers insurance. It’s always best to know what type of insurance you and your partner have. After marriage, you might want to figure out what insurance to purchase together and which ones to keep separate. Some employers have insurance coverage in their plan so make sure to check yours out. For more information on how to find affordable health care insurance, check out Haven Life for further information.

5. Goals

What’s the point in saving money if you can’t spend it? Always set a goal to help motivate you to spend your money wisely. Is there a particular restaurant you’ve had your eye on that’s a bit pricey? An island you want to visit? A house on the market? When you have a motivation, you’re more likely to be wise with your savings. Stay on track and figure out how much you need to save every week (or month) for achieving your goal.

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Remember, it’s not going to be easy in the beginning, but practice makes progress, and progress makes perfect!

March 20, 2019
Homemade Valentine’s Day Gifts
Homemade Valentine’s Day Gifts

In our last article, we talked about throwing an incredible Valentine’s Day party, and I’m sure if you read that article, then your Valentine’s day party was the talk of the town. Now, while your local Target is probably overfilled with human-sized teddy bears at the moment, there’s always something about homemade gifts that hold more sentimental meaning to what love truly is. To save you time and trouble, we have picked a few simple ideas that will have your partner smiling from ear to ear.

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Valentine’s Day Mason Jar

“I am obsessed with Mason jars!” says the stay at home mom who spends hours scrolling through Pinterest every day. Let me tell you why Mason jars are the absolute best.
- You can use them to plant herbs
- Great for smoothies and juices
- Toothbrush/pencil/twine/buttons holder
- Prep salad in them and take them to go
- Overnight oats or puddings
The list is endless! For Valentine’s Day, here’s how you can benefit from a mason jar:
- Fill it to the brink with candy hearts, and you can use either a boutique of fake or real flowers. Your call.
- Handpick your loved one’s favorite chocolates and cut out paper hearts with sweet messages on them. You can choose to paint the jar pink or wrap it with a red glitter ribbon.
- Valentine’s Day goodies! This includes heart-shaped cookies, pink/red macaroons, sugar cookie hearts, Hershey’s Kisses, conversation heart cookies.
- Fill the jar of notes on why you love this person. Design the outside of the box with glitter, hearts, and both your initials. Anytime your loved one feels down; they can open a note and remember how much they’re loved.
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Heart-Shaped Bath Bombs

Even though bath bombs have been a thing since the 1990s, they only gained popularity in early 2018. After they blew up, I felt like they dominated the cosmetics industry. People were making bath bombs left and right. There was so many shapes, colors, and scents to pick from that you would have thought at this point, I would have tried one.

Creating your own bath bombs at home is an incredibly simple task. You can find the steps here and get creative! You can make them heart-shaped, cupcake shaped, and even in the shape of lips. You can literally find the mold for anything on Amazon. You can present them in a mason jar (obvi) or any acceptable container you have on hand!

If you’re planning on creating this gift for your partner, always remember bathtubs are fit for two (wink, wink).

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Scavenger Hunt

I know what you’re thinking. Who has the frikin’ time to create a scavenger hunt?

The answer is me, always me. I’m adding this to the list because it was my gift to my husband last year and he thoroughly loved it! If your loved one is a fan of riddles and finding things, this one’s for you, too! Every puzzle and hint was kept within the house, so it didn’t take long. I kept them short, simple, and sexy.

The last clue-which was really more of an answer-led him to a hotel where I had rented a room for the night. Rose petals everywhere, lavender scented candles, a steak dinner, a bottle of bubbly, a sexy film (Secretary), and err, that’s it.

Now I’m just waiting for someone to hand me the “Best Wife” award. Should be any minute now.

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Homemade Cake with Message

Do you love to bake? Does your house always smell like the holidays because of the cinnamon buns you’ve been baking? Do your neighbors continuously ask you for your recipes because your pecan chocolate chip cookies are the best damn thing they’ve ever tasted?

Then I want YOU to bake a cake with a loving message this Valentine’s Day. You know the phrase “The quickest way to a man’s heart is through his stomach”? Yeah, well, I’m here to tell you that the quickest way to anyone’s heart is through their stomach because food is fantastic and clearly essential to our survival. I just never understood how they made something as simple as food about men.

