How to Find Yourself Again After Divorce


Sometimes, marriage doesn’t work out – and there can be so many reasons why. What we know for certain is that going through a divorce is a difficult and emotionally taxing experience. There are a lot of things to discuss and divide. It is natural to feel overwhelmed and uncertain about what comes next. After the dust settles, however, it is imperative to start thinking about how to get back out there and start living your life again. 


To help, we have put together some tips to guide you toward finding yourself again after a divorce. We know that getting back out there can be a challenging and sensitive journey. Though by giving yourself time to heal, creating a support network, and a few other tips, you will be able to move forward and create a new, fulfilling life for yourself!


Give Yourself Time to Heal

Time is one of our most valuable currencies. How we choose to use it can be make-or-break for so many aspects of life. It is so important to take some time to process your emotions and give yourself space to heal after a divorce. Divorce can be a distressing experience, and it is normal to feel a range of emotions when going through one. Anger, sadness, and even relief are common reactions people feel during this time. Because this is such a pivotal and emotional time, it is crucial that you allow yourself time to heal. Acknowledge your grief and work through your feelings before moving forward or entering new relationships.


Rediscover Yourself


After being in a marriage for any amount of time, it is common to lose touch with who you are as an individual – and more so for long-term marriages. When it comes to finding yourself again after divorce, it is important that you take time to rediscover yourself and your interests. By reacquainting yourself with hobbies and activities you love but maybe haven’t done in a while, you will be able to reconnect with your passions and the things that make you happy. 

And don’t stop there! In addition to doing things you used to enjoy, make sure to make room for trying new things. We are always growing and changing. In reflection of that, we recommend experimenting with new hobbies, taking a class and learning something new, or traveling to a new place. Doing old and new things that make you feel happy and fulfilled will help you regain your sense of self and build confidence during this vital time.


Create a Support Network


Going through a divorce can feel isolating. The person that was a constant in your life is no longer there. No matter how things end, it is natural to feel a sort of emptiness or lack in your life immediately after a divorce. In this tough time, it is essential to have people in your life who can provide you with emotional support. Reach out to trusted friends and family to talk and spend time with. The people that are closest to you will be more than happy to step in and do what they can to help you during this time. Sometimes, it helps to join a support group and talk to people who are going through a similar experience or have already gone through it and can provide clarity and perspective. Don’t feel bad if you are struggling during this time. Divorce is consistently ranked as one of the most stressful life events you can experience. It might help to talk to a therapist. Having a support network can help you process your emotions, provide perspective, and help you navigate the challenges of starting your next chapter.


Be Open to New Experiences


After a divorce, it is natural to feel apprehensive about putting yourself out there again. However, it is important to be open to new experiences and opportunities in life. After you have given yourself time to grieve and process and heal, make sure to hold on to that growth and momentum and try new experiences. Being open to new experiences will help with your continual efforts to move forward. Try online dating, attend social events, or join a club or group that aligns with your interests. By being open and putting yourself out there, you increase your chances of meeting new people and finding new, meaningful connections.


Be Patient


Healing doesn’t happen overnight. Getting back out there after a divorce can be challenging and frustrating at times. It is key to be patient with yourself and the process that you are going through. You don’t want to rush into new relationships or put pressure on yourself to find someone quickly. Remember that healing and moving on takes a lot of time and effort, so be gentle with yourself along the way! Take it one day at a time and know that it does, in fact, get better.


By HitchSwitch

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