Moving on. If you’ve got a message for your loved one, then grab that frosting and get to writing. Then enjoy with a glass of red wine while cuddled under a blanket watching Pretty Woman.

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You + Me on a Tree

Click here for a visual. When I first stumbled upon Jamie’s DIY, I immediately thought “What the-,” because never in a million years would I have thought to use leftover firewood to make a memorable gift.

Did I believe it would be difficult? Most definitely. Was it? Nope. But it does require you to be patient and careful since you will be using a utility knife and woodburning tool.

The result is rustic, romantic, memorable, and a great addition to any room.

See? There are just a few ideas to get those wheels in your head turning. All simple, all significant, all made with love and appreciation. Regardless of what you choose to make, always remember that at the end of the day, the perfect gift is you being there for your loved ones.
February 13, 2019
How to Throw a Valentine’s Day Party

Holy moly, can you guys believe we’re already in February? I swear just yesterday was New Year’s, and I was toasting to a more productive year, and here I am wondering what the hell happened to January. Well, in the words of Anthony G. Oettinger, “Time flies like an arrow; fruit flies like a banana.”

Get it? One of the perks of growing old is finding anything and everything amusing.

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Moving on! Another month means another holiday and with all the heart-shaped cookies, balloons, and candies at every corner, I’m sure you can guess what holiday we’re talking about here. If I’m honest, I have never been a fan of Valentine’s Day because, um, hello, it’s dead set on shaming all my single people. A shame, I know, considering the history behind Valentine’s Day is a beautiful one.

But it’s become a commercialized holiday just like Christmas.

Damn it, America, you insatiable beast.

Alright, I’m done ranting, let’s move on to why I still think it’s a good idea to throw a party on this particular day. Personally, I don’t need a holiday to tell me to buy sweets and teddy bears for my loved ones because I already know I’m #blessed. The reason I love throwing a party is that I have tons of single friends who don’t know how to express themselves due to society’s ridiculous notion that being single is abnormal.

So I host a party and invite all my friends, regardless of their relationship status because even though this just another day of the year, everyone needs to feel like they’re loved.

So here it is people, this is how you throw a righteous Valentine’s Day party.

Invite (Almost) EVERYONE

Ok, I know what you’re thinking. Is it really a good idea to mix my single friends with my dating/married friends? And the answer to your question is yes, it a fantastic idea. This isn’t your “making out in a corner” or “get a room” kind of party, and it’s always best to make that clear when inviting people over. This is not your frat house college party, this is a gathering of your loved ones, and people need to be on their best behavior.

Is kissing off limits? No, I’m not a monster, but if couples wish to be passionate, then they can stay home.

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Now here’s who you don’t invite:

– That one friend whose sworn off men/women

– Jim, from accounting, whose mood kills party vibes

– Anyone who was dumped February 13

While you do want to be considerate towards everyone, you need to know where to draw the line.

Heart Shaped Invitations

Or cupcake shaped. Or bear shaped. Hey, be creative. If you’re feeling up to it, you can even send out personalized invitations to all your guests! Just make sure you send them out a week before, so you have an estimate of how many people RSVP.

Now, invitations are amazing because this is where you’re going to state the event, place, time, food, and my personal favorite, the rules.

What, a party with rules? Yes, those are the best ones, duh.

There will be singles at your party, so you need to make it clear that there is NO KISSING ALLOWED. At least nothing heavy and makes people wonder why they showed up in the first place.

But alas, an invitation is not a rulebook, so if anyone has any questions about the party, they should be able to contact you via phone or email! I once had a couple bring their kids and leave. Do you know where I am with those people now? I’m not. Because I cut people out the same way I cut paper hearts, smoothly and without complication.

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The point is, always know what’s allowed and what’s prohibited at YOUR party. For some, it’s a very sensitive day, and the last thing you want to do is hit a nerve.

Ariana Grande Your Place

I’m talking pink walls, pink hearts, pink plates, pink balloons, pink punch, pink lightning, etc. I guess you can pop a red in there somewhere. This one day a year is when you can go HAM on decor. Have heart-shaped balloons fill the ceiling, pick an array of red and pink foods such as chocolate cupcake with pink frosting, heart candy with messages (obviously), chocolate dipped strawberries, raspberry and strawberry punch, etc. Purchase red and pink curtains and cover up the walls.

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Of course, can’t forget the DIYs. Your choices are endless, and they’ll make great additions to your home even after the party is over.

Be Extra

Well, more than your usual extra. You want to go all out? Here are some bonus tips:

– Hire a professional photographer to snap pictures of everyone.

– Set up a Photo Booth with a hedgewall that says “I’m a Lover!”

– Set up a projector and play a few classic romance movies in the background.

– Piñata, Piñata, Piñata! With heart eyes blindfold!

– Goodie bags (be that badass host!)

– Palm reading!!

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There are just a few things you can incorporate into your party! No matter what you decide to do, the most important thing to add to any party is lots of love and laughter. I know that sounds like something out of a fairytale, but hey, it’s true.

XOXO,

Your Friends at HitchSwitch

February 6, 2019
New Year’s Resolution?
Forget It.

Can you guys believe the year is finally over? I say finally because while 2018 was overall a great year, I’m officially ready for a fresh start. I bought a gym membership a month early, and I did order a self-reflection journal off of Amazon that if I’m being honest, will probably never use.

The thing about New Year’s is that when the clock strikes midnight, most people think it releases some magical fairy dust that makes us more committed to any future goals. If only it could release some magic that reverses all the money I spent during gluttony season (AKA the holidays).

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So what’s it going to be this year? Are you going to finally join a gym? Buy a two hundred dollar juicer and go on a juice cleanse? Maybe you’re thinking of something more radical like starting your own band, stepping out of your comfort zone, and saying “I quit” to your asshole boss.

Been there, buddy.

New Year resolutions are a great idea, but if you’re not careful, they could damage your self-esteem as you move forward in the year. Like everything in life, creating goals comes with rules and a dozen questions.

Are you ready to achieve this goal or are you merely doing it for the sake of others? Is it something you’re passionate about? Are you 100% sure it’s what you want to do? Are you prepared to wake up every morning with this goal in mind? Is it going to make you happy in the long run? If Plan A fails, what’s Plan B? C? D? You need to know what your backup plan is going to be if things don’t assemble how you originally planned.

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If not, your confidence will derail as you fail to achieve your goal. Setting goals are not only necessary for a successful life but overall mental health. There’s plenty of science to back that up, but that’s an entirely different article. To avoid any future disappointment in yourself, here’s the one resolution that you need to make this year: promise yourself you won’t make any resolutions at all!

Yeah, I know it’s a new year, new start, new me, yadda yadda yadda.

See, here’s the thing. Research conducted by the University of Scranton found that only 8% of people actually achieve their New Year’s goals. Talk about a colossal fail.

But why is that?

Think of it this way. A year has 365 days. If your new year resolution is to lose weight or eat healthily, then your obliged to be motivated and eat healthy all 365 days of the year. Sounds worse when I put it that way, huh? I mean, We are only human after all. When we focus on one thing and always keep going back to it, it will eventually drain us.

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The best thing about being human is we lack perfection. For example, an In-N-Out opened near the gym I go to, so you know what I do after every workout? Yeah, order a number one with a chocolate shake and animal style fries.

I’m weak. It’s in our DNA. Being motivated every day is not an actual thing! In what world is that possible? There are so many alternatives that can motivate you and don’t require you to tire yourself out.

Here’s what to try instead.
- Instead of waking up every morning thinking I need to lose weight, wake up every morning being mindful of your surroundings, being present.
- Make a bucket list (I have ten, don’t ask)
- Follow monthly challenges that improve your physical and mental health.
- Try a new recipe every month if you want to be a better cook (Be the next Gordon Ramsay)
- Isolate yourself from society and technology three days of the month (camping, retreats, spa weekend)
- Commit to people, not things! Find who uplifts and supports you and make plans with them (coffee, dinner, hiking)
- Say out loud what you’re grateful for every night before going to bed (my job, my spouse, my perseverance)
- Practice self-acceptance (I am worthy, I am loved, I am enough)
Small goals lead to bigger goals! You need to accept everything as is in the present moment. Each day is a new start in which you can begin again and better yourself.

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No pressure to reach a goal weight, no pressure to make more money, no pressure to do anything. When you relieve yourself of all that pressure you piled on yourself, you give yourself a chance to relax, to breathe, and to make changes.

Here’s to a blissful, successful, and marvelous New Year! Cheers!
January 2, 2019
Five Things to Remind Your Spouse

Every. Single. Day.

Women. We love to be appreciated. It’s an ancient fact, really, and I’m pretty sure there’s some hardcore evidence to back up that statement. While it’s always nice to be complemented by random strangers and family members, there’s always that one person (looking at you, partner) whose opinion matters the most. We may not always hear it from them so sometimes you have to remind them why they’re so lucky to have you. It’s called self-appreciation, baby.

1. You can laugh all you want at the choices I make…as long as you remember you’re one of them!

I don’t know about the rest of you, but my husband likes to believe he’s Alexander McQueen when it comes to my choice of wardrobe. His sense of fashion heightens as soon as I put on a new piece of clothing. And when I say heightens, I do mean he points, snorts, and laughs.

Go ahead; laugh all you want at my yellow striped maxi dress. First of all, it was on sale. Second of all, it reminds me of bees and who doesn’t love those?? Plus, not everyone looks this wondrous in yellow so if anything, you should be thankful, buddy!

Don’t get me started about when I decide to try out a new recipe. My husband saw my cookbook open on “Beef Wellington” once and his exact words were, “Isn’t that dish out of your league?”

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A dish is out of my league. As if we share the same physical attractiveness.

The love of my life, everyone, please give him a hand.

Solution: The most mature thing you can do is remind him that you’re out of his league and if you can settle for him, you can sure as hell make Beef Wellington!

2. I know I’m a pain in the ass, but look at it this way: I’m the only person who puts up with the farting, burping, and 2 AM conspiracy theories…

You’re bloated, you got a tummy ache, or you simply have gas. Whatever reason, it’s not like I’m going to kick you out of the bedroom because of a normal bodily function. My love for you exceeds those reasons.

But even though it might not mean a lot to you, you farting every ten seconds and me putting up with it is undeniably courageous of me. In sickness and in health, we both said that, so here I am accepting you in sickness.

Now, you can’t sleep, and I don’t blame you, but then you get to thinking about the JFK assassination, Area 51, and the Illuminati. I’m all ears but…can we just watch this rerun of Friends?

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Solution: You may not know much about the fake moon landings, but you know you love your spouse to death so smile, nod, and repeat after me: “I know, right?!”

3. Your kids? All me. Your breakfast, lunch, and dinner? All me. Laundry? All me. Clean home? All me. Your eternal bliss and happiness? All. Me.

Seems a little silly (and obnoxious) to mention all of the above, but come on. You come home from a long day at work, and you’re greeted by one or two (three?) little rascals who have been waiting all day to show you their drawing of Barney the Dinosaur. Yeah, those sometimes angels came out of me so huzzah! The place is clean and sparkling, which I admit is rare, but look, I even made you your favorite foods!

Or at least I think it’s your favorite foods; you could be lying to prevent hurting my feelings…

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After dinner, we clean up, wash up, put the kids to sleep, and you can cuddle right next to me and tell me all about your day.

That is until one of the kids wake up…

Solution: Send the kids to grandma for a sleepover. I know that doesn’t have anything to do with your spouse, but just do it.

4. You will not find someone as brutally honest as me so yes, you’ve gained “some” weight and no, you’re not imagining it, sweetie. You’re officially going bald.

The best thing about marriage is no matter how cruel you may sound; your partner will always know you have their best intentions at heart. With that said, you can always come to me for anything, and I do mean anything. You can count on me to still have your back no matter what because anything I have to say will be said straight to your face.

Hey, it’s all love in the end.

Solution: Always end criticism with a positive note and tone. I found ending everything with “-but you’re still my number one guy” usually does the trick.

5. You can search the world inch by bloomin’ inch and you will never ever- I repeat EVER- find someone that will love you as much as I do.

Pretty self-explanatory but I would stress this one. I’m always going to be your best friend. I’ll watch over you as a mother would, I’ll take care of you like as a wife should, and I will cherish you as long as you keep reminding me how I’m the best thing that’s ever happened to you.

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Then again, that’s not really up for debate.

Solution: Start every morning and end every night with loving words and always make your spouse feel like the Superman to your Superwoman.

December 26, 2018